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Archived questions from: September, 2013 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

Past abuse is getting in the way of this relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4105 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - I was in this crazy abusive relationship with my ex when I was 17 (I’m 20 now). He used to hit me so hard that I black out. He left bruises and cuts all over me. He hated it when I would talk to or look at other boys and that cause half of my ...

Is my boyfriend scamming me??

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4106 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - Is my boyfriend scamming me?? Here I am still in this 13 year relationship and it has been so long I don't even know if what I feel for him is love. Added to that are the arguments we have quite often. Of course, he still looks around every cha...

I hacked her facebook from her phone and found she's talking to a guy!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4106 days ago

30 September 2013 (M) - Hello am I 27 year old male who has been with my girlfriend for the past 5 months. We've been having some problems lately. I looked on her phone which I know I shouldn't have done but I went to her Facebook account and looked at her messages and ...

Am I giving him the wrong idea when we kiss and things? How do I tell him I want a serious commitment before I give him my v-card? How do I know he's the right one?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4103 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - I want to lose my virginity, but I'm afraid. I love this guy but we're not together, ive known him for some years and we recently decided to start talking a few months ago. I knew from years ago that he was the one I wanted to lose it too, but I wa...

I'm confused as to what he wants from me. I love him so much but why wont he ask me out if he claims to have these feelings for me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4107 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - I'm confused as to what he wants from me. I love him so much but why wont he ask me out if he claims to have these feelings for me. We met a few years ago, we fell in love, he disappeared we moved on. 5 years later we met up again, and feeli...

My boyfriend cheated, on top of that we are of different religions.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4093 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - I am 23 years old and am a doctor. I am in india. I am in love with my boyfriend for 5years our relationship has been fine except for a few ups and downs . During the first year of our college my bf was dating a classmate of ours they then stopped ...

Together for over 5 years and yet we hardly see each other. Is moving in together the best way to improve the relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4107 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - Should I move in with my boyfriend even though we hardly see each other? We have been together for over 5 years, but due to his work schedule and social commitments, we see each other once a week at the most. I don't feel we are 'serious' enough to ...

Does he really take Viagra just to masturbate?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4105 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - I have been in Married 15 years. I love him very much. However, I found two times he took Viagra with him when he is a way for a long trip. First time I found he took about 2 pill, this time was half of the bill. Both times, I talked to him. I asked ...

I am afraid that our "relationship" is more physical than emotional for him.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4107 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - I've been dating this man for about 2 months now and am concerned where our "relationship" is going. When we first started talking I told him I was not interested in any type of relationship or fling or anything in between. Despite that we began ...

Does a person show the "real" side of him or herself when drunk?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4107 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - Just curious does anyone think that when a person is drunk they turn into the 'real' them?? not in a sense of sober they're nice and drunk they fight but in a sense where sober they're one way and drunk they flirt ALOT and say things that woul...

Yells, screams and is needlessly hostile to me. How do I deal with my BF when he is like this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4101 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - Needlessly hostile boyfriend, hard to deal with. I'm on my last nerve with my boyfriend, and I feel like I have no one else to turn to. We've been dating for over a year, and we're both 21. This weekend was supposed to be a good, fun couple of days ...

She's unhappy about it. Is it wrong to be in a casual relationship with a guy who has an open relationship with his Gf?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4108 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - Is it wrong of me to be continuing a casual relationship with a guy who is in an open relationship with another girl, and the girl is beginning to be unhappy about it? It's nothing serious between us (though it is ongoing, around once or twice a ...

My Uncle's solution has upset me. What can I do? He wants to disappear as payback for his wife's adultery.

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4107 days ago

28 September 2013 (M) - Dear Aunts i now find myself asking you for your advice on this family issue. My uncle and aunt have played a critical role in my up bringing for the first fifteen years of my life. My uncle confided in me that his wife my aunt confessed to him t...

Feeling confused and upset. Was the unsuccessful sex, with my housemate and friend, his fault, my fault, the alcohol, or none of that, and why?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4108 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - I'm 19 years old, my housemate (male) is the same age. I've never really been attracted to him really, he's always been "just a friend" Anyhow, we got REALLY drunk a few nights ago and ended up chatting until gone 4am when we went to his room. He...

How do I approach and initiate a conversation and talk to my crush?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4108 days ago

28 September 2013 (?) - Ok, let's just make this short. Well at least attempt to make it short?? I have a crush, I see him at breakfast everyday but I don't talk to him at all. I have no classes with him so what's the point. I find it weird if I were to do that, just go ...

How to gracefully deal with boyfriend's best female friend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4108 days ago

27 September 2013 (F) - I have a problem with my boyfriend's best female friend. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and known him for two years. He met her about a year before he met me. They lived in the same college hall the year before he met me, ...

One minute he wants marriage, the next he gives me up?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4109 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - His feelings are so wishy washy One minute he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me then the next he says Im his bestfriend. Then he'll say that he wants to be committed and then get married and then next he says, I should be with s...

The guy I like went back to his ex because he misses the child. What should I do?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4103 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - Please can someone help me what to do I am so much in love with a guy who loves me to but he's gone back to his ex cos he misses his son which isn't his biologically but has been there since born little one is 3 now he texts me everyday telling me ...

Should I tell my boyfriend that few months into the relationship I was still talking to my ex, and kissed?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4107 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - I have a dilemma.... I have been talking to my ex throughout my new relationship. I am 27 and I met my current bf in sept last year. Do I tell my bf that I met up with my ex even if was last January ? That we kissed and he been trying to get me bk...

My husband of 9 years cheated for numerous times. How can I get over this?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4108 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - I have asked for help several time on dear cupid and now need more advice. I found out my husband of 9 years cheated. Not just once, but this went on for months during the most difficult time of our lives. It hurts me more because he didnt feel bad ...

Am I crazy is he cheating and taking me for a fool?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4109 days ago

26 September 2013 (M) - Hi Guys and Girls A question about strange behaviour from my partner of 4 years. We live together and have done for 3 years. However I am always suspicious of him and keep checking his texts and Facebook messages. I like to go to bed early...

My boyfriend's best friend is a girl who likes him and it really bothers me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4112 days ago

24 September 2013 (F) - Hey everyone so I'm not sure if I'm over reacting or what. But my boyfriend has a girl best friend I'm not used to dating guys who have girl best friends infact I absolutely hate it! But he's been friends with her way before we started dating. They ...

But why won't the next man suffer for my last relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4113 days ago

23 September 2013 (F) - When most men that are approaching me seems to be using the same line the last one used to get me. I am a very successful young woman. A Christian, Community organizer, ambitious with awesome career since out of high school. My last relation...

My boyfriend believes I don't know how to act in social situations.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4111 days ago

23 September 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years now, and in the last few months he's been making comments that have made me think he is getting annoyed at the fact I am quite shy. I've always been that way - I was seriously shy as...

What's the deal with ALWAYS making dates and then not going through with them?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4110 days ago

23 September 2013 (M) - Okay, so about 2 weeks ago I'm in the grocery store and this girl is checking me out. It occurs to me to hit on her, but I ultimately don't. On my walk home, the same girl pulls up beside me and starts chatting me up. She tells me I'm perfect, cute ...

She asked him to cheat but I don't know what to think!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4114 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - Im going out with a boy who'd ex is also one of my friends. He dumped her after a huge arguement and she recently told me that she still has feelings for him. Just a week ago she wanted to break up with her current boyfriend. She didnt want to do it ...

Should I break it off because he will not let go of his best female friend that he's too close to?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4113 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - My partner of 5 years is now losing me as I can no longer deal with his best friend. Shortly after I lost my virginity to him, i found out i was not the only girl in his life, but that he was mingling with others, one of which was this best friend. ...

I ruined his birthday, but is it justified because his friendship with his ex was out of line.

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4111 days ago

21 September 2013 (F) - I'm talking to this guy and every now and then he goes and hangs out with his ex girlfriend. He knows that I don't like it at all because when hes with her I tell him not to speak to me. He tells me that hes sorry and hes trying to end things on a ...

He would make plans with me, then disappear and turn off his cell.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4114 days ago

21 September 2013 (F) - hello I have a guy friend.he met me once. he would always make plans with me. but he wouldnt turn up on the day we make plans. Its always he who makes the plans. but finally when i call him on the day he made the plan his cell is off. goes direct...

Could he be serious or is he a catfish?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4113 days ago

20 September 2013 (F) - I've signed up to a dating site, had some replies - actually 4, and one looked interesting. How do I know it's not a "catfish" though? The profile looked very natural, and had a [state].gov email address mentioned in his profile, along with photo...

Should I worry about my boyfriend liking another girl

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4117 days ago

19 September 2013 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months. I have dated a lot of guys but never felt so in love until my current boyfriend. I have never thought about a future with any guy until my current boyfriend. I am attracted to him in every way. He has such ...

Flirting online but blames me... can you explain his behaviour?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4116 days ago

19 September 2013 (F) - Any psychologists that can analyse this man? I recently left my husband and this man offered support. At first he was so romantic and supportive, he told my friend how stunning I am and how he couldn't believe his luck but he soon changed....

I know he loves,me he treats me like gold but I don't know how I can ever believe that he loves my physical appearance...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4115 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together about 8 months now. We take each other seriously and are exclusive. I sent a couple of sexy pics for him here and there to make him happy while at work and he wrote responses like "wow...dont be upset if I'm not ...

My b/f of 6 years cheated on me with my friend and now I have trust issues!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4118 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - Hello, i am in a relation with my boy friend for about 6 years. We met in in college .He had an affair with my friend while we were together i came to know about that and told him i was disappointed because i believed him a lot, he said that he made ...

Two guys. Which date to cancel? Considering the circumstances?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4118 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - Hey, I seem to have gotten myself caught up in a very odd situation. So, let me start off by saying that I had my boyfriend for 4 months, then we broke up, except it wasn't a clean break up. We decided to stay friends, although I only agreed to that ...

Am I being too cold about males or should I be free and wild?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4118 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - I am currently 19 years old and i am single. i am very attractive as i often attract all kinds of men. i 'put myself on pause'as a result of hurt from the past. i am afraid to love and to trust my male companions. I still talk to males but wh...

How do I get my ex back? Or how do I move on? It's 70 days since our break-up

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4117 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - Two months ago, The love of my life walked away because of my bad attitude. It's been about 70 days since I've seen or talked to him. How do I get him back? or How do I accept what has happened and move on? Its been a hard journey. All I d...

I'm shy but I want to ask him out. How do I get the courage? And it's Two days before this semester finishes. What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4117 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - We have two days left at university, and I'm too shy to ask him out.. I don't know whether we will have a chance to talk, and even limited opportunity to talk one on one.. We're not friends, but we're on friendly terms.. Please give ...

Has he lost interest? Why is he ignoring me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4118 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - hey, im so confussed :/ theres this guy that i've been dating, and everything was going good untill last weekend. hes a bouncer and i was on a night out and went to the club were he works and one of my friends wasn't allowed in so started shouting...

In a Long term relationship but tempted by others. How do I cope with my curiosity over this temptation?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4118 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - Dear aunts/uncles I have just started college in a different city and I moved from my rented apartment which I share with my bf of six years. I love him dearly and taking on my new course was a challenge, as I had to leave everthing I knew...

Did I make the right decision? Long distance relationship - decided to cut contact temporarily

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4118 days ago

17 September 2013 (F) - For the last almost 2 months, my boyfriend was on a different continent for a work commitment, so there was an 8hour time difference between us. The first month or so was ok, but he was very busy, both with work and he never seemed to miss out on p...

No strings relationship. When is it appropriate for me to contact him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4108 days ago

17 September 2013 (F) - I started this relationship that is supposed to be no strings attached and we both seem to like each other more than we should. We talk everyday and he usually initiates the conversations. We have only met twice. I have heard nothing from him...

New Bf almost seems to want me to be Jealous. Where should this line be drawn?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4117 days ago

17 September 2013 (F) - I'm looking for opinions on where the line falls between being a jealous girlfriend and being a disrespectful boyfriend. I try really hard to be someone my new (about 2 months) boyfriend can stand to put up with. I give him space, I do nice thi...

Do I go on doing my job without justifying? Or do I try confronting her? What's the best strategy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4118 days ago

17 September 2013 (F) - Hi I started a new job and before we signed the contract, I asked my boss that I do not to wish to do particular tasks at work - which we have discussed at the interview but he forgot all about them once he handded out the tasks...I remind...

I am giving him a second chance although he lies and cheats.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4111 days ago

17 September 2013 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for just over three years now, and it's my first long term relationship. We've had our ups and downs just like anyone. Recently we had a heart to heart, he went out to lunch with a girl who he had been deleting messages ...

Is this where I draw the line, are there 'rules' for when you are told to F yourself?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4119 days ago

17 September 2013 (F) - My boyfriend has said "fuck you" to me at increasing frequency. I remember the first time being offended, he said it with anger towards me in an argument. The next time it made an impression, I remember thinking I was numb to hearing it, and ...

I just want him to let me go!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4117 days ago

17 September 2013 (F) - I've been seeing this guy for over three months now. He has serious commitment issues, which he warned me about. He never had a long term relationship, and less than a handful of them were monogamous relationships. He agreed to be exclusive because ...

I think this guy I've been talking to is cheating on me! How do I handle this? Should I be mad?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4119 days ago

16 September 2013 (F) - I'm talking to this guy and I'm in college. He lives an Hour away but he went back to his original home because he's on vacation. we usually talk everyday, but when I told him I was going home he told me he wont contact me this weekend, so I can sp...

All I really need to know from you is do you think he can love me if he's done that? And does he want to be with me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4119 days ago

16 September 2013 (F) - I assume you will all tell me to get rid once youve read my question but what I really want to know is can he love me if he did this? Do you think he really wants to be with me? So ive been with my boyfriend since feb, neither of us were looking ...

I have trust issues and my b/f is flirty! How do I handle this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4120 days ago

15 September 2013 (F) - Hi everyone, I'm in a new relationship and I'm very desperate for help. My boyfriend and I have been together for only a couple of months but we were 'talking' for a long time before we got together. Everything has been perfect except for the f...