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reader, trsmith  +, writes (29 November 2009):
trsmith is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice! I have made my mind up a couple of weeks ago that I am so better without him! I am moving on going to school for nursing! I am a strong person and I can over come this! I have let this man lie to me for to long! I just need some time to heal and I will be fine! I know that there is someone out there for me!! I just wanted the girlfriend to know what a liar he is! And she asked so I told her! We talked on the phone for a while and I told her why we divorced!! Anyway thanks again!
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 He is totally playing you...get out while you have the chance or else your head will be so messed up you won't know if your coming or going. If he won't stay away from you get a restraining order.
It really sickens me when some men play games like this, it's total and utter manipulation to gain maximum benefit to themselves. Even if you do get back with him, whats to say he won't go off with someone else. You hardly have the power in the relationship, he can walk all over you and it seems you will forgive him anything...WHY???
Forget the other girl, leave him and her to whatever (you seriously don't need to know their problems)...get away from him, change your number and inform the police if he becomes a pest.
AE x
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reader, trsmith +, writes (29 November 2009):
trsmith is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis man has been telling me that we were going to get back together! He has lied to me about her! I will not take his calls and he comes to my work! I leave him and girlfriend alone! He begged me to go to marriage counseling with him! Yes the girlfriend was living with him! In therapy he told the therapist he wanted us to get back together and that he was trying to break it off with her! Told me he wanted us to work it out! Ok well tell her to get out of the house and we can I was truly wanting it to work! BUT THE LIES!!! I didn't sleep with him but the way I feel if you will not do it in front of her it is cheating! IT is not because he didn't try! I told him he could not have his cake and eat it to!!!.when he leaves her then we could work on it!
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reader, trsmith +, writes (29 November 2009):
trsmith is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis man my ex husband has been leading me on for some time! He has been telling me that he wanted to get back together! I wanted it as well but he kept telling me lies! He told me that she was just helping him pay the bills, she didn't have a place to go! He felt sorry for her! He even went to marriage counseling with me while living with her! I have backed out of it and I know I am not with him, she is but, He continues to call me telling me he loves me and that I should give him some time! They work together and he said he will get transfered in Dec. and then he will break it off with her and then I could trust him again! But she is still living with him! I can say I was mean but this man has been no angel! He has lead me on and I have allowed it! Not anymore I told him and he said then I guess I will just settle with her!!! Yes When I Set him up as you say I really wanted to get back together!!!!!
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reader, trsmith +, writes (29 November 2009):
trsmith is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes I understand what you are saying! I do back off and then he calls me telling me he misses me and wants us to get back together! I know what I must do and that is move on! I did not want to seem desperate! I was pissed off and wanted her to know that he was lying to both of us! Yes maybe what they have is stronger and yes I have left him alone! Just hurts me and such is life! Just wonder if it is so strong why does he continue to call me! yes I know he is with her! I just know that if I was totally committed to someone I would be calling my ex!
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (28 November 2009):
I would think that the very last person on earth that someone wants relationship advice from is a partners ex...and especially one who is fighting to get him back.
Maybe she doesn't believe you, or maybe what is between them is stronger and not something you even know about. Giving someone a CD of proof seems like a bit of a desperate attempt and even if she is having doubts, I am not sure she would want to admit it to you.
I would back off and leave them alone.
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reader, LadyCorsair +, writes (28 November 2009):
 Some girls will believe whatever their partners tell them, and believe that they love them so much that they let them get away with anything.
Do you want your husband back? If so, telling his girlfriend won't make you look very good in his eyes. Tell him you want to try again and if he does, he needs to dump his girlfriend.
Lady Corsair
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reader, Roadster73 +, writes (28 November 2009):
 sometimes when a woman finds out her man has been cheating.. She will do all she can to stop him going off with the other woman.. Esp if she thinks she can make him happy or that other woman us more attractive/slimmer etc, but eventually most ladies will wise up to him & kick his cheating bot out... She maybe has low self esteem?
I would stay our if it.. Sounds like u r well shot of the rat??
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): Hi. She probably loves him and will just see it as you trying to break them up.
Id back out of it and let them do their own thing now youre no longer with him.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (28 November 2009):
 You sound more than a little bit mean. When you met with your ex husband were you actually interested in getting back together with him or was it just a set up to break them up?
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