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Archived questions from: November, 2009 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

Help! How do I let him go...?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend, "Chris", broke up with me. I honest to God, truly loved Chris. I wanted to be with him forever, but he didn't see it the way I did. I'm heartbroken now, and I don't know what to do. I've told him before how much I liked him, but he ...

I know she loves me and this is just mind games she's playing. How do I win her back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5474 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - Never wrote like this before so here goes. I left my wife 3 years ago, I still loved her but the relationship was one sided, I left to see if she cared, as it turned out she did not want me back, leaving her and four kids. So to cut a long story sh...

I can't just be his friend... it hurts too much...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - I am 15 years old and me and my boyfriend split up about a month ago and i thought things were going to be fine. I started seeing this other lad and things seem good to start with. Then all my feelings for my ex came back and i split up with my ...

How do I change my jealous feelings?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - five months ago I ended it with my boyfriend of 7 years. He had a huge problem with drugs and could be aggressive and abusive. My family begged me to leave him and so finally I did. It felt a relief and I really felt I had moved on. That was until I ...

Please help, I need to get this idiot out of my head.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5407 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - Hi , Yes iv written before when my then boyfriend was being bad, distant and cold. He kept calling i rejected the calls and avoided the texts. then he turned up at my doorstep a couple of days later begging for anothr chance and I gave him one (de...

I feel there is so much still left unsaid between us, where do we go from here?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I would really appreciate some advice. My ex and I were together for 6 years, all lovely at first but he was going through a divorce at the time which took a toll on him individually and us as a couple. It didn't help that he can be verbally...

Now she has found someone else I want her back

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - After a few months of ongoing fights and quarrels, I made the biggest mistake ever: I cheated on her. After a few more fights, we broke up and went our seperate ways. A couple months after we broke up, she started dating this other guy. I realiz...

I feel like she is using me and I don't know what to do about it.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5462 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - My ex-girlfriend of one year and I recently broke up about a month ago. She knows I want to fix things and get her back in my life. We still text everyday and there is no resentment towards each other. Over the holiday weekend we met at a bar with ...

I'm afraid he isn't over his ex. How do I talk to him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5473 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - ok well i met this amazing guy 7 months ago but its my cheer friends ex.so me and him have been dating for 7 months now and its been great. me and my cheer friend arent friends anymore because of it. but theres a bigger problem then that. i made a ...

How do I reconnect with her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5473 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - my question is how do i reconnect with a old girlfriend when she is much more succesful and attractive then me without being that friend. we just started talking again and it seems that she is somewhat intrested in me but i just dnt know since ive ...

Got back together with an ex, but I think he's still in love with his ex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - im 18, i first met my ex when i was 16 we started dating and were serious right off the bat...well i ended the relationship then restarted it then ended it then restarted it again...then after i graduated i broke up with him..i had many reasons for ...

Is he still hung up over his ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5475 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - I'm in my first semester of uni and I met this guy. We get along really well and flirt a lot. We have had out moments such as sleeping in the same bed or drunken nights together. There's definitely some sort of attraction but I also know he is hung ...

Was I wrong to go with my instincts and look in his phone?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - I've been dating a wonderful guy for about 5 months and the other day for some reason, I looked at his text messages while he was in the shower, I found some messages from a girl who I think is an ex. She accused him of cheating on her, and she ...

Back with my ex gf, and nothing's the same! Now what?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5475 days ago

29 November 2009 (M) - I got back together with my ex (were together 4 years)after a long drawn-out breakup in which we both had rebounds. We both made mistakes, and we both are willing to address them. She acts much differently now though: passive, unenthusiatic, ...

I want to talk to him but can't seem to find the words

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5475 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I would really appreciate some advice. My ex and I were together for 6 years, all lovely at first but he was going through a divorce at the time which took a toll on him individually and us as a couple. It didn't help that he can be ...

Love my ex but there's another guy in the picture now

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5475 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - Ok i was dateing this guy for 7 months. He was my first true love then he lied to me and said that he dont have his phone any more and cant talk to me so he broke up with me. But the truth is he still has his phone and that his parints made him ...

Even hearing he's ex's name makes me ill!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 4months and yesterday was the first time i met his 4year old son. It was so weird hearing him call my bf 'daddy'! I'm quite a jealous person and i can't stand his ex (the mother of his son) but they get along very ...

Twenty years later my abusive ex is still following me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - After you have left an abusive relationship that lasted 20 years, and you left nearly 2 years ago, why would the abusive person stil seem to try and follow you around even when they have got a new girlfriend?...

My ex is blocking me on MSN and facebook and I don't know why

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

29 November 2009 (M) - this might take long so please bare with me my ex is not talking to me and is ignoring me. we went out for 6 months and broke up 8 months ago and we were really good friends and we talked alot. she lives down south now so we text eachother and ...

His new wife and I just don't get along. What's the best way to handle this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - I have a new question, what I do? My ex is still in love with me, but i am not with him, it only goes as far as him staring at me at holidays ect, for instance we were married 19 years then i divorced him he was hitting me and jealous all the time. ...

Hair pulled out of head...I never needed advice more in my life as I do now. Whats your thought on this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

29 November 2009 (M) - Hey guys, Background first of all, I'm in a relationship that is requiring a lot of work to keep going. I love Sarah to bits but its really hard to make us work. We are together for more than 2 years. We took breaks(not seeing other people) a ...

Am I a clingy girlfriend if my past with him made me insecure?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5474 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - before we started dating my junior year he used to talk to lots of girls but there was this other girl who basically caught all his attention. the 3 months tat we dated..i lost it...to him then 2 months later he transferred bak to the same skool tat ...

I had an affair with a womanizer then gave his wife my email and password to show her the proof

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - Hello, This is just a follow up of what I have written earlier. I got involved with a 68 yrs old man thru internet online and he is married. He is a womanizer, but still I loved him and even learned to love his imperfections. Up front I told him...

I'm tormented by the fact that she's had a 'bigger' man than I

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

28 November 2009 (M) - My girlfriend has just recently told me (because my dum ass ask) that she was with a guy so thick she felt pain and once had to see the doctor. to me is like (lucky bastard) i guess i think that's like every man's dream to be able to just do that to ...

He has a girlfriend but wants a threesome with my friend and I

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - I like this guy and he likes me back. but he is 17 and im 15 so we cant date. we still hang out and go to his car and you know the rest of the story. lately he wants to do somthing with both my bestfriend and i,so i said yes beacuse i thought ...

I'm in love with my best friend despite her sexually messy past

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

28 November 2009 (M) - I am 26 and have been best friends with a girl of the same age for 10 years. If people see us, they assume we are a couple, we are in contact every day and see each other as often as we can, maybe several times a week, for food, shopping, or just to ...

She has the proof that he is cheating yet she is still with him!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - I told my ex husbands girlfriend that he was cheating on her and gave her a CD of him and I talking about getting back together! They live together and he wants his cake and eat it to! I told her everything and she is still with him! Why does she ...

Understanding the ex's behavior

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5476 days ago

28 November 2009 (M) - ex partner used to pretend to be jealouse over a long ago friend who I never fancied. Ex pushed to settle down saying I was the one etc. We ended, she did not ask why and is now married. How can you be so in love and jeolose one minute and ...

The ex girlfriend that says she's a friend.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - I don't even know where to begin but here i go i have a wonderful amazing boyfriend that i have been with for seven months now. He loves and tells me he loves me, we have a big age difference i am eighteen and he's thirty three yeah i know right. S...

My ex and I are talking again. Should I tell him I still love him or just leave it as friends?

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27 November 2009 (F) - Alrighty. So my and my boy friend broke up and I really still love him, I've tried to get over him, not talking to him and what not, but it just won't work. Me and him are talking now and I don't know if I should tell him how I still feel or not any ...

My ex seems to be copying me and nw she won't talk to me? What is wrong with her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5477 days ago

27 November 2009 (M) - my ex is not talking to me and is ignoring me. we went out for 6 months and broke up 8 months ago and we were really good friends and we talked alot. she lives down south now so we text each other and talked on msn. but last month i found myself a...

Help!!! What do you do when your best friend fancies your "ex"?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5476 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - Basically, what do you do when your best friend fancies your "ex". I have a history with this guy. She doesnt know I had anything going on so I cant tell her no or anything. Ive only started getting over this guy. I dont know if hes doing this to ...

How do I know I'm not just a rebound?

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27 November 2009 (F) - I recently started dating a man who lives 6-7 hours away from me. We met over the summer in my city when we were both in the same month-long professional development program. He is funny and flirty, but he's like that with everyone. I developed a ...

How dare he try to dictate her life!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

27 November 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I met 4 months ago and are totally in love. Her husband left her for another woman 1 year ago and their divorce is in progress. Unusually, my gf is on very good terms with her in-laws (she's known them 26 years). The in-laws don'...

He still tells me he loves me even though he has a new gf!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend of a year broke up 3 months ago due to him having feelings for another girl.he is now seeing her but still texts me every day and tells me he loves me.why would he do this??...

Ex and facebook behaviro..need advise!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

27 November 2009 (M) - So, the ex is still the ex. She has done some pretty odd things that I have written about on her many times. It was her choice to break up with me and then get back, then break up after creating some more drama. Since September, a drunk dial, an ...

How do I stop myself in the future from feeling the need to snoop?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

27 November 2009 (M) - Hi all, Im feeling guilty about something bad that i did, it was shady and not very nice, and i am lucky to still have my gf afterwards (it seems). I promised myself i would never do this, but i managed to, hate myself for it, and i got caught ...

I broke up with him because of his manipulative ex, but now I don't know what to do!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5452 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - I have a very complicated situation here. I'm in a long distance relationship with this guy. Now before I actually met him he had this female friend, I knew this girl was secretly in love with my bf. So he and I were just friends in the beginning ...

Should my partner tell his daughter that he is her real father?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5477 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - im desperate for someone give some advice about my fella and his daughter.this is going to be long because if i give proper details then you might understand it clearer..my fella (mike) of 8 years told me when i first met him that he had a ...

My ex-boyfriend faces prison for what he did, should I continue case against him?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - I stupidly met up with an obsessed ex boyfriend reasons I do not know nor can explain. We met up and returned home to his house by taxi around 11.30. On entry into the house I went to the toilet. During this time he had taken my mobile and proce...

My guy won't let go of the past...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5478 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - Me and my bf have been together for one year are we great together and get on really well. He says that he loves me loads and would do anything for me but when i was tidying up for him i found loads of stuff from his last gf, he said she was a h...

What is the cure?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5478 days ago

26 November 2009 (M) - I need to know is there a cure? My girlfriend and I broke up last June. I thought I was fine and over her, I do not want to get back together with her or even see her again. But for some reason I found out that she is dating again and has a new ...

My boyfriend said it's too expensive to get a divorce, that's it's only a piece of paper but it's tearing me apart...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship with a guy for almost 4 years now. Living together for most of it. I love him more than anything, and we have been through a lot together. We both have 2 children from previous relationships and all 4 children are ...

Her boyfriend wants her to cut all contact with me even although we're now only friends...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5478 days ago

26 November 2009 (M) - I was with my ex for over 3 years, in which time we became best friends. Her ex use to always cause trouble with us, asking her round to his at 2 in the morning and hooking up with her friends that kind of stuff. Im not a jealous person and I di...

Should I give this some time to see if he comes round?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5478 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - My ex and I were together for over 3 years and broke up. After a year of no contact I still had feelings for him and contacted him and he said he can't jump back into this and it would be like starting over and he doesn't want something serious ...

I don't want to be afraid to love because of one stupid betrayal, how do I move on from this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5462 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - How long does it take for one to forget about the pain of break up and move on to another relationship? It had been 6 months since I broken up with my ex because he cheated on me by chasing another girl at the same time when he was with me. I can ...

I've just come out of a relationship, so why am I attracted to him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5478 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - hope you guys can help me her. a couple of weeks ago a new guy started at my job. ive just come out of a very bad relationship 7 months ago so want a nice stress free life but i dont know whats wrong with me but im strangelt attracted to thi...

How can I rebuild my trust for him after I found these texts on his phone?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5478 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - Iv been with my partner for a couple of months now, and he knows i suffer from really bad trust issues due to a past relationship. But yesterday i was looking on his mobile ( yeah i know its wrong but its something i do to make myself feel better) ...

Girlfriend allows her Ex Boyfriend to stay the night with her.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5478 days ago

26 November 2009 (M) - This is very complicated. My girlfriend who has a 2 yr old with her ex... who abandoned them for a high paying job out of state.... began dating me knowing that I was married but ending my marriage. While we fell in love ..over a two month period of ...

My need to phone him is ruining my life!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - Dear cupid: I have a serious problem and I need help. I don't even know how to describe it so I will describe some incidents that have happenned. One Saturday night I called my bf. He answered and said he is doing something or he is takin...