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writes:Hello DC, it's been a little while. I need some help. Girl problems, as usual. Pretty wordy, this one. Sorry.There's a girl, let's call her Girl A. She's new to my life, but when I met her, I knew something good would happen. I had asked her out (at a really crappy time) and she said "I'll think about it." It's around a month, give or take a week, and I asked if she still liked me. [Note: despite not dating me, she's kissed me a few times.] And she did say yes. I told her I was about to move on, having no answer from her. She told me not to move on.According to her, if I ask her again, in a better manner, which I will do, then she'll say yes. I like her, but I'm on the edge of letting her go, even though I've never felt so strongly towards ANYONE. Excluding family.Girl B, is one who I semi-like. A small crush. But I don't know if she likes me. Around a week ago, she said MY hugs make her feel better, mine specifically. She recently has been a been more affectionate towards me. I feel like she's got something special about her. I trust her a lot, as she's helping me cope with personal problems right now. There's not much to say about her, except that she makes me curious.Girl C, is my ex, and she is giving me a bit if trouble. We broke up a few months ago, and I quickly got over her. But she still likes me. She also thinks that Girl A "stole" me from her. That isn't the case, as I just got over her and moved on. Girl C and I had a bumpy start, but we're working on the relationship, though it was VERY flawed in some areas.So, my questions are:Should I give Girl A a chance and see how it goes?Does it seem like Girl B Likes me?What do I do about Getting Girl C off my back, without messing up our friendship?How should I deal with A's and C's "rivalry?"It's a lot, but I'm at a loss and out of ideas at this point. Given, I didn't have any ideas to begin with.-Førg€
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reader, TJ14  +, writes (29 October 2014):
to answer your first question.yes do give it a shot. go on a trial one week relationship and see how it works outand then on you guys can decide.Don't give up on her when she herself has told you so. and make sure she isnt your rebound to answer your second question.dont raise your hopes too high. you will get hurt. she likes you as a good friend and that's about it.she may have a crush on you but nothing more.you will slowly learn to let go. she will have anger and it wil be there for a long time and it may or may not go.but if you truly value the frienship then explain it out to her
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 October 2014):
 ***Should I give Girl A a chance and see how it goes?***
If you have a school dance coming up or may ask her to a haunted house/hay ride thing? Why not? If YOU like her and she seems interested, but when you ask her out, make sure it doesn't come off as joking. I think she wants you to "work" for that date a bit. My guess is she is holding back partly because of C, partly because she isn't ready to date/ unsure she wants to date you. But.. nothing ventured nothing gained.
***Does it seem like Girl B Likes me?***
Hard to say, she likes you AT LEAST as a friend. People don't listen to people's problems if they aren't caring. (unless they are paid to do so, so to speak).
But I would suggest you FOCUS on ONE girl at a time. And if A turns you down again, don't IMMEDIATELY go jump to B so see if you can get lucky there. That wouldn't be fair on B.
****What do I do about Getting Girl C off my back, without messing up our friendship?****
Being friends with an ex is NOT always a good idea. Because some exes get a sense of "entitlement" to your company and "friendship" and thus makes it hard on ANYONE new in your life. And they don't ALWAYS make very good friends, because there is a history that involved "romantic feelings". I mean let's be honest, would a GOOD friend "hate" on a new girl out of the blue? No. Someone who isn't quite over you, however, will/can. You CAN talk to C and tell her you value your friendship but you don't like her attitude when it comes to other girls. It might not do much good though. That would all depend on what kind of person C really is.
How should I deal with A's and C's "rivalry?" By talking to C. Explain that you can not STEAL a person's affections. And that A didn't do so. I'd probably add a grow up in there too. But other then that I would ignore it and if C went overboard in her attitude/behavior I'd cut her off as a friend.
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