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30-35,
anonymous
writes:For the last almost 2 months, my boyfriend was on a different continent for a work commitment, so there was an 8hour time difference between us. The first month or so was ok, but he was very busy, both with work and he never seemed to miss out on parties or going out. Now I understand how this was a great opportunity for him to visit a great city and unwind after long work hours so I never objected to this. I however couldn't shake off the irrational paranoia and rejection feelings when I stayed in all the time knowing he was out having fun without me. We did chat everyday (text and one time a video call), but it never felt long enough to have an actual conversation. I also felt neglected as he'd almost never text at any other point during the day (like during lunch break or waiting for the bus or shopping - times when I would have texted, if I were him). I'd often stay up til insane hours to talk to him, then he'd stay for 10 minutes until saying he's heading out for the evening. I'm also not going through the greatest of times at the moment (I'm isolated in a remote countryside and have problems at home). I found myself without my only source of moral support and pleasant human interaction. He did assure me that he misses me and he loves me but all in all it was unbearable. We have 2 more weeks to go until we see each other but I decided to cut off contact completely until then, as those brief chats are making me frustrated and way too emotional. I however managed to break the rule and we already had a fight since (the only one since he's gone) and now I'm worried if I made the right decision to stop talking and whether this would change things between us when we see each other, as we used to be very close and not talking at all for even a day would have been unfathomable until now.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 September 2013):
 Well shoot you made it almost to the end
in 2 weeks he comes home.... and things go back to normal?
so why cut off your nose to spite your face for two weeks?
seriously... call him and tell him you just miss him so much and can't wait for him to be home.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (18 September 2013):
 It appears that your lives are at different paths. Your BF takes this opportunity to enjoy life and his new found freedom/adventure. You are stuck in the past and the relationship you had which you pine for.
Time to start living and not make your BF the focus of your universe. Start handing out with friends, keep busy and yes STOP waiting for messages or the phone to ring.
LDR in most instances do not work and sounds like yours is one of them. Stop hurting yourself and obsessing, start living and I don't mean go and get drunk. Use this opportunity to catch up with friends, if you don't have, make new friends and hang out.
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