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writes:After you have left an abusive relationship that lasted 20 years, and you left nearly 2 years ago, why would the abusive person stil seem to try and follow you around even when they have got a new girlfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (29 November 2009):
 Because it gives him a sense of power over someone he once had control over and all the while he can give the impression of intimidation it gives him a buzz...he can play 'the big man' in his head when everyone else around him really thinks hes full of s**t and a nightmare.
The whole behaviour (his)covers a really deep seated sense of low self esteem and you were in his trap for quite some time. You don't say if you have kids and it can be hard to escape the father of your children since he probably has access but if you don't have kids there are lots of things you can do to shake him out of your life for good. Apply to the court for a restraining order, or you could move right away...for some women this is their only option!!
If your giving him an ear at any time he is going to keep coming around so, if its reasonable to speak to him and you won't be in harms way, tell him that he isn't to bother you anymore.
You have my sympathy.
AE x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 November 2009):
The reason he's following you around is because he's a nutter that abuses women.
If he won't stop then go to the police and get a restraining order.
Stalking is illegal in the UK.
Good Luck!! xx
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