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Archived questions from: July, 2009 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

Should I send another text or just hold my breath?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5513 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - For background, my first question was in March. It's called "We've been through more than anyone can imagine..." Thank you! Hi guys, i want to thank you again for all your help and kindness. I wish i had a happier update on the situation but i ma...

Love Triangle.. how can I forget him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5409 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - my boyfriend he said he loves me and i love him but he now he does not and he love some one else what i can do now and i am still in love him?...

Please help me cope with this shame..

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5583 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - i have a great girlfriend, i love her to the point of dying, though i have done something stupid, as i sit here i wonder what all of you will think of this but i really use feed back as a way to cope with everything. so me, my girlfriend who i...

Is there any way to make the ex-factor go away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5582 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is still friends with his ex and I feel uncomfortable about it although I do trust that their relationship is platonic. They were schoolmates and 5 of them (4 guys including my bf plus her) were like really really good friends for a ...

Why is "No Contact" good for break ups?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5375 days ago

31 July 2009 (?) - Yeah I know I am smart and intelligent and mature enough for my age to know the answer to this but my heart is contradicting it. I have been 3 months apart from my ex, obviously, I still love him as this gives me the reason to write here. I ha...

What words do I use to not hurt her feelings, but to say that it's best that I move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5583 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - My ex asked me to write to her and I did, but now I regret it because I still have feelings for her, which I thought I was over and I had moved on in my life. She's been in a long term relationship and I've been alone for many years. I don't know ...

I want my ex back, but I don't know if he wants me. Should I wait and see if he calls?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5578 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I can't understand this. In the past with my ex I was always the one to go running back and get him to talk about what happened and it worked. But this time I am waiting on him. We had a great time the other night but it has been a few days and ...

Am I being unreasonable and does this guy deserve another chance?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5583 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Here's the story. Eight months ago, I met a guy online. We were instantly attracted to each other, met up and quickly fell in love. We met during the Christmas holidays, but I was working abroad at the time. I eventually had to go back to work, but ...

He did not reply to my last text and am now very worried, but I don't want to loose him...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5584 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - my three months boyfriend has started to make me wonder, i text him asking if there was a problem coz the last time we chatted he acted strange in the sense that usually he used to call me baby, honey , sweetheart and stuff like that but that last ...

How can I make my girlfriend fall in live with me again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - out relationship is just three months old and she is scared because she thinks i dont love her and i would dump her when i finished my schooling. i have tryed to make her to understand that i wouldnt leave her, but she just made up her mind on the ...

I'm giving him some space to figure out what he wants; do you think there's still some hope?

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31 July 2009 (F) - I really miss the guy that I was seeing. We saw each other for 2 months. Something was there- he saw something in me and I saw something in him. It seemed like I was the whole package in his eyes (after dating him, he would always talk to his ...

Relationship stuck in neutral!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5571 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years,and i feel like he is still in love with his ex.They were just going threw the divorce when we began dating but still he keeps their wedding photo in the drawer next to the bed,he's kept all their ...

I love him and want to be with him, but I'm tired of waiting around for him!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5576 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I just broke up with my ex bf a couple months ago because of a stupid argument. I wanted to talk things out a couple days later only to find out (from myspace) that he already got back with his ex-girlfriend 2 days after we broke up! We didnt talk ...

He cheated, how do I regain the trust needed to get over the betrayal?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - i neeeed soo much help... ive never asked for help but i need help... he recently cheated on me but realised he made the biggest mistake in his life and we have been tryna work things out ever since... the thing is i dont trust him and though i know ...

I just ended an abusive relationship. I'm scared of what my ex might do!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Hi everybody So I finally got the courage to leave my abusive (mix of verbal, physical and sexual) boyfriend this week. I ended up having to do it online because after talking with some friends they suggested doing it in person would be too dang...

My ex forced me to have sex with him! How do I get over this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Please help me.. Last april i had an abortion because i was only fifteen and my current boyfriend was allot older, i was scared he could of got done by the police so we both decided to have an abortion. It was really hard and i was very upset. ...

Do I ignore him and give him space?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - I have been seeing my boyfriend on and off since December 2007, it began as a long distance relationship but he moved nearer, to manchester which is about 25 miles from where I live to see me more often. However, this year the realtionship has hit ...

2 years without my ex and I still miss the relationship we had. Do I just need more time?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Even after 2 years without my ex, I'm struggling to forget my feelings for her. I'm desperate to move on, and after all this time, I suppose I'm still trying to believe I will find someone better. My ex was very attractive, and for the two years I ...

Why did my ex add me on Facebook when he has just got married?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - my ex fiance who i split with badly 6 years ago contacted me on facebook the other night requesting friendship. i thought this weird as ive only just got on there-we have no mutual friends so therefore confused to get this email. anyway ou...

Should I wait for my ex or move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - i and my ex boyfriend still loves each other but the distance is keeping us apart we are both currently dating but we want each other back... he therefore suggested that we should just wait for next year when the distance issue will be resolved ...

My ex wants to keep in touch with me, but I'm not sure if I'm doing the right thing?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - my ex lover came to her home town where she still has friends; i also live in the same town. she wanted to visit me while she was here, but i refused, telling her over the phone that i had moved on and i didn't feel comfortable about seeing her, ...

I ended our relationship because he is too close to his ex. Did I make the right decision?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend talks of his ex girlfriend's body or what happened between them, He call her and she calls him he says she is only a friend and a close friend I got angry and upset and I said to him I don’t want him to have any contact with her or t...

Why does he keep using delaying tactics to avoid paying what he owes me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5584 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My ex and I recently met. We had 2 "unfinished businesses" to finish. One got done but the other not. He owes me some cash. The meeting was 2 months after the break-up, he was all over me..crying and begging. Prior to that, he told me he'll pa...

Is he doing it to spite me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Why do exes ignore you and avoid you at all costs after they have said we can be mates? . .. My ex has recently got together with a chick it broke my heart knowing he's moved on but it hurts a lot more that he's out of my life ..after we broke up he ...

I think I still love my ex even though I'm married and haven't seen him for 6 years!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I've been married for three years and I do not enjoy sex with my husband. My ex-boyfriend (before I met my husband) was very good in bed and I think I still love him. I haven't seen him for 6 years no but still think about him. What should I do?...

My boyfriend is torn between two women!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of almost 6 months is still in love with his ex girlfriend. He says he loves us both and wants us both. I told him he has to decide who he wants to be with. He said he wants to be with both of us and he won't settle for less. I told ...

Is it wrong to break up with with ur BF for another guy??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I recently broke up with my BF for my EX is that wrong to break up with somebody for another guy?? ...

I don't want to push him but my life needs to move on also!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Well I am back.. Just had dinner with my ex again. His words and his actions have given me every indication he wants us to get back together he did his best at expressing himself which is hard for him. (Sometimes I feel that he never knew the ...

My ex asked my best friend out! Was he trying to make me jelious?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - please help on this one ok i had a bf then we ended it before school ended about a week after that he asked my best friend out and but it only lasted a week but he knew that i had feelings 4 him was he trying to make me jelious?...

We love each other but I feel hes afraid

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5585 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - When My ex-boyfriend - (who is very emotional in a quiet way) - gets upset he throws himself into extreme work at the office and at home. It is his way of protecting himself when he is upset. I have seen him 4 times in the past 3 weeks and we have ...

Why did she lie to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5585 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - I was dating a girl for a while and when we got together she told me she was single, now I come to find out that she would go back and forth between me and her ex boyfriend. We would be pissed about it but she tells me she wants to be with me and we ...

Messy breakup is leaving me out of pocket!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - I just got dumped badly from my girl after 11 years. I am 29. We purchased an appartment 2 years ago and the home loan is in both our names. Her parents gave us $60000 towards the place when we bought it. She now wants to sell and her lawyers sent ...

Why do angel boyfriends turn out to be monster exes?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Question to all males: My boyfriend always tells me that he has never met any female who has the kindest, most white heart he has known as me. (I am the only woman he seriously dated) I was always understanding to him, never calls him names, even ...

The thought of my ex with another guy is bringing me to tears!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - this is gonna sound dead weird but ive split from my ex girlfriend 4 weeks ago and normally i get over relationships in no time but with this one we agreed to be good friends and went out today together with a few others - durin this time she harped ...

How slow is too slow?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5585 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - My ex is giving me every indication that he wants to get back together even talking about why we split up...even to the point of saying people don't agree on everything. However he seems to be taking things very slowly. He is very emotional and ...

I still have feelings for my ex but I don't want to ruin things with his fiancee!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - im really confused at the moment. i have just got in contact with my ex and we have started talking. he has told me that he is engaged and is going to be a dad soon but that he still loves me. i still have the same feelings for him but i don't want ...

How do I make him stop playing with my heart?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - my bf and i broke up a few months ago becouse he wasnt giving his all and i was..plus i found text messages to other chicks in his phone....he denyed having sex with them but couldnt deny the fact he was doin wrong...so i broke up with him but ...

Am I being paranoid about my boyfriend's ex or am I right to be concerned?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5557 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - my boyfriend (ive been with for almost a year) almost constantly talks about his ex... who is for the record: by far prettier than me... and nicer... even tho i lost my v-card to him, and he lost his to me (for the record: i dont want a relationship ...

I never see my BF and now my ex is back on the scene

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5586 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I have no idea if anyone can help me but alright.. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost eight months. and i lived in rochester before i met him, then i moved to my dads, and then we started dating, but then like about 2 months or so i ...

Is my bf feeling guilty because he left his wife? Does he still love her?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5549 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I am in avery loving relationship with a wonderful man. He has three young girls (ages 8and 11,8 year old twins),whom I get along with very well.The only problem is the ex wife (thier mother),ho is very controlling ,vicious and jealous.She blames ...

Seeing the ex again, just brought back all of my feelings for him...any advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5586 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - We parted on my part bad terms(I felted he was dishonest to me and I think he couldn`t handle his feelings for me)I seen him for the first time in 5 months should I just leave will enough alone? I really liked him. I don`t think he will every get in ...

What are the sings that your boyfriend is interested in his ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5586 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - What are the sings that your boyfriend is interested in his ex? WHat are the signs that hes jealous that his ex might have a new boyfriend?...

2 years on and I still haven't told him I kissed my ex. Should I?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend 2 years nad love him dearly. When we were together 3 months I kissed my ex. It was a very brief kiss and I immediately knew it was a mistake. I didn't tell my boyfriend as I was petrified of losing him. He is amazing and ...

My ex's best friend is hitting on me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - So latest on my ex. I guess he is over me so im over him his friend who dated my friend (lets call her D).he had apologized for saying stuff about how my ex wants nothing to do with me. And said hes being an ass and than asked what i was doing for ...

I feel sad he has done this to rub my face in it

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - My recently married ex from 6 years ago contacted me to be a facebook friend. I thought it was just to clear the air from our messy breakup - instead i went on his profile and it was covered in wedding pictures and the picture had been updated just ...

I need tips on how to get over my ex!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I donno what to do anymore, its been almost 5 yrs since ive had strong feelings for this guy, we started out as friends first, then we dated a lil then broke up cus he cheated on me, then i forgave him, and broke up with him cus i didnt wanna get ...

Please help me choose between two men - my ex or my fiance?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5586 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Hi I am in a very tricky situation. I broke up with my boyfriend 6 months ago (who I had been engaged to). Soon after I met another guy. They are both very different which was great in helping me forget my ex to a degree. However I have s...

He left his ex and started dating me, then he left me to go back to his ex, now he wants me back - should I take him back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5562 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I am an avid reader of DearCupid, and for once, I actually have a question to pose. Ten months ago a person who was in my graduating class in High school contacted me. He had been a quiet boy that was the definition of an outsider. I have...

Why is he still in contact with his ex when she clearly is after him!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and i have been together for a year. His ex won't stop texting him. They had an on /off relationship for 2 years where she cheated on him a lot and eventually got pregnant by somebody else. They split up nearly 8 months before we met. ...

My ex wants to meet with me in the next few weeks but I'm not sure if I should or not. Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - Here is a run down of where I am at in life. I had this girlfriend for a little over 4 years. We broke up about 2 1/2 months ago. She stopped having sex with me 4 months ago. When she broke up with me she assured me everything would be fine, but ...