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writes:Hello ! So I'm having a issue with reaching an orgasm with my boyfriend . He's 5 years older then me and he's the best lover I have ever had ( I think it's because he's older ) but anyways I have never climaxed with anybody that I have been with sexually he is my second boyfriend and we have been together for nearly 2 years. Anyways, so through masterbating ( I use a large book and grind vigoursly on it ) I can climax in three min tops ! Like mind blowing toes curly orgasms and I want to have that with my boyfriend . He is very patient with me and he feels me To relax and go with the flow and do what feels good but 2 things happen 1. If i am on top I start worrying if it feels good for him and how I look (I'm a bit over weight :/ 5'1 and 160 pounds ) 2 . I I can focus on my self but then I lose my orgasm . He can be on top and it will feel good but not enough to get me off and if I rub my clit he and I get distracted by my hands being down there. I have tried masterbating with my hands only. I am really hopeless. I don't know what to do. P.S I'm sorry that this is a little volger
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2014): Women can and do climax through intercourse. Never been a problem for me with or without outside stimulation.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (29 October 2014):
 It sounds to me you are trying to overthink the whole thing. Just relax and enjoy. he big O will happen with a little from your man's fingers or tounge. RELAX
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2014): Women find it tough to have sex from vaginal intercourse often. Besides, women sexually peak around their 30s. One of my partners could never climax in her 20s... but a decade later could make it could easily.
Don't depend only on vaginal intercourse to come. Request him to include a bit of oral, or even to masturbate you while having sex or as foreplay... it works.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (29 October 2014):
I never orgasm from intercourse, oral only. Most women are like this, so don't trip. Have him go down on you then have sex after.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 October 2014):
 It's not vulgar
women often cannot orgasm from intercourse.
If the only way you can orgasm is from grinding on a hard flat surface, that's part of the issue... you need to find other ways to orgasm.
I suggest trying rubbing with your fingers or using a hand held shower massage to experiment with other ways to orgasm.
Also a small pocket rocket vibrator to place on your clitoris is fine you could even do that while having intercourse.
as for worrying about your size... I have discovered most men like their woman to have as my husband calls it "a little cushion for the pushin" no one likes bones.. curves really are more desired..
If you and him can work together and find a way for him to bring you to orgasm during foreplay (such as oral sex) and THEN once you have had your orgasm commence penetration, it may be more satisfying for you.
For me orgasms during sexual intercourse just do not happen and never have... and never will.... and my life is not sad because of it at all.
the fact that you worry about it and try so hard makes it worse...
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