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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend talks of his ex girlfriend's body or what happened between them, He call her and she calls him he says she is only a friend and a close friend I got angry and upset and I said to him I don’t want him to have any contact with her or talk of her or do any think wit her, he said she is part of his life and I am part of him he loves me only and he will marry me.we had a big fight at then I decide to end our relationship and move on with my life. Have I done the wrong decision? What Should I do?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 July 2009):
 Only you can tell if you did the right thing.
To be honest demanding whom he can talk to and whom he can't seems a tad controlling. However if you do not trust him around her, better be honest about how you feel about the contact or it would lead to way too much drama.
I think the more you limit a partner, the more they want to test boundaries.
Don't forget that most people over 21 have had a past. There is luggage, skeletons and garbage. Some like to drag that around from relationship to relationship, others don't. What it comes down to is trust and respect.
I think for YOU it was the right decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): I would have done the same thing. Maybe some people are okay with someone being that close to their ex, but I'm not. I dated a guy for over two years and he was the same way. He had a key to his ex girlfriend's house. She would have him come over and take care of the place, take out trash, feed the dog, etc. when she would be out of town for the weekend. He also saw nothing wrong with stopping by her house to have dinner with her or watch a movie--and then sometimes he would be there half the night (supposedly he fell asleep on the couch). I put up with that for too long--I broke up with him over a year ago. I am much happier without him--now that I think back to all the things I put up with, I just can't believe that I stayed with him as long as I did. Good luck to you!! Just don't put up with things that make you uncomfortable or unhappy!!
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