A
male
age
41-50,
*ennoxpb
writes:Dear Cupid,I have been seeing a girl for around four months. She works with me, but not closely. At work we always take breaks together and mostly have lunch together. We sort of started to see each other outside of work, we have slept together, and talk every day. We send little messages like Kisses! and XOXO. The problem is that she doesn't want anyone to know about me. She knows my family and friends, but to hers I don't exist. I have never been allowed in her house, which she says is because she is afraid her ex will show up and cause a scene. Away from work it always seems that she doesn't have time for me, and it is hard to ever get her to be with me when she doesn't have to be. I feel like I am a secret or that she is ashamed of me. She knows how much I care about her, but she never tells me how she feels. I am afraid that I am being used until someone better comes along, but all the people who know her say she is bluntly honest and speaks her mind, except to me. How can I tell her I feel like a secret or that I feel like I am her shame without making her lose faith in me. Please help!!
View related questions:
at work, her ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, The old Man? +, writes (1 February 2009):
 When you say that she wont tell you how she feels about you, that sends up the proverbial red flag! As the old saying goes, "if a gal wont tell you what her feelings are for you, she has none".
Now I'm not saying that she doesn't like you, but I think you're on the right track when you say that you are afraid that she is using you until someone else comes along.
A
female
reader, TornHeart +, writes (31 January 2009):
 Wow, she sounds like a jerk. If she is so blunt and honest, I doubt she would mind if you are as well. Tell her how you feel, but don't accuse her of anything. Just say that you care a lot about her and want to meet the people in her life. When you tell her how you feel, if she doesn't respond, ask her "how do you feel about me?". Good Luck!
...............................
|
