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writes:I'm a virgin as is my boyfriend but only being 18 we haven't been in a rush to have sex, we both wanted me to be on the pill and I only got on that about a month ago, and have always just agreed that it'll happen when it happens. The other night however, we did try, he had given me oral for quite some time beforehand, which nearly every single time he gives me oral sex I orgasm at least once. I was well self lubricated, we also used plenty of lube, but with a lot of patience he couldn't get his penis in. Which the mood was good, we were completely alone, and he took it really slow, when I let him actually try harder, I had a lot of pain, but he says he thinks the head of the penis went in? I dunno, but I also think that the angle of my body probably wasn't the best because when I got frustrated and we gave up I fingered myself and realised the angle in which he was pushing it in was just forcing into a mass of muscle. What's the best angle/position for losing your virginity?I am very tight, I've done a lot of research and wondered if I was 'too tight' and would need a dilator or something but I've read those women who are that extremely tight cannot even insert a finger? I can comfortably be fingered with one finger, two of my fingers also fine, two of my boyfriends fingers however it does get a bit uncomfortable and a little painful around the opening of the vagina but with lube it's fine. So seeming as my boyfriend can finger me with two fingers I'm hoping there isn't some condition I have?Any advice on this, I am keen to eventually have sex one day, I don't expect it to be without pain the first few times, but I just want to figure this out,st few times, but I just want to figure this out.
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reader, Lolly_Poll  +, writes (12 October 2011):
I lost my virginity to my boyfriend a few months ago. I'm 17. We found him on top was better, so he could guide it in, but I trust him enough, that he stopped when i asked him. Just be persistent, go gentle. The more you worry about it, the more you'll stress, and be tighter. Another good position so i've been told, is you on your back, with a pillow under your hips. Makes the angle better :) Have fun, be safe :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2011): it is very simple and almost all women do it for their men.
i.e guide him yourself to the right place.
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reader, GhostChild +, writes (11 October 2011):
 Sex is generally always painful the first time.
The best thing for you two to do is to use a lot of lube and take it very slowly.
I think you'll find the best position will be with you on top. As the girl, you'll have more control over the speed and the angle at which the penis goes in. Just remember not to rush things, take things easy and slow, and yes there will be pain the first time. And don't freak out if you see some blood either, that is very much natural.
Just take it easy and after a few times you'll find that it starts to go in easier.
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