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Archived questions from: December, 2019 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Are my wife and mother being selfish?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

31 December 2019 (M) - Am I paranoid or are people selfish? I recently had a road traffic collision and as a result I was prevented from doing my usual sports or activities by my wife and mother, physically I was fine. They both said I shouldn’t drive for my health ju...

My boyfriend acts single and doesn't respect me.

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

30 December 2019 (F) - Hello My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years now. I’m having issues because his social media. He brings his exes to it a lot. Particularly one that I caught him having an emotional affair. As well as a bunch of flirting. He...

Extended family, I'm damned if I do, and damned if I dont.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

29 December 2019 (F) - some background: I am an expat living in my husbands country. Despite that on the surface, everyone gets along, there has been unspoken tension for years. Without listing everything off, basically my MIL and my BILs gf have given me silent ...

My husband doesn't like my new hair colour.

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

29 December 2019 (F) - ive been with my partner for twenty years when I met him I was natural brunette but now im in my mid forties got a few greys and I changed my hair to blonde which everyone likes my family and friends and I get much more attention. Most importantly I ...

My Ex Girlfriend has told me the only person who will raise our son is her.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1825 days ago

29 December 2019 (M) - The mother of my child and my ex girlfriend got a new boyfriend. We’ve been broke up since October 28, of last year. So roughly 14 months ago. About, May of that time period, only a month or two after our son was born. We were at my senior ...

I found out my husband is cheating, I want to be able to do the same.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1825 days ago

28 December 2019 (F) - Question 1 ive been with my husband for 10yrs we both did our share of cheating and I thought we were passed it I promised to never cheat again I recently found out he still cheating but here I stay but now that I know his secret how can I tell him ...

I'm miserable in our relationship of 7 years.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1811 days ago

28 December 2019 (F) - Hi I’m in a relationship now for almost 7 years and I am so miserable there is no excitement I try talking to him on a night just general chit chat and I get totally ignored by him he shows me attention when he wants sex when he gets it he goes to ...

I was so sure about this girl so her rejection has me off kilter.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1826 days ago

28 December 2019 (M) - I (22m) really hit it off with someone (26F) at a party and she turned me down, blaming everything on the alcohol. Sorry in advance for the novel, but the story goes as follows: A few weeks ago, my friends in grad school were having a combina...

I'm in a predicament. Who do I chose?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1823 days ago

28 December 2019 (F) - Hello, I was dating a guy who I really loved for three years. After two years, I had to leave the city and settle in another country for work. He was not comfortable with doing a long distance but I was...so we eventually broke up. Our love b...

I've ruined my familly, I can't look at them.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1826 days ago

28 December 2019 (F) - I had a family and it was beautiful. I never actually cheated physically but I talked to a guy for a month or so. It was never sexual, at least not from my standpoint. It was sweet. I liked the attention. I liked the new excitement. I like...

He's left without me, after planning to spend NYE together.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1827 days ago

27 December 2019 (F) - I have been seeing someone for 3 months. We have been taking it very slowly but the past 3 weeks things have been progressing more and I have met his mother and a couple of his friends. The other day we were talking about New Year’s Eve. Original...

My boyfriend's good side is wonderful, it is why I have stayed so long.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1827 days ago

27 December 2019 (F) - Over the last year, I've spent 5 months total with my bf. Let me give you a timeline. January-gone half the month working February-gone half the month because he was mad at me but we took a trip to Florida where we reconciled but then I flew acro...

My boyfriend cheated, and I don't know how to rebuild the trust.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1827 days ago

27 December 2019 (F) - Hello, I have been with my partner just over a year. We were work colleagues for around 6 months prior to that, and our relationship didn't start in the best way - my then boyfriend was working away and I had an affair with current boyfrien...

I struggle to trust my judgement when it comes to guys.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1827 days ago

27 December 2019 (F) - Hello aunts and uncles, I’m really interested to hear what others think is a ‘normal’ amount of messages to be sending in the very early stages of dating. For context: I’ve been seeing a new guy that I met online for the past month, we’ve...

My boyfriend is financially dependent on me, did I make the right choice?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 1827 days ago

26 December 2019 (F) - Dear Everyone, I am writing this today because to be completely honest, I feel completely lost. I have been in a relationship for about 7 months. It started pretty slow, I didn't necessarily plan on being in a relationship so fast. We started ...

Should I yes or no female coworker

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1828 days ago

26 December 2019 (M) - Ok this young female coworker that I work with, we came into the job together so we are classmates if you want to call us that. From the first day we worked together she asked me to rub her feet (didn't do it). We hung out a couple times but she ...

Is my boyfriend inconsiderate or am I overreacting?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1828 days ago

26 December 2019 (F) - Hello aunts and uncles and happy holidays! I have a question and trying to figure out if I’m over reacting. My boyfriend of 10 months was supposed to spend the Christmas afternoon with me, I’m 37 and he is 45. He was invited to his friend’s...

Troubled family relationships am I in the wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1828 days ago

25 December 2019 (F) - Trying to cut a long story short as I just need an outsiders point of view. I have been with my partner for almost 14 years and throughout this time he has a lot of pressure from his parents. Not only that, they make him feel not good enough, he is ...

How can I survive my toxic relationship with my mother in law and her sister?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1713 days ago

24 December 2019 (F) - My boyfriend's family and this situation has got me drained mentally plus giving me severe anxiety and depression. My mother in law and her sister who I live inside the same residence with, hate me. I live on the second floor apartment. Everyone ...

I do not know how to communicate with my husband anymore because he just does not listen!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1831 days ago

24 December 2019 (F) - Dear cupid Ny husband of 2 years would not listen when I try to tell him when something he does bothers me, but he does tell me all the time what I do right and wrong. Its double standards and when I try to tell him that, he would not listen. ...

My boyfriend is going away for a month, how do I get through this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1829 days ago

23 December 2019 (F) - My boyfriend will be going away for a month soon. I can't go. I am worried he will cheat on me. I fear I will not be able to cope with the constant anxiety and stress about what he is doing. Can anyone provide tips on how to stay SANE? An entire ...

Split for a month and I slept with someone else.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1821 days ago

23 December 2019 (F) - Hey aunts and uncles I am in a real dilemma, I have been with my man over four years,we have had our ups and downs and he often goes away for a few days and ignored me. A few times we have agreed to split and the last time we did was for a month. I...

We don't have sex much anymore.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1831 days ago

23 December 2019 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 9 years. And next year it is 10 years. But we don't have sex that much anymore. Is this normal in a relationship?. Or is there something wrong with me?. ...

My boyfriend and his crazy ex .... I'm wondering if I should just leave them to it.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1832 days ago

23 December 2019 (F) - My partner and I just got back together, and he has female friends and he slept with all of them. This one in particular that he keeps in contact with I really hate her because she was his gf before we got back together and she did some really nasty ...

My partner spends a lot of time partying with his friends.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1832 days ago

22 December 2019 (F) - So me and my partner have been together around 4 years. For the most part it’s been good. My issue is his time spent with his friends. They get together about 3 times per week. His friends are mostly single and they party. Whenever they see ...

The yelling and shouting between my boyfriend and I has gotten much worse!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1828 days ago

22 December 2019 (F) - Boyfriend and I are starting to have blow up arguments. Half of the time I can't even remember how they started. He starts to yell and scream and I have started to return the yelling and screaming, at first I use to just deal with it. Then he ...

Online dating .... men only seem to want to hook up for sex.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1832 days ago

21 December 2019 (F) - I am a woman in my late 40s nice looking, good figure, no kids, I have just started online dating and I get thousands of likes and tons of messages but never any dates! its so frustrating, the men online just seem to want sex hook ups and they ...

I'm worried I am leaving it too late to have a family.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1833 days ago

21 December 2019 (F) - I just recently turned 33 years old a couple of months ago and I am panicking about my age - specially because of the comments I get from my family about getting married and my eggs being dried up and mocking me about how I can’t seem to find anyone ...

How do I win my AWOL husband back?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1834 days ago

20 December 2019 (F) - Hi I am at my wits end and I don’t know what to do. My husband and I have been separated for years but I’m still in love with him. He won’t divorce me but he’s now moved abroad and aplenty living with somebody. Before he moved away we would meet up ...

My girlfriend keeps breaking down over stress at work.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1834 days ago

20 December 2019 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years. I'm 24, she's 26. We were living together, but now she's working 4 hours away while I'm still studying. She's constantly stressed at work, and I feel like I'm just an outlet for her stress. Nearly ...

I'm compensating my lonliness by filling my life with material things.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1773 days ago

20 December 2019 (F) - Hello all, I've been having a really hard time controlling myself spending a lot of money. It all started 3 years ago when I first started university. I lost contact with my friends from school, they kept cancelling plans whenever we wanted to ...

I’m the third wheel in my own relationship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1835 days ago

19 December 2019 (F) - Hey guys :) I'm from Philippines. Have you guys been in a situation that feels like you're the 3rd wheel in your own relationship? I'd be honest, I think I am or maybe I'm just paranoid. To make the long dramatic story short, I'm in a relationship ...

I've recently broken up from my manipulative boyfriend, however I'm feeling sadness and jealousy.M!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1835 days ago

19 December 2019 (F) - Hello agony aunts, I've recently broken up from my manipulative boyfriend, however I'm feeling sadness and jealousy. When we were still together, I've always told him that one of my friends is really pretty and I do admire her beauty, he said that ...

I'm annoyed my boyfriend will be spending my birthday with his sister instead of me.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1835 days ago

18 December 2019 (F) - Hi just looking for some opinions about this it’s my birthday tomorrow and my partner is at work all day until 4.30 now his sister have just phoned him asked him to go straight to hers from work to do some jobs around the house naturally I am ...

Wife doesn't want to move to be with me because of her friends

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1834 days ago

18 December 2019 (M) - My wife and I have been together for 4 years. We got married after two years, lived together for a year in our home state, then lived together for another year in Illinois as I attended school for my military career. My wife and I are both quiet...

Co worker was upset I didnt take her advice on a matter.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1835 days ago

18 December 2019 (M) - This lady I work with who said she's attracted to me got upset today after I didn't take her advice on a matter. I teased her about it respectfully and she told me she was mad right after and said 'no one here listens to me'. I told her she was ...

Is it okay to remain friends with an ex when you are in a new relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1835 days ago

17 December 2019 (F) - Hello aunts Is it a good idea for a couple to stay friends with their respective ex's if the couple is newly in love with each other but still share a friendship that cannot be given up (not sexual feelings but say mutual respect and care with th...

How to deal with a best friend who buys cheap gifts?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1835 days ago

17 December 2019 (F) - My best friend and I have always made an effort to buy each other nice, thoughtful gifts for birthdays and Christmas. The average amount we spent on each other was about 60$. In the past two years, I have noticed that she has been buying me i...

LDR boyfriend won't come to see me for Christmas but will go see a friend whose father died

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1837 days ago

16 December 2019 (F) - I am in a long distance relationship. He lives 2 states away, about 8 hours per drive. We had a little spat a few weeks ago, and patched things up. However, because of this spat, he told me that he would not be coming home for Christmas. He said I ...

How can I learn to live, accept and move on from her past life?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1834 days ago

16 December 2019 (M) - I recently overheard things about my partner's past I wish I hadnt when she was talking with friends at a party. She is 33 and we have been together for over 9 years. Her past sex life was very promiscuous during uni. I have had only 4 sexual pa...

Girlfriend's snapchats have left me uneasy about trusting her

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1836 days ago

16 December 2019 (M) - Ive been with my partner for 10+ years, we have a child together and Ive always trusted her. Recently I discovered she had a snapchat account that is mainly her female friends but with 2 other male friends. I am certain she had some kind of ...

Has anyone ever been in an emotionally abusive relationship and managed to come out the other side with minimal external support

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1839 days ago

15 December 2019 (F) - Hi Aunts I just wondered if anybody had ever been in an emotionally abusive relationship and managed to come out the other side with minimal external support. After being in a relationship for many years and constantly going back and forth ...

Am I dating a manipulative guy?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1832 days ago

14 December 2019 (F) - I have been dating a guy for just over a month, things have been going really well between us. I have noticed this week though that he has started to interrupt me a lot. Like last night he came round after work and we sat talking for a while then ...

Can anyone help me understand my friend's behavior?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1831 days ago

13 December 2019 (F) - I've known her for 8 years and lately she has been behaving very strangely! I've known there is a big void between us, not alot of closeness anymore like we use to be and usually when I say I care for her opinion most about how she feels she closes ...

My ex is at college with me and he comes up and tries to start arguments with me. How should I act?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1840 days ago

12 December 2019 (F) - Hello agony aunts. I broke up with my boyfriend a week ago, because we basically went through a lot of arguments the last couple of months. It's been a really stressful relationship and very toxic, and every time during a fight he would blame me for ...

I'm in love with a married woman we had a spat and I fear things will never go back to how they were

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1842 days ago

11 December 2019 (M) - I am helplessly in love with a married woman. We were good friends for a long time and then, during the breakdown of my long-term relationship, I turned to her for support. There was no affair, but I was overly attentive, and she lapped it up. We ...

A friend is basing all of our interactions around her 9 year old son and I am getting weirded out

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1845 days ago

9 December 2019 (F) - I entered a graduate program (2 year length) last August where I met Wanda. She is about a decade older than me and is married with an elementary age son. I am married in my late twenties. My husband and I moved to a new part of the country just so ...

My mistress is upset about my upcoming trip with my wife. How do I calm her down?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1844 days ago

8 December 2019 (F) - I'm a man in his 60's, married for 25 years and I have had a mistress for 7 years. The problem is my wife and I travel frequently and always have, well before my mistress came into the picture. However it has been a constant source of fricti...

I don't understand why my daughter is attracted to an older guy with nothing going for him.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1845 days ago

7 December 2019 (F) - my adult daughter is dating a guy that is lazy and unmotivated. he is almost 40 he only has an id no drivers license i want better for her and don't know how to talk to her. i don't understand....

Anxious about long distance military relationship & personality change

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1848 days ago

6 December 2019 (F) - My boyfriend is joining the military working in intel, and we will be doing long distance for a year before getting married. We have a lot of trust and I have confidence in our relationship. However, I'm afraid of him possibly changing due to being ...