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Archived questions from: January, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

We're always fighting over the chores!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5778 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I'm a young mother of a3 month old baby and my boyfreind and I always fight now over everything but mostly chores. He runs away to his parents house for a couple days and leaves me here to take care of her. Than he says he wants to work things out ...

Please help, I'm so sick of being messed around by this guy.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5779 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hi. Im trying to figure out something with this guy I've been sort of on and off with for a while, a good few years to be exact. I dunno if anyone can help me but I'm so confused. See, I've been hanging out with this guy, lets call him Jack, an...

Dysfunctional Friendship/Romance

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5779 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I live with my best friend in the whole world, but in the past we were a bit more than friends. I regret it now, but we've slept together many times - but it never felt like just sex, it was always really... loving. I started to fall in love with ...

Am I her shameful secret?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5779 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, I have been seeing a girl for around four months. She works with me, but not closely. At work we always take breaks together and mostly have lunch together. We sort of started to see each other outside of work, we have slept together...

Is he ashamed to take me out and be seen with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5378 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hi folks... look at me the bore sitting in on a Saturday night!!... Okay, so I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 months now. We dated loads before we said we were 'official.' And in any respect, we've done the whole relationship thi...

Should I assume its never going to happen, or should I wait a little longer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5779 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I've had an emontional relationship with a guy at work for nearly a year. We've never been too physical with each other because I was married and he had a gf. We've been good friends for almost tow years. But within the last year things have been ...

Abusive husband and started divorce proceedings, is he making me jealous on purpose?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5779 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - if you finally had enough of your abusive husband and started divorce proceedings to which he never answered back to the petition and then you saw him with another woman but still continued with the divorce and got your divorce and never had any ...

What's the best way to get over him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5779 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hi all, theres this guy I really really love and I know we wont work and it's best to get over him :( But whats the best way to do it ? Should I delete his number and msn and bebo ? Its far to hard to remain friends with him :( please help ! xxx...

Break the clingy habit?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5779 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - How can I stop being whiny and clingy? My boyfriend and I used to be like best friends. We had the same friends and did everything together. One of our male friends and I used to be really close. We would hug and and hang out all day, it was never ...

Did she just make it up that she has a boyfriend? Does she want me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5777 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - I've been seeing a woman that I work with, from Nicaragua, she has 2 children from different men who both abandoned her while pregnant. It took me 3 months for her to agree to see me outside of work, 2 months as friends, and 3 months ago is what ...

My husband won't speak to me and does all he can to completely ignore and avoid me.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5776 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - My husband won't speak to me and does all he can to completely ignore and avoid me. He does come home from work every night but goes directly into the garage. Tonight he was carrying a bag, he placed it on the steps, picked it up, took it to the ...

I want him to come home after work!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5780 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - i am egaged to my son father he is 26 and i am to . we broke up he had nother child with some one else . he always goes out after work with his friend that is 21 and never come straight home. im not sayin he cant hang out with his male friends but i ...

Do I forgive her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

30 January 2009 (M) - Hi, it's me again I posted recently about a girl admitting she had feelings for me while having trouble with her boyfriend. Well whats happened now we had another falling out after she misunderstood something I said. What happened was she...

My boyfriend is bi, even gay and likes transexuals.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5780 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of 7 years is bi maybe even gay, but he won't admit it, and I'm gutted he wont tell me the truth, we have never really had good sex, but he is a good friend and I do love him, he likes transexuals etc. That's all, he looks at on the ...

Do you think I should wait for her to come back from her year out and ask her out again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5776 days ago

30 January 2009 (M) - Hello, A year or so back I started university and made friends with one of the kindest and nicest looking girls I have met. We meet up every week to chat and frequently chat online too. In November I took her to the botanical gardens to tell ...

Still love him but can't get over him cheating

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5771 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my partner for just over four years. A year into the relationship, he cheated on me. I found out a week later and kicked him out and he then spent four months in a relationship with this other woman. All the while he was texting and ...

All my life, I have tried to show everyone that my family didn't beat me, and now I don't know how to deal with my problems.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5779 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I have had a problem for quite some time. I need some help with it. It started with my grandmother, she was very controlling, and manipulative, just generally a sick person. My dad was the first, and he was the favorite. There were four kids a...

He says if we're not 'intimate', he won't introduce me as his girlfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5780 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I had the 'sex' talk last night. He's been making comments, jokes about us having sex, so I set him straight and said, 'I'm not ready.' He was respectful and we continued on... We're all lovey dovey. But he did say, "I want to ...

How realistic are my chances with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5780 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I like my guy friend, J. He has a girlfriend who's going back to Europe in June. He likes her physically but called her a whore and never talks about her to anyone. My friend A also likes J but isn't allowed to talk to him because his of girlfriend, ...

Should I accept the fate of my 3 week marriage?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5718 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - HI everyone, this is gonna be kind of long and hopefully that doesn't lose your interest. I have been with my husband for 4 years, but we just recently got married jan 10(this year) He used to be different, I don't even know who im with anymore, he ...

He says I don't need to know anything about his "female" friends!?!?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5780 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I have been dealing with this guy for 10 years with 1 year of us broken up. We got back together 2 years ago. I'm not the type of person to give up on a relationship. Today I found that my guy has signed up for single web sites, which i found ou...

How to make her forget how I acted and start afresh, confident and assertive.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5780 days ago

30 January 2009 (M) - I need some advice. I have been dating a girl for three years. Half of the time we lived in the same city; the other half has been long distance. The distance has been getting to me. Despite the lack of evidence, I have been: (1) suspecting her ...

I really miss him but I want to be close to him as we were.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5780 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - My ex keeps contacting me via email, we only split 2 weeks ago, or should I say 1 week ago, coz he kept coming round crying and saying he loves me and kissing me. He even said he didn't wanna know me for the rest of his life. Now he wants to be f...

Am I bad? Have I done such a bad thing?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5780 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Six years ago I left my husband for another man. I have never been able to quite forgive myself because I know it hurt me children very much. I had been married for 21 years and had suffered badly. My husband took our first child from me in hospital ...

I'm in love but I suspect my man is cheating, how can I catch him...?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5780 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I'm in love but I suspect my man is cheating, how can I catch him...? I can't go through his phone because no one calls and he tells everyone that does call to call him back because he's with me. What do you suggest???...

Should I give this man up or continue to be a goofy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5780 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Hello, I'm currently in a relationship but it seems like every time he wants to be free he tells me "I'm not messing with you any more" but then when he wants to come home it's "oh baby I love you". 9 out of 10 I'm pregnant but I don't think I can ...

My virginity... or lack of!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5780 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I'm not a virgin and now I'm getting married. Is it possible that my husband would come to know that I'm not a virgin and moreover can it is possible to know all that through a DNA test?...

Boyfriend talking to another girl on MSN but says there is nothing in it???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5780 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Last week my boyfriend left his MSN open. I went into it and seen that he had been messaging a girl. The messages were not of a sexual nature however he was saying that they must mail in secret so that I would not find out, he was saying how bad ...

I'm hurting... how can I learn to trust him again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5780 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I've been in a relationship now for 3 years and now have a 3 month old baby boy who we love amazingly, 3 months into the relationship my boyfriend went away to America and ended up extending it. I did ask if he had met someone else as it was odd, he ...

He wants to fool around. Should this be ok?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5778 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Is it wrong for my husband to feel no jealousy? A man at my work recently made it clear he would fool around if it was OK with me. I told my husband, and he said to (not do anything, but to) be nice to him, and not make him feel uncomfortable. ...

Distressed lover

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5780 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I have been seeing this guy for about 3 yrs. When we talk about marriage he tells me that its him not me, and it's not the time. I love him, and I know he loves me. He is always honest with me all the time, and I'm not just saying that because I ...

My girlfriend is being manipulated by another man. How do I get her to let him go?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5734 days ago

30 January 2009 (M) - I'll start by giving a little bit of detail about my girlfriend and I. We're both 22 years old, we have been dating very seriously for four years, and we are pretty much best friends. We have never had any big fights or rough spots in the ...

How can I forgive him? Where do I begin to find the forgiveness over the anger and pain?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5779 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - So I'm going to try and be brief with my history. I am married to the absolute love of my life. He has done everything completely right...Up to this point. Back in october 08 I took in a 17 year old girl who was heading down a path I knew all too ...

My boyfriend has switched from watching amateur to mainstream porn.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5778 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has switched from watching amateur to mainstream porn. Why is this? I know I'll get bashed, because I'm the insecure type. I know men will tell me to get over it and quit being such a controlling girlfriend, but hey, I know that and ...

My boyfriend keeps texting me about having sex with someone else!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5781 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for a long time but he keeps texting me saying he can't wait to have sex with another lass and give me awful descriptions of what he is going to do to her. It really hurts me and I try talking to him and he just laughs a...

I'm not going to let him have his way, I want him to take me serious.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5781 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - What the heck?!? My boyfriend of a few days kept joking around and making comments about having sex. So, I figured that I should mention 'no sex' yet. I want to get to know him better and not rush into it! Basically, I'm not ready yet. His respo...

Why did my boyfriend lie about the mystery girl he was texting?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5780 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Why did he lie about something like that? I have a bit of a problem. My boyfriend and I have been on a break since november. Until around christmas, we had very little contact. For about a month, he didn't answer my calls or text messages, etc. B...

A foolish affair turned sour.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5781 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Regretfully, I have been having an "affair" with one of my husband's oldest friends. This guy lives over 500 miles away from us, and we have met up a few times, and talk for hours on the phone/e mails. I've left my husband, not for this guy, but for ...

I never think about having sex with my boyfriend, or I am NEVER in the mood.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5779 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I have a HUGE problem! I'm a 22 year old Nursing student... I'll be 23 Feb 28th and I never care to have sex. I am healty, 5'1'' 140lbs, work out regularly and I am usually a very sexual person, and always think about looking sexy or feeling sexy. ...

Every time I like a girl and ask them out I get shot down.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5781 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - Hi there, I'm new to this so hear I go. I'm 21, I have never had a girlfriend because of the way I look. I never had sex but that's not a big thing. Every time I like a girl and ask them out I get shot down. Is there anything I can do....

What man stares at another man with passion in his eyes?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5780 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I've been married for 1 year but with this man for 6 years. Before we got married any woman would have wanted him, strong, smart, handy, a great lover, a good friend, I can go on , but I will stop there because it all was a bunch of bull sh!t. Maybe ...

Break my heart over and over...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5781 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - Hello, I love her. But she does not love me. I think she just liked me as a friend. She broke up with her boyfriend a time ago. But still loves him. We've seen eachother from time to time and I thought she liked me. She flirted, she was smilling ...

How can I lift his spirits? Is time the only healer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5781 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I have just broken up with my boyfriend of 4 years. This is the second time it has happened (the first time, we had one year apart before giving it another go), however this time we are living together. I feel so terrible, as there is nothing ...

I am pregnant and don't know who the dad is? One is white, one is black

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5781 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I am 4 months pregnant and my boyfriend who thinks he is the dad and is in prison. My midwife worked out my due dates and the baby could have a different father, who is black called W. I slept with them both within a day of each other (as I...

My husband and my friend... an item?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5780 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 11 year and were together for 14 years. Then about two and a half years ago I injured my back at work. It has been rough on our relationship that is for sure. We were making it though we supported each other ...

For three months everything has been perfect, why now is she acting different?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5781 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - I've have been talking to this girl for about 3-4 months and we never had an issue on communication or distancing, until recently in the last week. She would text me and call me regularly and I would do the same also. We would spend our latter half ...

Is cyber sex just as bad as physical cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5165 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hi, i have a problem i am in a happy relationship i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he works away in the week i only see him at weekends. I have been chatting to this guy online but i also now him, everytime we talk after a while it ...

My GF's parents think I'm too old!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5781 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - I'm 20 and my girlfriend has just turned 16, when she was 15 she told me that her parents were strict and wouldn't approve of the relationship, she's now 16 and they found out about us even though we didn't want them to know yet. They've made her...

Do you guys think, he still loves me?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My husband and I like to do 3somes sometimes. It's his fantasy.. to have a 3some. I am not a lesbian but I like to try have 3some and want to know what it's like. I just want to make my husband happy cuz he tells me he never had any chance to do ...

Boyfriend get drunks every night and friends don't like him!!!

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29 January 2009 (F) - Hi there. I've got a problem with my boyfriend. I love him very much. My family are very rich and my boyfriend don't have money. We met on the internet. We are going out 5 months now and my parents like him but he's got a drinking problem. He ...