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Archived questions from: October, 2014 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

He hides his phone when he gets a text?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3668 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - I have recently noticed the app 'Tinder' on my boyfriends mobile the other day, which made me think as this is a dating website and he has no reason to be on there as he is in a relationship. Another thing I have noticed is that whenever he gets a ...

Is our sex life suffering because of what he's doing on his phone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3679 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - My husband comments on my clothes if he thinks I look sexy in them, then there are days he doesn't even notice anything about me. Another issue is, he gets turned on by me, starts getting intimate, touches, undresses me, he gets sexually aroused,...

Did I cheat because of how he behaves on line?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - i have been in a relationship for 14 years. started dating him at the age of 17 him 27 now aged 31 and him 41. im confused. i cheated on him with a friend of ours. i have seen his facebook over the last couple of years with all porn sites and stuff. ...

Why is he being so dodgy about this friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3679 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - Hi all I need some advice. I recently found out A is coming back from US and visiting my bf whilst I am overseas. I have never met A and I know my bf met her through camp. A is currently studying in US. My bf initially kept it from me but somehow it ...

How can I tell him I'd rather have a piece of jewellery than chocolates as a present, and not sound ungrateful?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3679 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - So, on my birthday my boyfriend (of about 9 months) bought me chocolates, along with taking me out for dinner and dessert. I enjoyed it, afterwards we spent some time together on the beach and I acknowledge he did spend a fair amount of money on...

My Boyfriend and his ex-sister in law! I am incandesant with anger over this. What could or should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend slept with his ex sister in-law, so that now has a baby by his brother. I can't get over the past and I don't think I ever will. I hate that "BITCH" and she's part of their family which I can't stand!!!What should I do about this s...

Is it normal for a woman to be completely addicted to her man?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

29 October 2014 (M) - Hey everyone, I have been lately observing 2 of my friends and how they behave in their relationships, and I have been wondering a lot about whether this is the right way for a couple to be. The 2 examples (especially the 2nd one) are rat...

He's 14 to my 15. He had a Gf but broke up. Should I keep talking online to him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - There’s this guy at my school in the year below me and I've had my eye on him for a while (just thinking he's cute and what not), but when i found out my friend knew him i made a move and found out he had a girlfriend. We talked for a while an...

I orgasm when alone, yet lose the orgasm when with my Bf. Yes he's caring with foreplay. What needs to change?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - Hello ! So I'm having a issue with reaching an orgasm with my boyfriend . He's 5 years older then me and he's the best lover I have ever had ( I think it's because he's older ) but anyways I have never climaxed with anybody that I have been ...

I really like this guy, but I can't figure him out. Any tips please to help me understand?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - I've been hanging out with this guy I met in class. He's 23. At first, he would just text me about school stuff. Then, he started asking me to hang out with him. We would talk almost everyday and its mostly him contacting me first. So, the first ...

What can I do to create the spark we used to have? What needs to change?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3679 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - We've been together for 5 years and we lose that spark we had before. We almost argue and fight all the time and we broke up 3 months before and now getting back together again. But things have changed and so do our feelings. He said he doesn't ...

I do miss him. But first I want him to miss me. So HOW do I ensure that he really misses me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3679 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - Okay so there is this guy I like. recently we hung out and he told me how he thinks i'm beautiful and that he likes my personality. I like him a lot too hes really cool, and we seemed to have been getting a long just fine, but the problem is. ...

Should I go with girl A? But what can I do about Girl C's jealousy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

29 October 2014 (M) - Hello DC, it's been a little while. I need some help. Girl problems, as usual. Pretty wordy, this one. Sorry. There's a girl, let's call her Girl A. She's new to my life, but when I met her, I knew something good would happen. I had asked her ou...

Am I being a bad friend? I have a crush on her ex. But she has said that she likes him, but will never get back with him.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3678 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I have recently had sex with a guy and I'm starting to really like him, however he is one of my closest friends ex boyfriend.. I told her I kissed him once at a party and she didn't seem bothered at all but she also told me, weeks after that, that...

Why couldn't he be nicer to me? Should I ignore him, just as he did to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I am attending a course at university. I go to this course once every week with my friend. There is a guy that I like. Today in the end of course this guy talked almost all the time to my friend and not to me and also he gave his number to my fri...

Is my Boyfriend more likely to cheat because 4 of his friends are cheaters?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Four of my boyfriend's friends (both females and males) have cheated on their partner. Does that mean he is more likely to cheat?...

I don't trust him, don't accept his baggage, but he won't leave me alone

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

28 October 2014 (?) - Hello dearcupid, I've gotten great advice here before so now I'm back again. I have been seeing somebody for the last 10 months. I ended up falling deeply in love with him. He's the drama, when we first met it wasn't long before he found out she was ...

After her meeting with her ex I don't trust her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

28 October 2014 (M) - Hey guys, My relationship it was going great, we understood each other very well. She loves me but her x-bf is irritating her. He still thinks that they're together but they're not. We study in the same college and I went home for a week. She had ...

I resent her, and feel bad about not forgiving her, this time. Is it time to break up with her?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3674 days ago

28 October 2014 (M) - On Wednesday night I found out my girlfriend had been actively looking for someone on a dating site, after logging into the account I seen she was flirting/dirty talking with this other person, I confronted her the second I found it. We've been...

Seeking input on which is the better work option. Current employer or a change?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I am hoping someone can help me! I am currently a nanny and work 16 hours a week mainly working from 2.30 until 6.30 Monday to Thursday. I am also not on a contract. However, the family are moving abroad next August. They have asked me to work...

My Dad has told me he's disowning me for spending the night with my Bf. Feel incredibly hurt. What can I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I'm sorry if this post is lengthy and/or complicated. I'm 19 years old, and ever since I turned 18, I've been having more and more issues with my dad. My parents are divorced, and are very different from each other. My dad is very overprotecti...

Should I stay away from her until she's officially divorced? Right now she's separated.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

28 October 2014 (M) - So, this is a new one for me... There is this girl that I got acquainted with recently. We really hit it off well and have a lot in common. We do seem to connect well on an emotional level and she says that I bring out the best in her and stir ...

Is it normal for a boyfriend to mock his girlfriend for being pretty?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Is it normal for my own boyfriend to mock me for being pretty? I've always been insecure about my looks, especially when it comes to him. Although it's gotten much better now (been together for about 3 yrs), I always have doubts about how I look ...

Why are siblings so resistant to giving any support to our mother?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid,I am the second oldest child and I have four other siblings who just act as if they don't have a living parent.I can't get them to do a single thing for my for our mom everything has a price on it they won't go to the store without ...

How can the spark be returned to our relationship? What needs to change or improve?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3681 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Well, we've been together for 5 years and we lose that spark we had before. We almost argues and fight all the time and we broke up 3 months before and now getting back together again. But things has changed and so do our feelings. He said he ...

Since my parents divorced my mother has changed. Why does she continue to reject me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - My parents are divorced. It was a messy, painful battle, and my mother is the one who initiated it. Since then, she has moved away and changed into a completely different person. Her social life is so busy she no longer has time for me. And when...

Should I go along to the Doctor with my fiance when she visits the Doctor to talk about contraception?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

28 October 2014 (M) - Hi everyone. I am engaged to get married next year in june. It is about my fiance going to be using birth control. She plans to go see the doctor and get all that figured out. But when would be a good time to go to the doctor and should i go alon...

He's controlling and abusive. What's the best way to handle this situation?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Been with my partner almost five years, we have a four year old son together. For the last two years our relationship has been very rocky. It has been an unhappy relationship for me, since being with him he has stopped me seeing family and frien...

How did we go from an initial attraction to FWB and then to now, where he's making little effort to keep the relationship going?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3671 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - So, there's a guy (isn't there always) who I met at the end of my long term relationship. He's separated and in the middle of a nasty court battle re kids. He and I initially bonded over our dislike of our exes (great baseline, I know) and have dis...

How do I rise above the bullying and develop confidence in me and deflect bullying?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3661 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid I feel unsupported in life. I experienced poor treatment from my dad from the beginning of my time and my mom has never really praised me that much; I felt that both my mom and my dad saw the worst in me, unknowingly. They didn't se...

My Gf is seeing her ex, but has not told me. What is the best way of dealing with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Hi, My girlfriend is still best friends with her ex boyfriend, which I aren't really okay by, but I know that if I confront her about it then she will just say don't make me choose, so therefore that means that she will chose him over me. I woul...

Am I overthinking this? My friend wants me to accomodate her friends at my home. I don't know them and feel uncomfortable about her request.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Friends question. I got a bit bewildered to day by friend's request. She is my very good friend, I know her for 15 years. They have this friends a couple from a different city who comes on vacation to our part for New Year's Eve and stay for ...

Do I tell him that I have a crush on him and that I love him? I don't want to ruin our friendship.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I dont know what to do anymore. I am head over heels in love with my best friend and we have known each other since we were 6 years old. I now live in a different country from him and we dont see each other a lot. We might see each other at christm...

This man hardly knows me, so why does he keep on asking me out? I feel conflicted due to our mutual friend's illness

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Why does this man keep asking me out? This man is friends with a man that I like. The man I like has been seriously ill lately (he had an operation recently and was in hospital for a few weeks). This man has asked me to go out with him a few time...

Still mourning my ex who passed away due to suicide. How can I move on? And what to do about the crush I have on my tenant?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Lost my boyfriend a year ago through suicide. People are telling i should move on cause we were not married. In my heart i still miss him a lot. Recently ive discovered that im having a crush on my tenant, which is when my late boyfriend died i...

Why does she resort to passive aggressive and avoidance behavior?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

27 October 2014 (M) - Why does my girlfriend often resort to this type of behavior? She is an adult but I sometimes feel like she is stuck in the past. She'll try to lure me into making plans by giving me a yes or no option, but when the answer doesn't go along with he...

I worry this ex-girlfriend will try to hook up with my boyfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3681 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend is having a small house party with his three close friends (one is his male best friend, one is his super hot ex girlfriend and the other is a family friend he's known all his life and who has a boyfriend, I was invited too but my ...

My fiancè cheated on me with his ex! I am so angry at this woman, what can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3334 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid, I need to know what to do in my situation that I know im not the only one that is dealing. Ive been with a man for just over 2 years now. We are engaged. The problem is this: He has twin boys with his ex. Now I understand that ...

Met on holidays. Is it too early in our friendship to get him a birthday present?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3682 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I met this guy on holiday, he's in the army and is posted in Germany. But comes from the same place as I do. Just after I met him he was being deployed to Afghanistan for 3 months, we spoke everyday and he'd ring me sometimes too. After his ...

Met online. He's separated but still married. Did he break up due to me questioning him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3682 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I really need your advice here- I'm female (27) been dating this amazing man (35) who's separated but still married that I met online, -we went on four amazing dates (2 dinners, drinks and an art exhibition). We instantly clicked and we had amazing ...

Trying to process my 60 year old mother's cavallier attitude to taking a married lover. How do I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3682 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I'm having some issues with my mother right now. She called me tonight to get my opinion on if I would be okay with her sleeping with a man a few years older than me. I told her I didn't care about the age factor. Then I commented that a...

Can a married man fall in long with his mistress? Or is the lover just used for sex on the side?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Do married men only use their lover on the side just for sex only? Can they actually fall in love with their mistress, despite being torn because of the children? ...

Can you help calculate the maths to perhaps arrive at which guy is the likely father?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - This is kind of embarrassing but i just want an opinion im fairly sure i know the answer would like some opinions though. I am 6 mths pregnant. at the time of falling pregnant i slept with 2 guys. im fairly sure i know who the dad is but was w...

How do I get over these lingering feelings for J without losing him as a friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3675 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - It might be long, so please bear with me. I'll start off with some basics. I am currently 20 and my boyfriend is 21 years old (we'll call him K). We've been together for almost 3 and a half years, since my junior year in high school, and his...

My fiancé has been hiding our engagement because he's afraid of what his friends will think!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3683 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I just got engaged about 2 months ago. Since becoming engaged, he has told me that he thinks the word "fiancé" is stupid and he's not going to say it…so he continues to call me his girlfriend instead. He is also ...

Unhappily married. Is this younger man interested in me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3682 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Is this younger man interested in me? I am an unhappily married woman who is re-considering her options. One of the main reasons I am still married is for my 2 young children. My husband suffers from a mood disorder, depression and anxiety. In ...

Do I tell Friend A what is going on? What about Friend B's partner?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3683 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I'm a pretty liberal person, so am not trying to be the morality police, but am worried about my friends and am being burdened by this knowledge. One of my friends (Friend A) has been in a casual but exclusive relationship since January, with th...

Big difficulties ahead. Will this relationship last? What other options are open to me, to consider?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3683 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - A year ago, I was ready to move to another city, transfer to finish school and leave sex work behind. I had been an escort for over 2 years, had a failed marriage and a child not living with me because of my unstable and crazy lifestyle (he lives ...

Have I already ruined my chance to ever be aroused by a man because of my porn addiction and my enjoyment of masturbation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3683 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I don't know if this question is appropriate for this site, but I really need to talk to someone about this. Please help. I'm a 19 yr old girl addicted to pornography. I had never had sex (or anything sensual/intimate with anyone) until last ...

Online dating - need some advice on how to proceed? What sort of photo would be most suitable to send to her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3683 days ago

26 October 2014 (M) - OK, so I've been talking online to this woman for a month and a half now, she's who she says she is (sent me an email from her own personal domain). She's kind and seems like a good person, lives about an hour from me by road. However, now she's as...