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writes:How long does it take for one to forget about the pain of break up and move on to another relationship? It had been 6 months since I broken up with my ex because he cheated on me by chasing another girl at the same time when he was with me. I can still feel the pain of betrayer until today. It is already 6 months and I just can't move on. He is happily attached now. While I am still afraid to open my heart to accept anyone now. Maybe because there are nobody chasing me now too and I really have no interest in love affairs. How can I move on from here? I don't want to be afraid to love because of one stupid betrayal. Would really appreciate any advices from here thanks...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Gina and wontonbomb!
I have feelings for a guy and this guy ask me out. Still I am afraid to let my feelings lose control again however i do have feelings for him that he is at the back of my mind everyday. Should I give him a chance? Coz I am still afraid to trust someone totally now...... I really don't know what to do... I don't want to let this chance pass by me again~~
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Gina and Wontonbon.
I really understand what that means. I will just mix around with people and have fun without thinking of finding the potential. When there is someone who came by, I will be able to open my heart again if his love is true to me. Wontonbon I hope that you will recover soon too and don't be afraid to love again. We should not be beaten by those who cheated on us and I believe we will find our happiness soon. A really special person who truly cares and love us the way we are.
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reader, Wontonbomb  +, writes (28 November 2009):
 I have recently had my heartbroken (within the last week) so I understand the pain you are in but I have to be honest with you in that people who break other peoples hearts never turn out happier for it.
You might feel like you'l never find anyone else but you have to stay positive and reaffirm yourself. I'm struggling to find miss right myself and couldn't imagine anybody wanting me again, the rejection is so hurtful. But remember that people who truly love would never hurt you, so focus your attention on those people around you who care and will take care of you for now. Go out and enjoy yourself without thinking about meeting anybody and before you know it, time will have healed those wounds and you won't be able to keep the guys away.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks I will try until i am 100% ok. Maybe it's true that not all guys are bad but I need some time to gain back my trust =)
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reader, oliviaclairex +, writes (26 November 2009):
 You don't need a guy. Enjoy yourself with your friends etc and have fun. You need to realise that he was just ONE guy. Not all guys act like this or are like this.I know exactly how you feel, I have been cheated on a fair few times.I don't think you should think of guys or date until you are completely 100% over that guy or you will becomes dependent on guys, paranoid that they'll cheat etc.focus on yourself. Get your confidence back and have fun doing so.'If a guy makes you cry he isn't worth it, and when you meet one who is, he won't make you cry'It gets better after it gets harder i promise(: xxxx
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