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writes:Hey guys,Background first of all, I'm in a relationship that is requiring a lot of work to keep going. I love Sarah to bits but its really hard to make us work.We are together for more than 2 years. We took breaks(not seeing other people) a few times but not longer than 3-4 days each time.Our relationship is worse than this time last year and it feels like I am only with her because we both know that longer we spend together the way we are it will hurt less in the future if we stop seeing each other...Stupid I bet some people are thinking but when you love someone you would try anything.At this point in the relationship I have tried everything! I am not a bad boyfriend and she is a great girlfriend but its just us as a couple seem to have problems. We dont even live with each other and we cant stand the site of each other sometimes!We are both great people but we just bring out the worst in each other.When I started college I started talking to lots of new girls. I get on with them way better, The first few weeks I thought I even started liking one of them. But I only shrugged it to the side because of course I would never cheat on my gf, But I also love her so i thought it was just some stupid fasination.A few months on the college girl and myself have gotten closer and closer and my relationship is still the same. When I go out partying with my college class I get on great, Me and that other girl were joking around but we have really gotten to like each other alot. She gives me all the right "signals" Like flirty, The texting, the laughing, the joking about wanting me. We openly talked about us having sex(jokingly) but it was a pretty intense conversation lolAnyway, My problem/question is What is your advice in what to do? I love my girlfriend but can you see a point in staying together? I would do anything! for her, But I feel like I have already tried everything. I don't want to talk about other girls yet, But what is everyone opinion on her? She is great and I know she would not try to steal any guy away from a girl..But she does know that my relationship sucks as we spoke about it when drunk!Honestly I would really appreciate everybodys opinion on this one. Even if ye think I deserve a good kick in the ass!Thanks in advance Paul
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 Stop trying to avoid the pain and end your relationship. If you bring out the worst in each other, why would you want to continue? You're entirely too young to be stuck in a relationship that's not working.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (29 November 2009):
 well, i think you know what you want to do right now, you almost only listed the negatives with your girl friend. sounds like you'd be better as friends, maybe down the road. in one of my relationships, when i saw myself drifting towards considering other guys, i saw that as a form of cheating, and decided if i'm not happy with the guy i'm with now, and thinking of my future as without him but with another guy, then i am not who I'm suppposed to be with right now. surely you have made a greater commitment to this girl though; still you said you feel like you have tried all you could with it, and if you feel like it's a dead end, then you should move on. tell her you embrace what you had but it isn't there or as strong as it once was, but you'll remember the good times.
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