A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My ex and I recently met. We had 2 "unfinished businesses" to finish. One got done but the other not. He owes me some cash.The meeting was 2 months after the break-up, he was all over me..crying and begging. Prior to that, he told me he'll pay me after two weeks which was actually 2 days ago.While with him, he asked me to spend the night with him and said we'd go directly to a hotel. For this, I refused him..thinking..he could afford to go to a 5 star hotel but can't pay me? Besides, I just saw him that day, I feel there is a possibility I will regret it if I accepted his request.Next night, I asked him if he wants me back and he said no. And he wanted me to leave him alone. I text terrorized him for 3 nights coz he still replies to my texts anyway. I gave up thinking he is not worth it. It was actually wise I didn't spend the night with him and I am happy for it. So I said goodbye.I waited for his payment 2 days ago but nothing came up so I reminded him nicely if he got his salary and I need the money. He replied to me coldy with "no".."i dont know". I said I need it to pay for my niece's school fees. He said he didnt have money. I didn't buy it. I told him I know he can pay me, he earns thrice as I do. Many many times, he's spend more than that at hotels with no problem at all.And he asked me if I would leave him alone if he pays me..if he is going to receive messages from me if he pays me...I said "you owe me this 9 months ago and I have told you about this many times. Pay me and you will never hear from me again. If you have paid a long time ago, I wouldn't be chasing you for this. It's you who's delaying it"And he repiled saying "I will pay you half next week and another half next month." From that I didn't reply until today.What should I do with this guy? If he doesn't want me back, then its fine. But why making me suffer like this?
View related questions:
money, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Myrtis +, writes (31 July 2009):
 Auntie Myrtis knows all about guys like this. So listen up:Hon, he doesn't want you anymore. Oh, he'll have sex with you if you'll let him. But letting him isn't going to make him fork over the money.You're like a gnat to him, always hovering around and pestering. The way to get to him is to grow up and be mature about this.There are two issues here.1) You want your money back.2) He doesn't want you back. Separate them in your mind and deal with them. Realize IT'S OVER WITH THIS JERK. If he cared about you in any way, he'd repay the money. Right now he's only using you. He probably laughs at you with his friends. Switch tactics. Stop texting all the time and send a registered letter to his house (one he has to sign for). Or to his workplace if you think that will embarrass him. Inform him in a dignified way that he will not be hearing from you again and that if he doesn't pay you what he owes, you will take legal action against him. No money for a lawyer? File the claim yourself. You can get the forms at the courthouse and take him to small claims court. That in itself will possibly scare him enough to make him pay. If it doesn't, you might be able to get a legal aid society to take on your case. Or if you have the gumption, make up a fake lawyer's name and letterhead on your computer, sign it with the fake name and send him a letter demanding your money. If none of the above works, don't you have some rough friends? Who hang out with wrestlers and wear spiked leather bracelets? They might like to make his acquaintance in a dark alley some night.Lots of luck, and in the future, don't lend money to anyone. Boyfriends almost always don't pay you back and they lose respect for you 'case you're way too easy.
|
