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writes:I am 15 years old and me and my boyfriend split up about a month ago and i thought things were going to be fine. I started seeing this other lad and things seem good to start with. Then all my feelings for my ex came back and i split up with my boyfriend because i still love my ex. I want to get back with him but when we spoke about it he said he just wants to be friends. I cant stop crying and i am really upset. I dont know if i can continue being his friend because it hurts to much. What should I do?
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reader, RichTea +, writes (4 December 2009):
 I have tried to stay away from my ex but he is always around. I Love Him and I want to go out with hi,. He is the best thing that ever happened to me.
And being away from him is really hard because I just want to be around him all the time.
And someone told me that I should try and ignore him. Well not ignore him but not talk to him as much as i usually would. Apparently this will make him start liking me again and I would do anything to get him back.
But doing both of these ... being away from him and not talkin to him as much ... is too hard and it really hurts. What should I do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009): I am sorry you are feeling so upset. Break-ups are never pleasant.
You would like your ex back, but he is only interested in being friends with you. However, I think trying to just be a friend to him will be very painful and difficult for you. What I think you need right now is distance from him. If it hurts too much to be friends, then that is okay. It's quite understandable, but I think the more you see him and spend time with him, the more upset you will feel. You can get over him, but only with time. You only split up recently, so you are going to be feeling very upset and tearful right now. But it will get better, honestly. You just need space away from him, and patience.
As for the other guy you was seeing, it didn't work out because you are still hurting over your ex. I think that getting involved with someone else right now won't help, not while you are feeling upset and vulnerable. You need to heal over what has happened, and I don't think you are ready for another guy just yet.
Spend time with friends, keep busy, be nice to yourself...it is horrible when you have broken up with someone, but it does get better, and it will for you too. The upset feelings will fade. In the meantime, try and avoid contact with your ex. If it is too painful to be friends, he should understand that. You will be okay. Give it more time, and you will begin to feel better again. x
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (30 November 2009):
 You need to accept your ex boyfriend doesnt want to get back into a relationship with you. Then you need to decide if you can accept being just friends or not. If friends, then build a happy caring friendship, if you cant, you say thanks, but no thanks and move on.
It will hurt for a little while, but as long as you are doing your best not to dwell on things time will do it's stuff and it will slowly get better.
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