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writes:I am attending a course at university. I go to this course once every week with my friend. There is a guy that I like.Today in the end of course this guy talked almost all the time to my friend and not to me and also he gave his number to my friend but not to me.We were only we three sitting together at then. He gave her his number but didnt give me his although I was holding my mobile in my hand.My friend has already a guy since 2 years ago but noone knows about him except me and some others.Why this guy didnt give me his number? I think its rude to only give his number to my friend and talk to almost only her and not me. Why was he ignoring me totally? Couldn't he be a little nicer to me?Since he is ignoring me, how should I react? Shall I also ignore him when he is ignoring me?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (29 October 2014):
 He gave HER his number because he was either interested IN her or she seems interested IN him. Since he had NO idea that your friend already HAS a BF, there is nothing WRONG in giving HER his number. HOWEVER, your friend.... could have declined.
And here is the deal, JUST because YOU like him... doesn't mean he will AUTOMATICALLY like you.
Maybe you need to tone down your expectation of this guy. You like him, OK but what if... you are just not his type? Does that mean you now have to be rude? Or ignore him? You can still be a polite person, but if you are looking for a BF - HE isn't it.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (29 October 2014):
I doubt he ignored you, it's probably just that the conversation flowed with her while you sat there waiting for him to include you (you should have included yourself).
It's not rude to ask for one person's number and not the others. He probably just thought she was interested and you weren't since you didn't participate in the conversation. He has no way of knowing you like him unless you give him signs.
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reader, missy_25 +, writes (29 October 2014):
I think its obvious that the guy is interested in your friend. He may be rude in ignoring you but if he at least says hello or greets you politely then I think it's fine and there's no ill will towards you. He just wants to make the most of his time with your friend.Now, if YOU want to be friends with him, there's no harm in talking to him first. He may just don't want to give your friend the wrong impression that he's being a player by talking/flirting with you. Maybe. Anyways, if it was me and I don't want to be friends with him, I'd simply just ignore him or walk away when he approaches my friend. If I don't like him as a person, I would just show that I don't by not saying hello or again pretending he doesn't exist.If I think he's a nice guy, I would just say hello and make small talks now and then but let my friend and that guy dominate the conversation between them. Your friend should politely discourage him though if she prefers to be with his boyfriend, whether people knew or not. there's no harm in meeting and befriending people, its when they start crossing the lines that worries me. I've always shut down guys who has ANY hint of wanting to court me when I'm not interested bec. I choose to be with my bf. You can tell which ones are there to be friends and which ones wants more.
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