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writes:I donno what to do anymore, its been almost 5 yrs since ive had strong feelings for this guy, we started out as friends first, then we dated a lil then broke up cus he cheated on me, then i forgave him, and broke up with him cus i didnt wanna get hurt again and didnt trust him anymore. ive tried moving on over the yrs, and for some reason i get jealous when hes with other girls cus i cant be with him and he doesnt wanna date me and would rather share his love with the whole world instead. Hes spoken to me like shit over the yrs,uses me for his own selfish purposes (which happend the other day after i unblocked him on msn to see how he was) and i still end up running back to him when ever i see him online or when he txts me. i know he doesnt love me, and most likely never will..but it hurts so much, why is it that i know he's no good but keep thinking theres some good inside of him somewhere, and why cant i let go. I feel guilty and horrible for breaking up with him when i did and dated another guy (who was a total waste in the end), he said we wouldve broken up either way cus he was getting bored, but i cant help caring about him so much. He's like a part of me i cant let go, and was the first guy ive ever had feelings for and trusted so much, but hes changed and is now a coldhearted laid back happy go luck manwhore/ womanizer...and i cant help but worry about him. Should i just leave him be, and please can you give me some tips to get over him. i'd really appreciate it. Thank you
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reader, blairyfairy +, writes (1 August 2009):
 U cant be friend with him ive been there. Because everytime hes nice. Says something bout when u were together. Or says he misses u. U will just take it as he still has feelings 4 you. And that will give u hope that maybe one day he will realise. U have to cut contact. Im in the exact same position. I love a man to death i can never have cos like yours he likes to spread his love. And comes back to me when hes fed up.cos he know whe had something amazing but hes not grown up enough to want a relationship. If he thinks your always there they play on it. And no u wont move on. Thats just what they want. While they do or go with who they want in the meantime! Its hard but no is the way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, i'll do my best, your advice really helped lift my spirit,I really appreciate it.
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (28 July 2009):
 Stop trying to get over him thats the first tip, hes apart of you, youll never forget him when you have a deep emotional connection with some one its like having learned to ride a bike you never forget, this guy made you happy at one time, so remember those times. use his flaws as guide of what to avoid in the future.
Your probably wondering what he saw in those other girls, why you weren't enough for him and other things. men rarely cheat because they dont care about the person there with in my opinion its alot of work to cheat, i would say men cheat because where naturally risk takers its like gambling or sports they like the adrenaline and excitement they get from it. plus ive heard that the sex is better with a new person if you've been with the same girl a while.
You need to accept your feelings for this man they are what they are stop trying to forget him it takes more effort to forget then to remember. if you can try and be friends with him as a freind you will learn things from a different perspective and you will gain more insight you may not have these feelings for him when you see him in a different light.
You can keep this guy in your life but move forward from him learn from this i would also suggest never becoming involved with him again romantically.
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