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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been hanging out with this guy I met in class. He's 23. At first, he would just text me about school stuff. Then, he started asking me to hang out with him. We would talk almost everyday and its mostly him contacting me first. So, the first time we hung out was on his birthday. We just went out to dinner and watched a movie. I thought things were going pretty well.. but I feel like maybe he's losing interest. The first two dates, he kissed me after but on the third and fourth time we saw each other, he didn't. Its confusing because after each time we saw each other he would text me that he had a good time with me. Now, he doesn't seem to text me as much as he did before. I really can't seem to figure out if he still likes me or maybe he just sees me as a friend now. He still talks to me everyday so its either I'm just over reacting or hes just being nice since we have to see each other in class. (He's my lab partner). The last time we saw each other, I had to cut it short because my brother needed my help with something. I tried calling him that night to apologize but he never picked up. Then, he just texts me the next day like nothing happened.. We've never really talked about relationship stuff. Neither of us ever brought it up.. I really like this guy but I cant figure him out.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (29 October 2014):
 No need to figure him out he's a ship in the night and the foghorn never really sounded so go on about your business. If he's interested, he will persue you( that's the guy funvtion) otherwise, nice while it lasted. blah-blah. Good luck in future escapades.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 October 2014):
 Maybe back off a little? Stop pursuing him? LET him get some time in there to "miss" you?
There really IS no need for you to apologize to this guy. You aren't dating and you don't OWE him to blow off your brother for him. Nor do you OWE him an explanation why you had to cut it short. Know what I mean?
My initial guess is, he think you have friend-zoned him. Which I don't think you have. He HASN'T asked you out on dates, just to hang out.
Give him a little "time off" see what happens. (not ignore him but don't be the first to text/call constantly). If he doesn't reach out, he might have decided he doesn't "like you, like you". Or he was hoping for something more in the line of a FWB and you didn't take that bait.
However, the ONLY way to really know.... is to talk to him.
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