A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear CupidI feel unsupported in life.I experienced poor treatment from my dad from the beginning of my time and my mom has never really praised me that much; I felt that both my mom and my dad saw the worst in me, unknowingly. They didn't see how their behavior was affecting me.So I grew with poor foundations in life, developed inevitable low self esteem, where I felt isolated and lonely in a way of not knowing how to express my problems or needs, developed poor life and social skills.When I started school, I attracted lot's of bullying and didn't really know how to stand up for myself, and it was a consistent theme in my school days. Don't get me wrong, I had good friends, but always felt myself to be on the receiving end of other peoples poor treatment. I feel that some of my mom's boyfriends disliked me also and have taken a disliking to me in the past, but my mom never really stood up or supported me.When I was 17, I met the father of my child. He had good qualities but it wasn't long before he was taking his aggression out on me and was in a controlled relationship that was quiet abusive. Finally I managed to leave the relationship 9 weeks after my daughter was born and went in hostels where I mostly seemed to attract more of the same treatment as what I was consistently attracting in my life. Of people devaluing me and not really taking me seriously. I've had other poor life expereices as well, and I know that we all have, but I'm trying to put my pains across as I'm at a painful place.I feel there is a theme in my life expereice, of others abusing me, taking advantage, been devalued, being ignored, strangling to form new friendships, and on the few occasions where I dare to speak up and voice how I'm feeling, it's resulted to others walking away.I feel really upset, stuck, confused and hurt inside to the point I'm thinking what is the point in it all.If you can imagine someone with a dark rain cloud over their head and every where that person walks the rain cloud follows - well that is me.I'm oobviously doing something wrong without knowing for this life expereince to keepmanifesting. A good example would be recently where I attracted a man into my life. Currently I'm undergoing Cognitive Behavior Therapy, and I felt the man exploited me in varies ways. The worst thing he did was throw lager in my face.I messaged someone I recently met whom was a 'girl mate' and told her what happened and that he'd been saying nasty things to me. I asked if we could have a catchup and she ignored my text message, so I called her and she ignored her phone. This was weeks ago and I feel really upset and angry that I haven't been taken seriously. Sure, if she's busy then I can understand, but to send a text message takes less than five minuets. I've met other people recently, and I stepped back as I felt that I was the only one to be putting effort in to sending messages. I haven't text anyone for a while now and nobody has texted my phone. Simply put, nobody really cares.I'm upset and have no way to resolve my problems. I feel emotionally abandoned by life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2014): Stand up for yourself. Show the world you own it and always stand up for what you believe in
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