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writes:Okay so there is this guy I like. recently we hung out and he told me how he thinks i'm beautiful and that he likes my personality. I like him a lot too hes really cool, and we seemed to have been getting a long just fine, but the problem is. He did something that hurt my feelings. Im not going to specify what it is, that information is irrelevant. Anyway we got into a little spat after that. He was telling me he was sorry and checking to see if I was okay, but I was so mad at him I didn't forgive him right away. He said he never meant to make me feel sad and he would do anything to fix the situation because He doesn't want to hurt my feelings... by which I responded with IDK what to tell you.. I guess at that point he got frustrated because he responded with I'll just talk to you tomorrow and with me sending the last message, I said Whatever that was a few days ago and we havent spoken since. I had seen him 3 time yesterday from a distance, and I know he saw me two of those times but we didn't speak. Im still kind of upset and I want him to understand that he cant just say anything to me and expect me to be okay with it. I do miss his company but I dont want to tell him that directly seeming as it sounds desperate when he hurt my feelings, so How can I make him want to be around me or miss my company all the same? I'm not really interested in hearing if i'm going about it the right or wrong way, or anything that doesnt involved my question. All i really need is a straight answer on how I should act in order to make him miss me, Id also appreciate it, if you kept any sarcasm or negativity to yourself... Please and Thank YOu. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHoneypie, in no way was I giving attitude whenever I posted that statement. I came on DC seeking advice and I never receive the advice I ask for just a bunch of what you should and shouldn't do. I know all of that information I thought a lot about it.
He and I both know I was not giving him attitude. I told him I didn't appreciate what he did and it would take some time. I guess I protrayed myself as hostile when I in no way was. I just wasn't ready to talk or forgive him at that moment. thank you rubybirtle for understanding that.
I took the initiative to contact him and ask him if we could talk when he had time, he said yes sure but he has yet to contact me to meet so He must not be that sorry if he isn't really trying to fix things, or maybe he doesnt care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2014): Bottom Line - you can't make someone miss you.
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reader, ramet-x  +, writes (29 October 2014):
 i agree with honeypie u cant do anything to make someone miss you and anyways how would he miss u with that attitude he has tried saying sorry a couple of times bt u dont wanna hear any of it u want to act tuff and stubborn put yourself inthe guys position what else can you do or say if all your plees for forgiveness fall on deaf ears its your turn to talk to the guy since u miss him that much pride will be your downfall and it will take what u seem to love
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (29 October 2014):
You can't really MAKE someone miss you. And you can't really tell when they do. He actually might be missing you desperately right now but just not showing it. (or at least not showing it in the way that YOU think means that he's missing you)What are you expecting him to do? He tried apologising and you weren't able to accept it at the time, (which is fine - people process hurt at different rates) but then the ball is in your court. You need to approach him to bury the hatchet now, if that's what you want. Why should he approach you if he's just going to get further rejection. After all, he doesn't know that you miss him because you're so determined to hide it.For someone to miss you, they have to be reminded of what a good time they have when they're with you. He'll miss you when he's reminded of that kind, fun and interesting girl that first caught his eye. Not the moody girl who can't accept his apology.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 October 2014):
 You need to learn to SAY what you MEAN and MEAN what you say. Not play passive-aggressive games hopping the people around you will READ your mind and know what you want from them.
IDK and Whatever are VERY passive-aggressive "IDGAF" comments.
You can't MAKE him miss you. You CAN however either CALL or TEXT him and tell you EXACTLY why it pissed you off and why you are still mad over it.
Now I know you write:
***I'm not really interested in hearing if i'm going about it the right or wrong way, or anything that doesnt involved my question.***
But this.... attitude is not really helping you is it?
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