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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:HiI am in a very tricky situation. I broke up with my boyfriend 6 months ago (who I had been engaged to). Soon after I met another guy. They are both very different which was great in helping me forget my ex to a degree. However I have stayed in contact with my ex as we were best friends for 3 years and its hard to wipe someone from your life when we get on so well. I think this has stopped me from falling completely in love with my new b/f. Anyway my new bf has asked me to marry him which I am very happy about. However, I still do love my ex too. He is a very kind and a lovely guy (though can be a bit dull/stuck in routine which is part of reason why we broke up), while new boyfriend is much more open for new experiences and good conversationalist (though pron to being moody and stubborn). I realise I should ask current bf if we could wait a while. However, both he and I want to start a family as we are both in our late 30s. Ex bf has also said he still loves me and wants to do that with me too! While I have not asked him to he is trying to broaden his horizens by trying new things etc..Which feelings should I prioritize, (kindness and consideration v fun and intelligent conversation) I never thought it would be possible to be in love with 2 guys at the same time. But I know I need to make a decision and let the other one go (and probably have no contact again with them!) If you can offer any advice I would appreciate it.
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reader, boo22 +, writes (28 July 2009):
 Neither of them. Seriously though, if you want to have a family go for kindness and consideration every time. You'll have to find ways to cope with the boredom aspect.
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