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36-40,
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writes:After a few months of ongoing fights and quarrels, I made the biggest mistake ever: I cheated on her. After a few more fights, we broke up and went our seperate ways. A couple months after we broke up, she started dating this other guy. I realized how badly I screwed up and understood exactly what had gone wrong with us. It's been about a year and she's been out of that other relationship for a couple months and I was amazed when we actually started talking(as friends) again! We hadn't actually spoken since we broke up because I just felt it awkward to talk to her while she would have her other around(and it was always awkward when we were in the same room). We've hung out a few times and have a steady friendship going. She found recently out that I may still have feelings towards her, but she just blew it off saying that it was probably a temporary thing or just the ole' "want what you can't have" thing. But she did admit to feeling something while we were watching New Moon together, but, again, said it was probably nothing. Is it possible she has any feelings left for me at all and if so, how can I show her I'm a sincerely changed man without looking dumb and profess a love she won't return? (She always said prove by action, not word..but how?!)Should I just let it all go? I really don't want to, but I'd rather not lose an awesome friend again.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (30 November 2009):
 If she dismisses your feelings for her, it's because she doubts your sincerity and quite honestly, she may not be interested in going down that path with you again. Hold off on professing your love. She's an awesome friend and you should focus on keeping things that way; if a romantic relationship does develop, let it grow out of this friendship. If it doesn't, you still have good friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009): I cant believe I left this stuff out.
there are two major things that I forgot to mention
1. She actually was dumped by the guy
2. I was her first legit boyfriend.
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reader, manaja  +, writes (30 November 2009):
If your hanging out together , she still wants you, she's playing difficult to get and making you sweat, what makes you think that you wont cheat on her again if you have an argument again, how do you know that she wont get rid of you with ease next time you have a major bust up ?
She's a lot more confident now she has your attention an has a new guy in tow, leave it and move on , your still very young. Ive met loads of "awesome friends " on the way and "soulmates" and these days if we pass each other in the streets , we hardly say a few words.
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