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female
age
36-40,
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writes:I have a very complicated situation here. I'm in a long distance relationship with this guy. Now before I actually met him he had this female friend, I knew this girl was secretly in love with my bf. So he and I were just friends in the beginning and this was the time I used to figure out the relationship status between him and this girl. Once I was convinced that he's got no such feelings for her, we started dating. Now somehow I knew that this girl would mess things up between the two of us if she knew we where together because she's quite a manipulative person. So I asked my bf not to tell her about us, but somehow she suspected we being together and got it out of his mouth.This real problem is she keep manipulating him, I keep warning him and he keeps on being friends with her. Also to add insult to injury he has started to manipulate me under the pretense of I-am-so-concerned-about-you(I came to know I was being manipulated very late).I dumped him because of all this(the girl is with him and the apple of his family's eyes) and just forgot everything. But he kept on saying "I am sorry, I've changed" and so on... he's also broken up with this girl(but I feel she'll find a way back. So I thought of giving him one more chance, but it seems he's not got rid of his manipulative ways and still keeps making me feel like I'm a monster. Oh and I did tell him that if still he wouldn't stop being a jerk I'd leave and he says that's all I can do when at fault. Sometimes he does come up with a genuine apology but then instead of changing asks me to change him.Don't know what to do.....
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reader, Cute +, writes (23 December 2009):
Cute is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOK I've given him the freedom to decide for himself, but I would very much like to set a boundary I just don't know where to draw a line
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reader, Cute +, writes (14 December 2009):
Cute is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMay be you are write Gina. Whenever I take out the topic of this girl and her awkward behavior towards him, he just brushes of my concerns by saying he won't let her cross her limits and he's not at all interested in her.
Don't know what to do, because there have been times when she's tried to emotionally blackmail him, and he still asks me to stay calm....
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reader, Cute +, writes (11 December 2009):
Cute is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's been about two years....
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reader, Cute +, writes (3 December 2009):
Cute is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Gina, here's an update, I asked him to grow up he says he'll need time, but I really don't know whether to give him time or not, I'm feeling like breaking up again.... Am I being too impatient...
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