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anonymous
writes:How can I stop being whiny and clingy? My boyfriend and I used to be like best friends. We had the same friends and did everything together. One of our male friends and I used to be really close. We would hug and and hang out all day, it was never going to go anywhere past friendship. Knowing that my boyfriend still didn't like any of that so we stopped, which resulted in me spending all my time with my boyfriend and less with my other friends. I don't blame him because I'm a very jealous person, never meaning to be, so I understood where he was coming from. Now 2 years later and still together, my boyfriend says he isn't totally happy with me. He says we would be fine if I didn't whine as much or wasn't always around. I try so hard to give him his space, but I still find myself doing the same thing all over again. I guess it's a habit from when he always wanted me there. I just don't know what to do. I'm even 4 months pregnant with his baby. I want to fix everything before it's too late. I love him and would do anything to change, it's just hard. I know my best friend is still deep inside, and things could change. I just need a little guidance on what to do.
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reader, rcn +, writes (31 January 2009):
 View your relationship as a choice and not an obligation. You choose to be with him, as he chooses to be with you. You can hand with and talk with who you want, and so can he. You trust the other person won't violate your relationship, but without restricting situations where they might. If they do, you can choose to forgive or leave. The strongest relationships don't have restrictions, because each person knows who they want to be with and refrain from doing anything that will change being with who they choose.
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