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writes:Hello, I love her. But she does not love me. I think she just liked me as a friend. She broke up with her boyfriend a time ago. But still loves him. We've seen eachother from time to time and I thought she liked me. She flirted, she was smilling (big) when I gave her a compliment. She touched me, she laughed. Some days ago I've told her that I loved her, and she said she loved her boyfriend, and they are being together I think, but she also said he didn't love her the way she loves him. I was very sad, after hoping such a long time to be with her. She said she was sorry and that she worried. That she should have said she didn't love me earlier. She said I can't give you what you want from me and I hope that this is clear. She also told she thought that I would understand her situation, Now I am very sad. I can't forget her, she's all there is, for me. Was she just playing with me, feeling needy, and just wanted to use me... What should I do, I can't forget, I love her for years, she thinks I am a kind guy and I think that's all.What should I do, I can't live without her, I hoped for her my whole life.thanks
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reader, cdjudd  +, writes (29 January 2009):
This is a horrible situation to be in. I have been there myself. The best advice I can give you, is to walk away. She won't forget you but you have to think about this in a different perspective aswell. If she was to leave him, what makes you think this wouldn't be repeated while you were together? Now, she obviously is very respectful to you and her boyfriend. But still it's better to walk away and hurt then to hurt and wait for however long this could be. Try to keep yourself occupied and have fun. The more alone time you have you will focus on this and it will just make things worse. This was my experience, and she ended up being my girlfriend 6 months later. Best of luck.
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reader, KickRox +, writes (29 January 2009):
 It's weird but you really can't control who we fall in love with. Sometimes a jerk, or someone who doesn't love us back in the same way. Anyways, I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt you. She probably just saw it on her part as a friendship. And now she realizes that she might of lead you on by being so kind. Well think of this way..she's being honest that she still has feelings for this other guy. So, you can either leave it as friends or if you just can't be around her because of your strong feelings for her...It's best that you keep your distance.
Have fun and go out there and meet some nice girls! Good luck and Hope this helped a bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): I don't think she meant to hurt you on purpose. It sounds like she honestly did like you for a time but her true love is that boyfriend. Even though this has deeply hurt you, try to see things from her point of view.. She told you the truth, which is good, because a relationship based on lies and half-meanings wouldn't work out - simple. The best thing you can do is be there for her when she needs you, try to move on, and HAVE FUN. You never know, in time her feelings towards you could change but it is not fair for you to postpone your life on false hope. There will be someone special out there for you, sometimes it just takes a long time to find them :(. Go out and enjoy yourself, You're still young! x
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