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writes:We have two days left at university, and I'm too shy to ask him out..I don't know whether we will have a chance to talk, and even limited opportunity to talk one on one.. We're not friends, but we're on friendly terms..Please give me some advice, I'm very uncertain and don't know if I will have the courage to make a move
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reader, bee_autiful +, writes (19 September 2013):
bee_autiful is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLast days before the end of university.So tomorrow is the last actual day...Based on the contact I had with him today, I know there is going to be disappointment... we said hello in passing, and that was all...Because of the lack of opportunity to talk, I know that I probably won't have the courage to approach him... any tips for getting his attention?If I do have the opportunty to talk- how can I suss out how he feels?/what can I say that's not threatening to my shyness...I know he's also a reserved guy.. I did kind of ask him out a few months ago via a private birthday facebook message, which he seemed to respond positively to, although I wasn't sure if he was serious or jsut being polite and also we were in the middle of a practical component of our course so I never had a chance to bring it up again as we havent had a chance to talk since... Any advice/insight at all would be great! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2013): Is the 2 days you have left before you go on holidays, or before you leave University for good?Judging by the pressure you feel to act now or lose the opportunity for good, I take it it's your last 2 days before leaving University.You can be courageous and brave and just grab the bull by the horns and approach him, say you need to speak to him privately when he is around others, take him to a corner or corridor and say that knowing you are about to leave University, you would not like to lose contact and how about a coffee sometime? Based on his answer, you will know a lot. Whether he is equally keen, already involved, makes himself available or makes it impossible, and you will know. Nothing risked, nothing gained.If it's two days before holidays, then don't do anything - if he is not interested, you face embarrassment when you return to classes and he knows you were interested. This could be an ego boost for him, but leave you hiding like a tortoise in a shell ;-)I believe if HE had been interested, he would have asked YOU out but there are shy guys out there that can't or won't make the first move, so - good luck!For the record, the only 2 times in my life I bucked my own principle of not asking a guy out, and letting them pursue instead, both times the guy was either taken, or pretending to be single and he wasn't. However, when the guy pursued me, SUCCESS :) (just my 2 cents worth)
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reader, banditsmom1124  +, writes (18 September 2013):
 just ask him out him if hed like to get a soda/coffee sometime. dont make a big deal of it.
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