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writes:Even after 2 years without my ex, I'm struggling to forget my feelings for her. I'm desperate to move on, and after all this time, I suppose I'm still trying to believe I will find someone better. My ex was very attractive, and for the two years I knew her she was my best friend (despite the long distance that separated us)... now that I think about it that memory seems so distant, but it fills me with sadness knowing that our friendship was lost because I was too hurt to try and maintain it.After all this time, I can't even look at a picture of her without my old wounds opening up. I have not contacted her in nearly a year and a half, and I know it must stay that way.Do I just need more time? She was my first love, and they say you never forget your first love, but I can't get the idea out of my head that she was the best I'll ever find. Please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're probably right as usual. Some days are just harder than others I suppose. I know she wasn't really perfect, but the bad times are much easier to forget. I'm sure you know what I mean! I'll message you sometime
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (3 August 2009):
 Aww Sweetheart, I'm so sorry you are still suffering. Because you haven't contacted or seen her for so long perhaps she is becoming somebody more than human. You might be putting her on a pedestal and all her flaws are hazy all you see now if this perfect creature. No mere female is going to measure up to this goddess you've created. I know you have dated others but how can they possibly compete with perfection? I think it is very imperative for you to realize that it was just not MEANT to be, so in truth if you had forced the issue both YOU and your love would have ended up miserable with each other. I truly believe what happened, happened for the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou know me too well, eyeswideopen. Yes, it's me, I'm afraid.
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reader, SweetStu +, writes (30 July 2009):
 As someone that had a 'first love' I can relate to you.I suppose it doesn't totally go away until someone else comes along and with maturity as you discover more about yourself as you grow older.First love tends to be very pure and sweet, and when it's over it hurts the most - this is a new feeling for you and it does hurt very much indeed.Just get on with things you enjoy, spend time with friends, meet new people with similar interests."Time is the greatest healer" may sound hollow right now, but it's true. I know a friend that 6 years on that hasn't fully got over his first true love. Everybody's different.Things really will get better, but you need to move on for your own sake.Good luck with your journey. :o)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 July 2009):
Is this you Andrew?
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