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*odkablue
writes:My recently married ex from 6 years ago contacted me to be a facebook friend. I thought it was just to clear the air from our messy breakup - instead i went on his profile and it was covered in wedding pictures and the picture had been updated just after i accepted the friendship. i feel a fool he just wanted to rub my face in that hes happy now which is fine but i dont understand why he had to do that.now today a friend of his-who ive never liked because shes very bitchy and gossipy and used to work with us when we were together has decided she wants to be my facebook friend too.im feeling a bit foolish after this i didnt think he would do that after so long any advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): And why would you be the one to feel foolish? You didn't do anything accept hit a button and accept the friend request, big deal, you can always "unfriend him", so there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Well, you know him and his character better than I do, but are you sure he had and evil motivation by contacting you on facebook? Gosh it has been six years and that is an awful long time to hold a torch for someone to want to get back at them....that would mean that he still cares for you and has some pretty strong feelings left for you, otherwise if he did not care like that he would be "indifferent".
Perhaps he thought you would be indifferent to his news and just wanted to update you. That is the problem with those social network sites, they are so superficial and you never know what someone is really looking for, it is all kind of stupid if you ask me. It seems to be a part of our lives however and has replaced more personal forms of communication that to me show more respect.
It is a sign of the times and I wouldn't take it so personally. I don't think he really wanted to hurt you, do you? Why would he?
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reader, vodkablue +, writes (28 July 2009):
vodkablue is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey sweetie thanks for answering.
im actually quite distraught by this-its almost like hes got in contact with me and did that and now has said to the bitchy girl to contact me maybe to see if i talk about him
its almost not like the same guy i was with.
thanks for answering though x
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reader, boo22 +, writes (28 July 2009):
 You should rest assured today knowing you did the right thing spliting up with this tragic individual. He's someone else's problem now.. yippee! Do a little dance if you feel like it. What a loser he sounds like.
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