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Archived questions from: 18 January, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Mom too judgemental - don't know what to do

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5772 days ago

18 January 2009 (?) - Ok my problem has to do with my mom. I have been seeing this guy and I want him to meet my parents my dad is totally ok with it, but my mom is very judgmental, she has this ideal guy in her head and if a guy I'm interested in doesn't meet her ...

Big argument!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5792 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Hi, the other day me and my best mate were in the park chatting to her boyfriend and his mates and somehow my boyfriend saw us and later that day me and my mate where at my house and my boyfriend came round and started shouting at me and then he ...

I have thoughts on a regular basis that the two of us should probably go our separate ways.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5792 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - I've been with my girlfriend for just over 4 years, we met at university and have been together ever since. However I can remember as little as 6 months had passed before I started to have doubts; the doubts were usually pushed aside by long ...

Discussing difficult situation from past with new girlfriend

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5792 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - I'm 17, and a junior in high school. Last summer, an ex girlfriend of mine falsely accused me of attempted rape. The case didn't get very far, the police dropped it almost immediately, and another organization that specializes in sex abuse cases for ...

He says if I don't stop being so jealous and insecure it's not going to work, But I can't help it, what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5778 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years. We have had good times and bad. This my first relationship, well real relationship. Every other guy in my life has hurt me. I feel like I'm not good enough for him. He looks at porn a lot and it ...

My b/f & I just can't communicate!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5792 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I don't understand why my b/f and I cannot communicate. He can be so patient and kind when talking to other family members or friends, as they ramble on and on about endless details on things I know he couldn't care less about but the minute I try ...

It just seems like he doesn't care

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5792 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend are having problems at the minute. We keep arguing about stupid little things, and I always get upset and start crying. When I do this, it's like he doesn't care. He won't hug me, or anything like that, he just blanks it out. It ...

B/f keeps calling me a bitch

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5792 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Every time I play with him and he gets mad, he calls me a bitch. He called me that because I use to have a habit of calling him one, but I stopped, because I hate when he calls me that. He said he doing it to me cause i call him that. I Like i s...

I overheard my wife & her friend talking about how great an ex's body was--she still has pictures!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5791 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - My question is about pictures. My wife and I will be married 3 years this summer. Over time, I have discarded pics of ex-girlfriends. I'm sure there may be some still in an envelope or something, but as I find them, I throw them out. My wife stil...

He wasn't in contact, I slept with someone else and turns out they know each other

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5791 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - i was seeing a guy for about a month and a half..over christmas i didnt see him at all. now it has been a month since i have seen him. he never texts me first but he does always reply to my texts and we saw each other about once or twice a week. but ...

He accuses me of cheating, now I haven't heard from him in 2 weeks

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5792 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - We’ve been together for 3months.. after 2 months he changed and started been all weird and not calling me much.. he use to call me everyday..last time i saw him he got really angry and accused me of cheating on him...saying i am not giving him sex ...

Attracted to cheating spouse's friend after trying to reconcile..

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5790 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - My husband has cheated on me three times, the first two were one night stands, this second time he actually moved out and had a "relationship" with the woman he started cheating with. Our marriage was very dysfunctional for years, I take re...

It's almost too much now to keep everything straight at work, home, and even with her. Any advice would be helpful.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5790 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - I've been in this relationship with a single woman for 6 months, I'm unhapply married 30 years. It's getting harder with her when I leave to go home. She keeps saying she wants me to stay, that really makes me mad. Doesn't she realize I that it's ...

He's emotionally abusive, and physically as well. He's manipulative, controlling, and a very angry person.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5792 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been in a serious relationship with each other for almost four years now. I am 17 and he is almost 18. I do love him, and he says that he loves me. Things have been going sour for awhile now. I'm confused, and would ...

Question of marriage

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5792 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I have been a good relationsship for nearly 20 years. My partner doesn't want to get married or have children (though initially he wanted both and then changed his mind about 3 years into the relationship and then asked me to marry him about 7 ...

My boyfriend slapped me

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 5388 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Ok, so I was walking in the mall with my boyfriend and suddenly a girl (stranger) came to me and whispered in my ears, "Check your pants zip". Obviously, I was so embarrassed and so when my boyfriend asked me what she said, I just lied to him that ...

Why do they always break my heart??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5792 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I've had 4 failed relationships and all of them didn’t turn out well at all.. in the beginning it would be soo nice.. but then after a while all the phone calls would stop and it seem like am the only one tryng to make it work. trying to force them ...

Am I being too forgiving??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5785 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I am wondering if I am being too nice by accepting my bf's apology? We are both 20 years old and have been going out for about 3 months. From when I first met him, I had a really good gut feeling about him, I felt he was genuine and the real thi...

Her inconsistencies are driving me up the wall...please help!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5791 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - I moved in with a girl two years ago after talking on the phone for several months quite extensively about mutual our desires to have a family and and finally meeting in San Francisco. She flew out to meet me from the east coast. We had a great ti...

Why does my mum keep hitting me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5792 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I love my mum, but she has been really stressed at work and my dad has been ill. She has started hitting me almost every night really hard. I'm covered in bruises and don't know what to do. She never hits my twin brother or my sister and I don't ...

I have sexual feelings towards my own mother since childhood, what to do...?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5788 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - Myself 22 year old, I never asked this to anyone coz it's too weird but I want to ask you. I have sexual feeling for my mother since I was very small I use to smell my moms clothes left in the bathroom like her bra and panty I didn't know about ma...

He no longer replies to my texts...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5789 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - This boy which is my friend's cousin. He laughs with me and we are really close at school. I thought he liked me but now he only answers my texts when he wants to. I hate sending him a text and him not replying any more. Do you think he knows that I ...

Do I say yes and have a niggle in the back of my every time we kiss. Or say no and forget him.....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5792 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Dear cupid. I have a bit of a dilemma. There is a boy who's 16. I went out with him a while ago. But we split because he wanted sex and I wasn't ready. Anyway a few months down the line he has asked me out saying he will go really slow this tim...

Did he do something wrong or am I being over-sensitive?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5792 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - A few weeks ago I met a guy and we got along very well. I liked him, he liked me. We hung out a fair bit of the last few weeks. This guy had known my house mate for five years. They had always got along very well and liked each other so often t...

How can I get her to understand how I feel without it blowing up into a huge fight like it has been?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5793 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - I'm currently in the middle of an argument with my girlfriend. I think she's being completely unfair. about 6 months ago she asked me to stop talking to my ex girlfriends because it made her uncomfortable. I agreed and it wasn't an issue until ...

Married & cheating with a co-worker

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5754 days ago

18 January 2009 (?) - I cheated on my wife with a co worker (we made out once). I completely regret and I wish didn't. My wife always has been faithful towards me. She has no I idea what I have done. Should I tell her? The co worker keeps flirting with me and I can't ...

Married with kids and in love with an old lost love

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5791 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my husband for 12 years and married 6, We have two kids together a son 16 months and a daughter 4. Recently I have found a lost love online that I have been searching for since before I was married. I love my husband but feel I am ...

If I don't give him what he wants, will he drop me for someone older?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5790 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Hey people I'm 13 years old + I'm going out with a 16 year old guy. I know technically it doesn't matter but I've been told by almost everyone I know that it is "immoral", he is "too old", and I should "stick to people my own age". Please don't gi...

I feel like I'm raising 3 children instead of two

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5793 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and 3 months. i moved in with him a couple months after we were together. he is 30yrs old and lives with his mother. he used to work but got laid off do to work conditions. well now we have a b...

My b/f hates my past

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5793 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm very hurt. I've been with my boyfriend for little over two years. In the beginning everything was fantastic. It still is, usually. However he hates my past. I didn't do anything wild. Just normal. But he hates it because this is a small...

I don't want to be with my partner anymore

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5793 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Ive been with my partner for 4 years we have a 15 month old child together. I started a new job recentley and met a guy on my there we were totally friends, but then on a group night out we ended up kissing and i ended up staying at his and having ...

I think shes still attracted to my friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5793 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend for 3 months now, and I have a question for everyone. When we first met, she was interested in a good friend of mine. However, after getting to know eachother, she decided she wanted me. Based on having similar t...

Male perspective: Haven't spoke to boyfriend since x-mas

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5785 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I have not spoken to my boyfriend since before xmas. I had a death in the family of a close relative. I have three children. Youngest is his. We dont live together. Many years of togetherness and he has been fairly supportive. things just got ...

I hate my stupid boyfriend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5124 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I hate my boyfriend!!!!! We have been together for coming upto 5 years, we have a 1 year old little girl. He drives me insane, everything he does is totally annoying Im sure half of it he does on purpose surely no human being can possibly be that ...