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writes:I was with my ex for over 3 years, in which time we became best friends. Her ex use to always cause trouble with us, asking her round to his at 2 in the morning and hooking up with her friends that kind of stuff.Im not a jealous person and I didn't mind them in contact i wanted them to work it out and be civil.So about 6 months ago she broke up with me saying we were getting too serious and she's still young (im 22, shes 21).I said ok and wanted to stop contact she wouldn't leave me and so we remained best friends.Then about 3 months we got in a fight and she threw "im glad i cheated on u" at me! I was like waaa? So it turned out shed been cheating on me with her ex.I was gutted but got over it, even to the point of being friends again.Then a week ago she told me how sorry she is about everything and how i was the best bf a girl could want blah blah blah...i said its ok, lets forget about it all and move on. Then the other day she told me she is now back bf and gf with that ex guy.I said grand hope yer happy (genuinely do). So im thinking theres not much else now she can do, I felt i dealt with the whole thing well.....then yesterday she says to me her bf doen't want us in contact, that he's jealous of me... I was helping her and her dad pick out a new car and he wasn't happy about this.So now basically she doesn't want to cut contact but doesn't want to fight with him, and shes stressed so shes suggesting cutting back contact for a while,as in an email once every week or 2 until he calms down. Would i be a fool to go along with this, or should i just cut contact like i intially wanted to do?I don't want her back, I just want to be friends and her to be happy.....any advice would be great, thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): Hi I wrote the question, thannx for goin to the bother of reading it, kinda dragged my bad.I don agree with anonymous that he's worried i'll do the sae he did, even out of revenge i wouldn't do that thoughThanks Quirk and Caring for yer advice, i think i just needed to hear that, i have moved on i just gave her too much of myself really, time to take it back. Thanks again
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (26 November 2009):
 Absolutely cut contact. You should have cut it when you found out she cheated on you. She left you for the guy she cheated with, dude! Stand up for yourself! Stop with all this "I want her to be happy" crap. SHE CHEATED ON YOU. You need to spend less time worrying about her and her silly ways and more time worrying about you. You get back out there and find a woman who deserves you, and stop worrying about some dumb chick who didn't appreciate you. Her loss!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 November 2009):
You wanted to cut contact, and you knew it was best. Yes, cut contact. He won't calm down, and she cheated on you and was cruel to throw it in your face. Personally, I would run a mile. This new guy is controlling, so let her find out for herself while you move on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): The bf kept in contact with her and got her to cheat. He thinks you can do the same thing.
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