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writes:My girl friend is 17yrs i love her so much, and i promise not to have sex with her until we wed. But am afraid she may lose her virginity to another because you cant trust most girls. What should i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAm so impressed on the replies to my question. I appreciate your concer about my worries, and am happy now, bcs am doubt free. Thanks
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (17 October 2011):
 If you can not trust her do not consider marrying her.
If she is a virgin on your wedding night, but is not trustworthy, that is no guarantee she will remain faithful to you.
Marry for the right reasons to someone who is worthy of your trust and someone you can be trustworthy and faithful to as well!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 October 2011):
 Break up with her if you can't trust her. That's the basic of it. If you can't trust her then I do not see how you and her will ever marry. And even if you take her virginity and marry her I do not see how that would prevent her from ever cheating on you. If she's a cheater then she's a cheater, virgin or not.
But if she isn't a cheater then she wont cheat on you, no matter if you have sex with her or not or marry her or not.
Either you trust her or you don't, it's that simple. If you don't trust you break it off. If you want a relationship then you'll just have to trust her out of the good will in your heart. There were never any guarantees in love. No one can say you wont get hurt, but no one can say you shouldn't trust her either.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (17 October 2011):
 if she knows you love her and that you have told her that she is worth saving for marriage, that she is that special that you value her above the rest of the girls out there. you need to let her know that she is worth waiting for. you two will need to build trust toward each other. if she did go out and cheat on you you would know that she may not be the one for you then . if she has not given you any reason to worry , and she feels the same way about you. you need to put it out of your mind and focus on your relationship with her, and build trust with each other.i hope you two have a great future together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2011): You're really a good guy :)
I think its hard nowadays to find a guy like you.
My ex forced me to have sex with him when I was too young. I always reject it and that's make so many problems in our relationship. I ended up with him years ago.
And now my current bf of 2 years starting to want to have sex with me, but he is not forcing me to do so.
I thought all men are the same. They only think about sex.
Its good to hear that you choose to have sex after wedding.
You must believe your gf, as if she is not loyal to you, she's not worth it to become your wife.
I think she also appreciate your decision. Tell her and clarify why you take this decison.
Tell her that you adore her so much and you'll be hurt deeply if she lost her virginity with other guys that you think of her so much already.
If you really love her, says if she really betray you,then your desicion is just to show how much you love her.
Goodluck :)
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