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writes:Okay lets get to the point: I'm a virgin and me and my long time boyfriend have decided to go ahead and have sex (he's a virgin too). We have almost done the 'dirty deed' but I'm a chicken. I'm scared. I don't really know of what, but I'm scared. Can anyone give any advice to make this new thing seem more comfortable to me? I'd greatly appreciate it. I like the idea of sex. Don't get me wrong I'm ready for it. I've thought about this for awhile. I know I'm okay, but I'm scared. So advice would help. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (30 October 2011):
 The main thing is to relax and do it when you are ready. If you guys want to try to make it real special, maybe go away for the weekend to a B&B or a nicer hotel in an area that has some site seeing. Then, if you feel up to it one night, you can have the room to yourself and take your time with no interruptions. And, if you don't get around to it, then at least you had a fun trip right?
But, definitely take some time to explore each others naked body before having sex. Make out a little, cuddle, just get to know each other in a more intimate way will help you guys relax and feel more comfortable being naked in front of each other and getting ready for your first time. And ask your boyfriend to start off slow. Sometimes it can hurt for a women her first time, and if he isn't paying attention to how you feel it might not be a good first experience.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 October 2011):
 Stay naked together and explore each others bodies. Have oral sex. That'll help you get used to his body and vice versa, and feel more relaxed and comfortable about it.
If you're still scared then take control of things yourself. Don't set a plan where you say "today we'll have sex". Just go with the flow of things instead. If you one day want to go a bit further ahead, then do that, if you don't want to then don't. Sex for the man will be great sort of no matter what. Just make sure you cuddle with him afterwards and have foreplay. The rest is in your hands, you are the one who are scared after all. Things need to go at your pace.
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