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Archived questions from: September, 2014 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

I've got my wall up and I don't want to let anyone in, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3740 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I had been with my man for 2 years before we broke up and I went travelling for a year.. Got back a month ago and we've hung out for the entire weekend every weekend since I've been back and have been hooking up.. I still have feelings for him and I ...

I would like to reconnect with my ex. Is it significan that he never changed his passwords when we brokeup?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3741 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - hi...i wanna know about my ex...we had broken about 2years but i still love my ex and i wanna get him back... i don't know his mind but he never changed all of the pass the accounts password even when we were apart...he blocked my acc but he never...

Not interested in being his easy option. But do you think he'll think I led him on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3741 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid My brother in law recently tried match making me with a single friend of his! This guy started messaging me and things began to flow. He started off pleasant enough but the messages soon started to turn very flirtatious! He kn...

Is he stringing me along? Or is his mother encouraging him to make contact?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3742 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Two years ago, my first bf and I were in contact and somewhat talking in good terms as friends. I attended his brother's funeral to show my respect to his family and himself since we were in a relationship together for close to 5 years and I have ...

Attended his farewell party. Should I tell this guy that I don't want to hook up with him again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3739 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I hooked up with a dude acquaintance/friend at his goodbye party. My question is, he let me know he's coming back to town for a visit this coming weekend and I don't really want things to go down that path again. Is that something I shou...

Is my husband of 20 years getting ready to have another affair?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3736 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - my husband has contacted an old flame on facebook said he has been very happy with me, but after 20 years things are not what they used to be. He told this person he has been searching for her for 20 years and has never been so happy to see anyo...

Six months together but he's not ready for sex? Is he worth waiting for? Or should I move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3741 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I have been friends with a guy in my class for about six months. He has made it obvious that he found me attractive from Day 1. We became friends and started hanging out. During this time, he has always initiated affection (hugs, kisses, etc), yet ...

Am I weird for totally enjoying myself at a strip club with my Bf?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3741 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I got drunk with my boyfriend of two years last Friday and suggested that we go to a strip club. It took him a while to come round to the idea but we eventually went. Well even when I was asking him I thought I'd probably end up getting jeal...

My Bf of 3 years still sees the friends he mixed with back when he did take illicit drugs. Is it wrong to expect him to cut ties with them?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3741 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Here's the situation: I'm very anti-drug and when I met my bf of 3 years, he told me that he was a recovering addict, clean for the last 7 years and that he was over it. So I was fine with it. The problem is that he still hangs out with frien...

Are there major differences to how I touch a guy who is uncut versus cut? have never been with an uncut guy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3741 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I've been on a few dates with this guy, who I am pretty interested in, and as we've went along, we've started to get a little hotter and heavier with every interaction. Well, I've wanted to maybe progress the makeout sessions to a handjob, but I fo...

Clean now and sober for 23 months. How can I show these people that I've changed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3740 days ago

29 September 2014 (M) - When I was in my early 20's I began a bad habit that got me hooked on drugs (pills) and alcohol. I was able to hide it from almost everyone I knew. I met an amazing girl “T”, who had no idea what she was getting into and I thought I could ju...

Hardened intuition- trust or not??

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - My long distance boyfriend (we are in our late 40s) insists that he is fully committed to me, is exclusive and has plans for us to retire together In 10 years... He was married for a year when he was 19 then played the field as a partying bachelor. ...

I haven't told him about the baby for fear of rejection

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3740 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - my baby is two weeks old. in all honesty, i had a lot of doubts and had actually considered adoption because i was so unsure about being a mother. everything changed the moment i met him and I'm happier than I've ever been. he's so perfect. i had ...

After we married I found out she'd been a call girl

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

29 September 2014 (M) - A year and half ago i happen to know a girl through her relative. She was living in Singapore and i was living in UK. But we both were from Nepal(asian country). She was there since she was 8 or 9 living with her parents and two siblings. Her ...

Can this be fixed? Broke up. Reconnected for 1 night. But says we're done as he can't trust me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - I need advice. I split with my boyfriend of a year a couple of months ago and flitted between getting back together and then not doing so. (I was going through a big depressive episode a and he was finding me difficult.) I also kissed someone whil...

Is there any other way to handle the situation considering how strict my parents are?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hello :) This guy really likes me and he even said "I love you" to me and I'm actually really into this guy. We started off really good friends and we found that we have a lot in common. We actually tried dating and it lasted for 7 months but a...

Sex with Guy at work. Do I try to dodge her questions or tell her the truth, and lose her as a friend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - So a few weeks ago I had sex with a guy that I work with, it was just a one time thing as we are just friends and I was leaving the job and we both wanted to have sex with each other. However now I feel really guilty as one of my close friends real...

Has my GF moved on, or can I restart and save our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

29 September 2014 (M) - Hey friends..my gf has been annoying me for the last few weeks. she has also been spending time with a new male friend, because i refused to have sex with her last time as i was not feeling well. Is she teasing me or something else?please do sugge...

We've lost our mojo. He's no longer affectionate. How can we revitalise our 13 year marriage? .

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hi Cupid. I have a relationship question. My husband isn't very affectionate and is embarrassed my romantic gestures even when I make them. We have been married for 13 years and I feel like we've lost our mojo so to speak. Couples counsel...

How can I encourage this girl to want to show more interest in me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3742 days ago

29 September 2014 (M) - I'm fond of a girl.. She is in my school and we've known each other for 5 years. I love her. Though she didn't know about this till a few months back. In grade 6, we used to sit together as our teacher had made it so.. I stood 1st then and she...

3 wishes: want him to treat me better, be more passionate, and erase his tattoo. Too much to ask for??

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3739 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He's wonderful man. We are both 25 and he's going to proposed me and give me that hint ( asking me about the engage ring that I like and accidentally told me that he's going to marry me next year). ...

Should I reconsider? And try to work things out with him? Or move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3742 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hey all so my boyfriend and I have been off and on for almost 2 years. Here recently we broke up and he moved on. He took his new gf around his friends like 2 or 3 times. Well he broke up with her 2 weeks ago and decided he wants us to work thi...

I don't know how to get past this, and I'm not willing to stay in this relationship if he wants to keep her in his life.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - My fiance and I are together since our late teens, and before I met him a girl he wasn't even dating gave him oral sex. She is certainly not a pretty sight and I don't mean to be bitchy. He said he never felt anything for her, he just agreed to let ...

My older boyfriend said horrible things so I would call him! Do I end the relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

28 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend is lovely sometimes. He is so loving, caring and has a good sense of humour, but he says horrible things sometimes and takes things too far. He really took it too far over the last couple of days. He was angry with me because I haven'...

Why does she keep sending mixed messages?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

28 September 2014 (M) - I have fallen in love with a women 6 hours from me. She has told me how much she loves me and when I asked her to move here with me in my home, she said she cannot due to her girls. She said she cannot have what she wants right now. Then she goes...

Is this rare that I love a set of feet? I'm fixated about my Aunt's feet.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

28 September 2014 (M) - I love a set a feet. I have never heard of a person loving a set of feet. My question is I love my aunt's feet. Is this rare to love feet? Has anyone ever heard of a person really fixated on a particular part of the anatomy such as feet? What c...

My boyfriend thinks I'm bad at handling money! How can I change his opinion of me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

28 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend thinks I'm bad at handling money and I don't know how to change how to change his mind. He is 22 and I'm 21. I think I'm ok at handling money. Not great but ok. I constantly have not much money because I'm living on a student loan but I ...

My LDR has admitted to ongoing cheating. Do I fight for us or sit back while he leaves me for the other girl?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend of 4 years just told me he cheated on me...by text message. He met this girl, got her number, has been hanging out with her, going out in groups, hanging at her house, and having sex with her. He told me and seemed to think that since ...

How can I possibly introduce my husband to a man who tried it on with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - So I am in a predicament and I don't know what to do. About six months ago, I had a row with my husband and went out to my friends party and got really drunk. My friend's husbands rather ugly best friend was at the party, he was really drunk too and ...

I have a feeling he's being unfaithful -- what do you think?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - Okay. So I've been in a relationship for a little over two years. Right at the start of our relationship I had a gut feeling he was lying to me and seeing someone else. I was right. But I will never feel like I really know the true story because he ...

Do I ask him about the condoms in his trash?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - I feel like a complete idiot for even asking this, but would you ask your boyfriend why he had a couple of used condoms in his rubbish bin when you have been away for a few days and you don't even use condoms?! I went away for a five day mini br...

Please help me! Is my fiancé abusing me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - So my fiancé thinks that its okay to look at girls who are way skinnier than me and then gets mad when a guy looks at me in a good way. He consistantly will do this right in front of me then tells me that im an attention whore and wants me to wear...

Recently saw my Mum, when she was younger, in a commercial film, where she was topless. It has grossed me out. How do I get over this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

27 September 2014 (M) - I'm grossed out after knowing my Mum did a cameo topless scene in a film? Recently, I saw my Mum topless in an old movie. It was a cameo appearance but it shocked the hell out of me and disgusted me. I don't know how to deal to with it. ...

Old flame returns! What to say or do? He wants to be friends but he doesn't want his wife to get hurt??

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - I was contacted by my first love on facebook. He said he was happily married on facebook as am I; Our relationship was 33 years ago. We dated as teens and were in love till he went away to school he said we should date others and didn't want t...

Is he making enough effort in this LDR? He is reluctant to visit me. Why?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - I go to the school about an hour and half from where my boyfriend (of two years) goes to school. Recently I've been getting more and more frustrated with the amount of traveling I have to do to see him. I've traveled to see him 4 times now and he ...

What is appropriate? What type of support would be suitable to offer to a friend who has been diagnosed with oral cancer?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - Someone i know has recently been diagnosed with oral cancer, can you offer advice?. This is difficult for me to talk about. A man i know was diagnosed with oral cancer three weeks ago. The tumour is near his jaw. I am friends with this man, but ...

Why are people trying to match make? I enjoy flirting and dating but no exclusively. But don't want to be available for sex. Is that so difficult?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3740 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - Please help me! I am so sick of people trying to play match maker but every group of friends I've had and even random co workers and relatives and people I go to church with are always trying HARD to set me up with someone. I have had a lot ...

I lied with a fake ID and fake photo. Now he knows the truth he's blocked me. What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - I love a guy bt I sent him fake photos and used to speak to him using a fake id. we are in a long distance relationshp for 6 months. He is the son of my friend and her neighbour.. He knows my sister because my sister lives same place as my friend...

I don't want him to be friends with women he used to sleep with

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3746 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - Question I'm in love with my boyfriend (of a year and a half)and we have have a great relationship besides the fact that he is really close to some female friends of his and one he is really close with that he use to date(sleep with)! He has a lot ...

My fiance has lied to me and I've lost trust in her. Can this be fixed?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

25 September 2014 (M) - My Fiancée and I have been together for over a decade and have had two kids together. Like most relationships, we've had our ups and downs. A lot brought on by me working away from home and perhaps not doing as much around the house when I get ...

Should I Tell My Friend About her Friend Quizzing Me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3745 days ago

25 September 2014 (F) - I recently went to an event to support a friend. While I was there I spoke with two of her friends there who were a couple. The wife started asking me multiple questions about my friend including her work schedule. I simply said I didn't know her ...

I met my boyfriend when he was my personal trainer and can't help worrying he might meet a new girl the same way!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3747 days ago

23 September 2014 (F) - I met my boyfriend when he was my personal trainer and taught the classes in my gym. We got along really well and became friends - started taking a yoga class together. There was a lot of sexual chemistry between us and eventually we gave in. He ...

LDR since Dec 2013. Plan to see each other in 2015. So why did she get upset about talk on intimacy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3748 days ago

23 September 2014 (M) - Hello, My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship since Dec 2013. We met online and in one month, we will finally meet in person. She will introduce me to her family and relatives, and well even be going to an island resort fo...

What to do? I can't forget him. Yet now I am not the sort of girl he would go for.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3748 days ago

23 September 2014 (F) - *Am currently in a long term serious relationship* When I started high school I was instantly attracted to this boy who was not in my circle of friends or in any of my classes. He just started saying "HI" to me every time he saw me. In high school...

Should I visit him? LDR going wrong. Are these signs evidence that he does not care enough?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3746 days ago

22 September 2014 (F) - I ve been in a relationship with this guy for 7 months now. He's an athlete and used to play for my country. When we first met,i just came out of a relationship and had no interest in starting a new one,but he was so understanding and gave me time...

How can I let go of my fears and just trust my boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3749 days ago

22 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I are currently long distance. He has never given me a reason to not trust him, we've never had even a fight, but I'm terrified he will cheat on me. He is in a different, nice country right now for a few months and I just am so ...

Why does he stay if I do nothing for him sexually?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3748 days ago

22 September 2014 (F) - Why would a guy who never initiates sex want to go on sites and chat 2 other women ? My partner of nearly 3 years isn't that interested in sex well not with me ... He gets Viagra from doctor and takes it but it always feels like it's staged never ...

I'm afraid he's cheating

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3749 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - Everything was fine 6 months ago he said he was.going somewhere and went off to where he said he was.going to see someone i asked him when he returned how it went but said they never turned up although he was missing few hours nw hes on phone ...

I wanted a relationship, but he wouldn't commit! Should I have waited longer?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3750 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - I wasn't expecting or looking to find anyone as I had got out of a serious relationship at the start of the year, but in July I met this guy through a friend. We just instantly hit it off, and we swapped numbers etc. Since the first day I met I ha...

Have a Mega crush on him. How can I get over him, and talk to him in a mature way?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3750 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - I'm just going to put this out there straight away - I'm 15 and the guy I am hopelessly head over heels in love with is 22. I think about him all the time, he's the hottest guy I've ever seen and I don't know what to do. He's totally out of my le...