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writes:My ex-girlfriend of one year and I recently broke up about a month ago. She knows I want to fix things and get her back in my life. We still text everyday and there is no resentment towards each other. Over the holiday weekend we met at a bar with some mutual friends.She came back to my house and as we laid in bed she broke down in tears saying she can't live without me.That was the second time we have had sex since the break up but she still is reluctant to get back together. Now I find outfrom a friend she has been dating a guy for the last two weeks.Obviously that crushed me, I can't even rationalize her mindset. She doesn't know I am aware of this and we have plans for a movie this week. A part of me still wants her back but I feel like I have been used and my feelings mean nothing to her. What do I do please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): If she doenst commit to you as a girlfreind when you ask her to...be cool about and even agree with her why she might think it won't work out beween you..."you're probably right...it would never work." Mention qualities in girls that you like that she doesnt have-making you the selector too. You should say, "lets jsut be freids" before she does. then wait for her to get in touch with you later then tell her, "sorry I can't make it this weekend I've got this hot date...it'll have to be some other time." Be less available and seem happy and content when she calls you. It'll make her want you more.
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (30 November 2009):
 Tell her at some point that night that you would like to get back together with her. If she keeps stalling, let her know that you aren't just going to stick around her entire life for her to make up her mind.
If you want to bring up the fact that you know about this guy, do so, if you don't, it doesn't matter. What matters is that she give you a definite answer and not occasionally sleep with you while she sees other people.
And a word of advice dude, in the future don't have sex with ex girlfriends that you actually care about unless you have already gotten back together again. It is going to be extremely difficult to get over her should you two not end up together.
I wish you the best of luck!
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