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Archived questions from: October, 2011 (see latest in Virginity category)

Virginity: Help and advice

How can I make my first time more comfortable for us both?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Okay lets get to the point: I'm a virgin and me and my long time boyfriend have decided to go ahead and have sex (he's a virgin too). We have almost done the 'dirty deed' but I'm a chicken. I'm scared. I don't really know of what, but I'm scared. ...

My boyfriend has a timing plan set out for when we should have sex but I'm worried I wont be ready by then!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - I am worried my boyfriend is going to get tired of waiting to have sex. We are both 16. Both capricorns ;) . I love him n he says he loves me but i know how fast feelings can change so far we have been together for 2 months but we have known ...

Should I tell people I'm a virgin when I meet them?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4766 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - I'm 26 and still a virgin. I've not had many boyfriends, i'm quite shy and don't go out much - prefer saving money for holidays and concerts. Whenever i meet someone should I tell them i'm a virgin or not? Thanks...

Should I lose my virginity to a prostitute?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

25 October 2011 (M) - Dear readers, I would like to hear your advice on my situation. To put it bluntly, I'm a 24 year old virgin male. I could try to look good and say that I've been waiting for that special someone, or I'd be honest and tell you that I've never had t...

Does he want me as his girlfriend, or does he want no strings attached?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4768 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - i had known this guy for 4 months now. It all started during our 3 month volunteer duty. At first, i find him to be someone so quiet, serious and mysterious. People on the place where we both volunteered tried to pair and tease us. Soon we started ...

Where is my love?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

24 October 2011 (M) - Hi, i am looking for advice. I am 24 years old and I am a virgin . I am a very social person I have no problems talking to women I actually like it. I'm not bad looking and I have a good job. If I were a girl I would say I'm a good catch. But for ...

Is it okay to experiment and will a girl mind if her virgin boyfriend had a bj from someone else?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4767 days ago

24 October 2011 (M) - Im a virgin and for awhile ive been wanting to get a blowjob. Is this okay for me to do because ive always wanted to be in a real relationship before I started to experiment with sex. Will it be okay for me to experiment a little since im single ...

I don't want sex to hurt

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - I have a sex question?well like a 2 years ago I had a boyfriend that took my virginity half we tryed having sex but when he was putting it in he only put it halfway in it poped but we didnt do it cause I jumped out I guess it hurt me cause I wasnt ...

Was he that good? Is this normal? I'm horny and if he's not there, it's hard for me to feel pleasure from touching myself

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - First off, my age group is misleading, I'm a few days to 18. Anyways, about a month or so ago, me an my bf got intimate, not sex, but he did finger me. Ever since then, when I'm horny and he's not there, it's hard for me to feel pleasure from to...

Do I tell my fiance about this? Accident while Doctor attended to me. Does this mean I'm not a virgin?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3669 days ago

23 October 2011 (M) - Hello everyone. I'm a 24 year old virgin. I've never done anything more than kiss heavily. I'm perfectly fine and happy about that. I'm engaged to a wonderful girl who is just like me; needless to say we are insanely eager to get married and ...

Please be fair about this : I'm a virgin. How can I make it easier for me to find a girl without a sexual past??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4756 days ago

23 October 2011 (M) - okay, i have a problem and i would like some help if you guys have the time to give me some advice, is not the first time that i bring this question here, but i feel that the last time i didn't express myself correctly and only confused the readers, ...

How can I further improve my thoughts about myself and help my relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - Hello, So I guess I'll tell my story. I am 16 and my boyfriend is 20. (yes, i am aware of the age difference please do not comment on it) We've been dating for 7 months. We are both very in love with each other. I'm very insecure. I always belie...

Just lost my virginity. Now I can't stop thinking about sex.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - I recently lost my virginity. Me and my boyfriend have done it a few more times since then. Now I can't stop thinking about sex. I keep replaying the sex in my mind and I can't wait until we can get together to do it again. It is distracting to say ...

Sex with my younger boyfriend sucks. How much time should I give him to improve?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4768 days ago

21 October 2011 (F) - Hello, My boyfriend and I have known each other for almost a year. He is a very lovely and caring guy. He is also tall, handsome, dark hair, and muscular (ok he's really my type). He just moved from Poland to US when we first met. Since I came fro...

When will I feel comfortable with a guy, enough to overcome my fears?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

21 October 2011 (F) - I'm 16, he's 18. I'm still a virgin, and he wants to have sex. I know I'm going to get a lot of answers saying that I'll find the right guy, and that I should wait til I'm ready, but I really haven't done much of anything,in fact I've only kissed ...

I feel foolish being a virgin at 21

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

20 October 2011 (M) - I feel worthless because me being 21 and a virgin now that I look at it is foolish and pathetic. I was so blinded to actually think I was going to find someone to share myself with but now its really a fantasy. Women my age aren't looking for ...

Why didn't he want to continue?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

20 October 2011 (F) - Please, please, I really need your help. I have so many mixed feelings now that writing this is hard. I had recently gave my bf my v-card. It was unexpected to him because I've planned it all to my self. We've dated for a year and up til now, all ...

What to do when she is the more experienced one?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

18 October 2011 (M) - So there's this dude, we'll call him, simply, Dude who likes this girl, we'll call this girl Lady Friend. Now, Dude has never gone 'all the way' whereas Lady Friend is more experienced than Dude. Lady Friend and Dude have been friends for a wh...

27 virgin who has never dated. Is there hope for me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

18 October 2011 (M) - I am a 27 year old man who is also a virgin. I have never dated, never kissed never been in a relationship at all. All I have ever done is had cybersex and phonesex. If I ever do manage to meet a woman that wants to have sex with me I'm afraid I ...

He's so cold to me now we've slept together

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

18 October 2011 (F) - my boyfriend and i have been together for about ten months.we had sex after three months of our relationship,but that changed everything between us.he is so cold to me,he doesn't care to answer my calls and if he does,his response is so cold.he also ...

Do you ever get over a first love?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

18 October 2011 (M) - Do women get over their first love that they had sex with for their first time, or even if it wasn't a first love that they had sex with the first time?nEven if it has been several years since it took place? I would like to hear views from the lady...

I neeed HELP!!!!!! virgin about to make biggest mistake of his life!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

18 October 2011 (M) - My friend is 19 and a virgin. We are both going to the same college. He met this girl at a school party and she gave him head over the weekend. She later asked how many gilrs he has been with and he said 0. Her roomate is leaving this week and she ...

I promised not to have sex with her until we get married, but I cant help not trust her and think she will lose it to someone else!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

17 October 2011 (M) - My girl friend is 17yrs i love her so much, and i promise not to have sex with her until we wed. But am afraid she may lose her virginity to another because you cant trust most girls. What should i do. ...

How much did you regret not losing your virginity to your husband/wife?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

17 October 2011 (F) - Did you regret not losing your virginity to the person you're married to? How much? I'm torn between waiting until marriage (for religious and mostly nonreligious reasons) and just going for it with whoever I feel like. But I don't want to one day ...

Thinking of losing it with a friend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

17 October 2011 (F) - Hey everyone. I feel like my problem is a but out of the oridnary, but here goes. I'm 17 and a senior in high school. I'm also a virgin. I've had boyfriends before, but it just never happened. Anyway, my best friend (boy) is still a virgin too. ...

We both had sex for the first time last night but he lost his erection!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

16 October 2011 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for ten months today. And last night, we both gave each other our virginities. I am very tight though, it was our second attempt, But I finally had relaxed and found a position to get it in. I was in so much p...

B/f took my virginity and now I don't hear from him. Was sex all he wanted?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

16 October 2011 (F) - I,ve been dating my boyfriend for nearly four months now and last weekend we had sex for the first time! Wel it was my first time as i was a virgin. Since then he hasn't really texted me much except for wedensday night where he asked me away for the ...

How can I get less nervous about sexual things?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

16 October 2011 (F) - Recently, me and my bf started gradually doing more than just a soft kiss here or there. He's a gentle person (to me, at least xD) and he respects my boundaries, but I'm still nervous about these things, and talking about them, or hearing him talk ...

He seemed pretty disappointed. Even though he got real close. Does this happen often? How do I give him support over this?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4777 days ago

16 October 2011 (F) - Ok, so today me and my boyfriend got to third base. It was clear what his intentions were after a while, and I didn't really mind, I guess.... Only problem is, I couldn't...You know...and he seemed pretty dissapointed, even though he got me real ...

To me my wife is perfect. How do I help my wife to accept that I love her? she's still blaming herself for something that was not her fault, before we met.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

13 October 2011 (M) - I need advice on how to help my wife. We've been married a little over 3 years, have 1 daughter, and she is pregnant again with our 2nd. If our 2nd child is a boy we are going to stop, if it's a girl, we will have a 3rd trying for a boy. I ma...

Girlfriend is not virgin! How do I forgive her?

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

13 October 2011 (M) - i have a relation with a girl since march 2011. after 2 months when she come to know that i love her, she told me that she is not virgin. she cried the whole night and told me that she was force by her ex-boyfriend when she was having a severe ...

No condom for anal sex? Is it safe?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4777 days ago

12 October 2011 (F) - My boyfriend is my second boyfriend.. I am still virgin... and he is too. At this time, He wish something for his birthday. He wants anal sex :| at first I really do not agree about it but I love him I want to make him happy. I am a little bit ...

Do you view oral sex as "less than" regular intercourse? Why?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

11 October 2011 (M) - Do you view oral sex as "less-than" regular intercourse? I have dated a few girls in the past that readily admitted to giving head, but proudly stated they were still virgins. I have gone out with a few girls who blew me away, pun intended, by ...

Sex for the 1st time was painful and now I think I'm angry and don't want to talk to my boyfriend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

11 October 2011 (F) - I had sex for the first time yesterday and it wasnt what i expected at all. It was PAINFUL and awkward... although my boyfriend is great and tried to make me feel extra comfortable i still felt uncomfortable. Now I dont feel like talking to him but ...

Will the heartbreak go away?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

11 October 2011 (F) - How do I get over the guy I lost my virginity too? We've been together 7 months and we are about to break up because i am moving 4 hours away next week and it hurts so bad. I dont want another guy, thinking about doing the dating process again just ...

Problems with penetration.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

11 October 2011 (F) - I'm a virgin as is my boyfriend but only being 18 we haven't been in a rush to have sex, we both wanted me to be on the pill and I only got on that about a month ago, and have always just agreed that it'll happen when it happens. The other night ...

I'm a 19 year old virgin who has never had a girlfriend. How can I change both of these problems?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

11 October 2011 (M) - Here's all my relevant background information: - I'm a 19 year old virgin who has never even had a girlfriend. - I'm 5ft10 and weigh 150lbs. - I used to be a loser who was friends with losers. However, after I graduated high school, I abandon...

Should I not date people who don't share my beliefs?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4781 days ago

10 October 2011 (M) - I'm a christian and believe in no sex before marriage and i want to marry someone who also feels this way so should I not even consider being with people that aren't virgins and share the same belief as me because I will never be with them for the ...

All my friends said you bleed your first time but I didn't!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

10 October 2011 (F) - hi everyone.here is my concern. On March this year me and my bf had sex for the 1st time. I was a vagin till then..1st time it was so painful and i asked him to stop..so he did. after that we didn't have intercourse but he do fingering.but two ...

We have tried many times to have sex but my wife is still a virgin!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

10 October 2011 (M) - Me and my wife are ready to have sex, she's a virgin. So I try to be gentle, I try, she says her head starts to get pain, and I stop because I don't wanna hurt her. We have tried many times but every time to fail. I have tried many times but my ...

How do I stop letting him get his way?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

9 October 2011 (?) - Long story short: i (stupidly) slept with this guy and i lost my virginity to him (he doesn't know that). After i slept with him he said he wasn't looking for anything serious but because i liked him i agreed to sleep with him anyway. This goes on ...

We are both inexperienced...we've gotten up to fingering...what's next?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4731 days ago

9 October 2011 (F) - My boyfriend of 4 months and I are really great together, never have any serious arguments or anything. First serious relationships for both of us. Because of this we are both very inexperienced, he was a bit nervous at first but slowly we got very ...

Should I dump my boyfriend ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

9 October 2011 (F) - Should i dump my boyfriend ? I stayed at his place from thursday until yesterday and we argued on friday and saturday.we argued on friday because he wanted us to lose our virginity together,especially as it was his birthday.we couldnt though as i ...

Can I ask him if he's still a virgin?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4783 days ago

9 October 2011 (?) - Hey, Okay so there's this guy who I dated than we broke up because he still 'loved' his ex. We stayed friends, which eventually turned to something more than friends... This 'thing' continued for over a year, he asked me to be his girlfrie...

What should I wear for my first time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4783 days ago

8 October 2011 (F) - right then, I suppose this is a question mostly for the guys, but I think some girls' opinions would help too; basically, my boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time, I'm a virgin and he's not. I trust him implicitly (which i...

Is it normal to still be a virgin at 22?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4788 days ago

4 October 2011 (F) - Um ... I am writing this because I am not sure if it's normal. I am a young female (22 years old), kind of tall, OK-looking .. and I've never been asked out. Like .. ever. I was recently having a casual conversation w/ some of my peers...

Is a virgin more attractive dating material?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

2 October 2011 (M) - Hey everybody 2 quick questions mainly for girls do you believe that a virgin is more attractive as dating material than a non virgin and is an intelligent person more attractive as dating material than a dumb person?...

20 year old virgin and I can't open up to a guy!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

2 October 2011 (F) - I guess I'm asking this question to make sure I'm not the only one who feels this way...I'm 20 years old (still a virgin) and I've never been on a date. I would really like to go on a date/have a relationship with a great guy, but it never ever ...

I want to lose my virginity to him, but I hold back at the last second!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

2 October 2011 (F) - I want to lose my virginity to my LDR boyfriend. I'm physically and emotionally prepared to go through with it; I find myself daydreaming way too much about having sex with him... I'm completely sure he's the one I want my first time to be with. And ...

I'm a virgin and he's been with 25 people! I'm freaked out!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4785 days ago

2 October 2011 (F) - I,m still a virgin and yet a guy i,ve been seeing has literally done it all and he's only 22! I asked him how many women had he slept with thinking it would only be 3 or 4 he told me its about 25 people including 3 ways and 4 ways and a ...