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writes:Hi folks... look at me the bore sitting in on a Saturday night!!...Okay, so I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 months now. We dated loads before we said we were 'official.' And in any respect, we've done the whole relationship thing quite traditionally. It's perfect. However, despite him meeting my whole family and all of my closet friends; I haven't met his. (Bar one of his mates). Tonight for example, he's out with his friends - and I wasn't invited. I know we're only new - and I'm in no rush to meet the in laws - it's more of a paranoia thing on my part. Why isn't he proud of me? The thing is; I worked with my boyfriend and his brother last year, and got on very well with both of them. Since leaving my job, I'm no longer in contact with his brother and from what I've learned, he doesn't even know we've been dating!?...We spend an awful lot of time together, and I can't help but wonder why I haven't been introduced. Another example was when he was out with friends two weeks ago for a birthday party - (no invite) which was fine - I went out with my own friends but the next day, he casually mentions that all his friend's girlfriends were there...??What springs to mind is the episode of SATC, where Carrie bumps into her friend in the backstreet Chinese - a restaurant where he takes his girlfriend because he's ashamed of her?...Am I being paranoid? Is it too young a relationship to even care about friends or family? Or are my fears true - is he ashamed of me??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): Haha don't ask it like that then.
I understand you though and I'd probably feel the same if I were you!
He should be proud of you and want to show you off a bit (not in a bad trophy gf way of course)
When you guys are hanging out sometime just casually be like 'hey so am i gonna meet some of your mates sometime? You know just so I know you actually have some..? Jokes'
Maybe without the joking part haha
But yeah you should definitely just ask him - communication is the key!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (31 January 2009):
 What's desperate about it? You've been together now for 3 months! It's only natural you want to see the kind of guys he hangs around with and after all, he's met your mates. If it's annoying you so much (and it is to the point where you're becoming a bit paranoid) then simply ask him. You could even say to him in jest "hey I'm just thinking, I've never met any of your friends, are you embarrassed to have them meet me?" and when he says "no, of course not..." then THAT'S when you ask to meet up in the pub one night, his mates and their girlfriends.
~Eve~
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your response. Isn't that a little desperate though? "Why can't i meet your friends and family?"
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reader, AskEve +, writes (31 January 2009):
Yes, I think you're being paranoid. Instead of letting these worries grow why don't you just ask him if you can meet some of his mates, even try to organise going to the pub with a couple of his mates and their girlfriends. He probably doesn't think it's a big deal but I bet if you asked him he'd have no problem with it.
~Eve~
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