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*eganev1067
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years,and i feel like he is still in love with his ex.They were just going threw the divorce when we began dating but still he keeps their wedding photo in the drawer next to the bed,he's kept all their letters between each other and wont get rid of the stuff!They dated a year before getting married and having a baby.I feel like im not as good as her, because we live life like were married but yet were not!Im so reasy to move to the next step, im having baby fever and i wanna marry him,NOW..i dont wanna rush him but i do wanna get the ball moving.And he never talks about the future so how do i express how i feel without scaring him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): Whether he still loves his ex or not you do have to realise that if he was married to her and had a baby with her then there is always going to be a part of him that loves her and thats normal so dont stress about the photo in the drawer. She was a part of his life and although you may want him to burn the letters/photos, maybe suggest that he lock them up in a toolbox or something and keep it out of sight in the bottom of a box full of stuff... or whatever. Atleast that way he's still got his memories and you wont feel like he's holding on to her, reading her letters etc. If you are between 18 and 21... whats the rush to get married etc? You're still young and have plenty of time. Plus unless you've been married, have had a baby and been divorced I doubt you'd understand why he'd be reluctant to jump into something so fast again. He made that mistake once, so be patient and be grateful that he's taking things slow with you, maybe he wants to get it right this time... and that can only be a good thing right? Don't push him and don't bring up the topic of marriage... maybe ask him where he thinks the relationship is heading? Its not pushing him at all, but it implies that you want more... which is what you want yes? Best of luck.
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