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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 4months and yesterday was the first time i met his 4year old son. It was so weird hearing him call my bf 'daddy'! I'm quite a jealous person and i can't stand his ex (the mother of his son) but they get along very well and do more things together than i do with him! The slight hearing of her name makes me feel ill. How on earth can i get over this because it's not helping our relationship at all, i go all quite when he speaks about her and i don't want to touch him. Has anyone else had to deal with this? Just really need some advice before i go mad!
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (30 November 2009):
 Get over yourself. His ex has a child with him and she is not going anywhere. If you can't deal with the fact that they have a permanent link because of that child, move on and let him find someone who's mature.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 November 2009):
You need to address the reason for your jealousy, which means looking back at your life and seeing if someone has let you down or hurt you, preventing you from trusting people. And if there is something, I would recommend counseeling, because this jealousy could destroy your relationship now, and others in the future, leaving you confused and unhappy. The fact is, he is with you, not her. That's it. He's committed to you. His ex is a part of his life, and if you want to be with him, you have no choice but to accept her and face this jealousy demon. Look at your life and ask yourself why you're jealous.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (29 November 2009):
 I think you're already quite mad. You've only been with this guy four months, so you need to calm down and realize that not only is a situation that existed long before you came into the picture, but that you aren't more important than his kid and can easily be replaced. The kid and the ex will not disappear, so you need to get over it or find a boyfriend who does not have kids or an ex-girlfriend or any friends for that matter because you clearly need to be the center of attention.
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