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writes:Do you view oral sex as "less-than" regular intercourse? I have dated a few girls in the past that readily admitted to giving head, but proudly stated they were still virgins. I have gone out with a few girls who blew me away, pun intended, by stating, "don't think your getting sex on the first night; I'm not like that," and then proceed to blow me. Their mannerisms afterward made it clear that they did not expect, or even want, me to reciprocate. anecdotally, I have heard stories of girls who even have anal sex to keep their virgin status. (I have not been successful In Getting anyone to do this with me, so I wouldn't know personally).My question is, why do so many girls view having a man's penis in their mouth, all around their face, somehow less than having intercourse. It seems to me that it is much more intimate, and potentiLly much more demeaning, to bring someone to orgasm with your mouth and face, than just letting the nether regions do their thing while you stare into a pillow or at the ceiling. I would think getting a mouth full of cum to require a lot more trust than two people getting off together at the same time in regular intercourse. I know from a jealousy standpoint, it is much easier for me to deal with thoughts and images of the girl I love having intercourse, than some guy getting off on her mouth and that beautiful face.Why do so many girls/people view oral sex like this. Do you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2011): We don't have the right to judge someone for their sexual habits. But we have every right to find someone less attractive because of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2011): anyone who still claims to be a virgin after something like that is missing the point entirely (which i assume is to be seen as pure and innocent?). But it's a personal choice, if it seems right to them, then we can't judge.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2011): For me, seeing each other's private parts is crossing the line, once you do that you might as well have sex. It is laughable that some girls are giving head and saying they are virgins. I feel sorry for them.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (11 October 2011):
 It's because women who have a lot of sexual partners are frequently ostracized as "sluts" and deemed as having less worth than virgins or women with fewer sex partners. This way they can do what they want without being criticized/deemed less worthy.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 October 2011):
 First off, I would never let a guy blow his wad all over my face! EWWW! I may be in the minority, but come on! We girls put a lot of work into making their hair and face beautiful! Watch where you spray that stuff, would you boys?
(Rant over :P)
Regular intercourse is much more intimate than oral sex, in my opinion. The girls who are virgins who give oral do it because of many reasons. They don't want the guys to suffer for their choice in abstaining, and they believe that guys are after sex more than they are after relationships. If they care for the guy, they also want to make them happy.
The girls who have anal sex to bypass are just not smart. They're doing themselves great harm in order to avoid the stigma of losing virginity.
Truthfully, a girl remains a virgin until her vagina is penetrated by a man's penis. But this is technical, as people have pointed out.
However, in every way that counts, she's not innocent and mentally and emotionally has already lost her innocence. I especially believe that in the case of anal sex. It's really way easy to slip and go into the wrong hole, so to speak, and when that happens, virginity over!
By the way, it's EXTREMELY rare for two people to get off simultaneously through intercourse. Many women don't have orgasms that way.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 October 2011):
 deep sigh... these are what I call technical virgins.
sorry, sex is sex
oral SEX
anal SEX
vaginal SEX
sexual intercourse.
I think anything involving my face is more intimate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2011): It's called exploiting a technicality. Some girls like getting the social benefits of giving out easy sex, and then hiding behind the definition of sex to avoid the social drawbacks.
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