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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together about 8 months now. We take each other seriously and are exclusive. I sent a couple of sexy pics for him here and there to make him happy while at work and he wrote responses like "wow...dont be upset if I'm not saying much babe because I'm going nuts over here"... Thing is he knows that I'm insecure and that I don't like my body...im very thin with small ass and tits (don't tell me to eat pls I eat everything I can, its genetics)..he has also taken sexual pics of me in person....hes the type of guy who saves a lot of pics of random hot girls, that's why I send him mine, to try and replace them. But he deleted every pic I ever sent him and it makes me feel like I'll never be good enough. He tries to convince me he loves my body but how can I believe that after he jerks off to other pics and deletes mine...its been a month since we've done those things and it still really hurts me. I know he loves,me he treats me like gold but I don't know how I can ever believe that he loves my physical appearance...
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reader, amandanash +, writes (21 September 2013):
He probably deletes them only because he doesn't want other people finding them on his phone.
I understand the insecure feelings. But he is with you because he loves your physical and emotional appearance. A guy isn't going to date a girl for 8 months who he isn't physically attracted to. Maybe for 2 months, but not for 8.
Confidence in physical appearance is a hard thing to have, especially now a days when expectations are set so high for females and males through the media.
Maybe you would benefit from some counselling or reading some books about how to feel confident in yourself. You'll help yourself in your every day life and it will help improve your relationship :)
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (21 September 2013):
 Loads of guys use porn pics to "jerk off" too. It means nothing.
I agree with SVC that he's probably deleting your pics out respect for you, maybe in case his mates should accidently see them perhaps.
If he didn't fancy you, trust me he wouldn't take sexy pics of you when you're together.
If you're that uncomfortable with your body, stop taking pics of it and sending them to him. You're clearly doing it for the wrong reasons ie not because you want too because it turns you on, but to try and stop him looking at porn despite having body image issues.
Putting on weight is very VERY hard. Providing you know you are eating a healthy well balanced diet regularly throughout the day then there's nothing you can do.
Maybe buy lingerie designed to flatter the smaller figure. Basques and corsets look fabulous on smaller frames and can make you look curvy (not to mention give the illusion of larger breasts). Stockings may improve the look of your legs and most men totally melt when confronted with them.
Basically what I'm saying is love is more important than looks and you need to learn to love your body, accept it and make the best of it.
Your boyfriend loves YOU, the person, most women crave that kind of love, believing their guys only love them for their looks and wish that they would look deeper and love who they are! You've got that!
We're all attracted to different things and different people, just because your body type does not fit a social stereotype (which quite frankly is biased and faked)does not mean it's not desirable.
I hope this helps AB x
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 September 2013):
 maybe he deletes yours out of respect and because he does not want anyone else to ever see them.
to be honest looks fade over time... no matter how thin or stunning you are...
if he says he loves your body you should do your best to believe him.. you may not like your body but he clearly loves you...
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