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writes:Is it wrong for my husband to feel no jealousy? A man at my work recently made it clear he would fool around if it was OK with me. I told my husband, and he said to (not do anything, but to) be nice to him, and not make him feel uncomfortable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): Thank you, all, for your answers. I do know my husband loves me, and we've never had a reason to be jealous of each other, so it was new ground. After many years of marriage it is surprising to find out that he likes it when other men find me attractive (lately I have finally gotten back to my pre-baby baring weight, and since it is fun and convenient, I have been dressing in my daughters' clothes. The combination has made my 40's probably the most feminine-affirming decade of my life. I feel almost powerful). My husband and I have always been friends first, with great benefits, but there have now been things that I'm not so sure I should tell him. This guy at my work was an easy one to bring up with him because, although I like the attention, I'm not seriously interested. Maybe I want him to be jealous because there is another who is very tempting, that I'm not able to ignore, but I definitely don't want to talk about with my husband, again, because I know I like the attention.
now, before you think I have serious attention needs, I have always been marching to my own drummer, but I was not hideous or repulsive ever. I'm described by men as confident, but I am always attracted to those who are attracted to me. Who doesn't want to be wanted?
You're right. I shouldn't be looking for a caveman reaction. I am very happy to have the freedoms I have because of our trust. Thanks, all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): Why would he go into a jealous rage? He trusts you and you came and told him about it and he is trying to fix it for you by telling you to just ignore the guys advances but be nice to him so as not to hurt his ego since he works with you and you will need to have a good working relationship, but if the guy doesn't stop his advances, I would be more blunt with him or take it to your HR dept.
Be happy your husband loves you this much, I don't think it means he doesn't care, he does or he would have ignored the whole thing completely.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (30 January 2009):
 He is not feeling threatened by this man and completely trusts you! He told you to be nice and not embarrass the man. He did NOT tell you to fool around with him! Why should he be jealous that some guy finds his wife attractive? He is probably proud that his wife is so lovely that another man desires her. As long as he knows that your heart belongs to him and you would never respond to this mans advances, why should he get in a tizzy?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 January 2009):
 I'm with Gina on this one.
But I have a question. Do you want him to be jealous?
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