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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Iv been with my partner for a couple of months now, and he knows i suffer from really bad trust issues due to a past relationship. But yesterday i was looking on his mobile ( yeah i know its wrong but its something i do to make myself feel better) and i saw some messages from a girl he claims as his ''best friend'', she was saying that she wanted to make love to him and all this other sexual stuff, he had deleted his sent to her but was texting his ex girlfriend asking if she ever thought about them two having intercourse again if they became closer. we spoke and sorted it out and he promised that it was just in the conversation and his ''best friend'' was just a private joke. i want to be able to trust again, but after seeing them messages i want to be constantly with him so i know he's not doing anything with anyone else and we cant. He broke my trust with them texts and i just want to know how i can re-build my trust ?
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reader, Sunflower1969 +, writes (27 November 2009):
Dump him. If he hasn't cheated already then he is planning to. Sorry to say this :0(
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (26 November 2009):
 why would you want to rebuild your trust in this boy? Seems to me he is up to no good, funny sort of joke.
have you considered you may be stuck in some sort of pattern, and are for some reason only chosing people who dont deserve your trust
step back and see how this boy is similar to your ex boyfriend, and once you work it out, any new boys you are attracted to see if they have the same trait, or characteristic and avoid them like the plague.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 November 2009):
So his 'best friend' was texting him with sexual stuff, he had deleted his sent texts, and was also sending sexual texts to his ex? I'm not sure it was a joke, and you might be better thinking about what you want and whether you've be better making a fresh start elsewhere. More than anything, you need to address your trust issues, because this will make future relationships unbearable, especially if you accuse someone who is innocent. Ask yourself why you distrust people, then focus on that and your own happiness instead.
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