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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Please help me.. Last april i had an abortion because i was only fifteen and my current boyfriend was allot older, i was scared he could of got done by the police so we both decided to have an abortion. It was really hard and i was very upset. Last august my ex boyfriend couldnt take no for an answer and actually forced me to have sex with him! When i get upset i start thinking of these things and they dont go away. Like the other night i had a big argument with my current boyfriend and i was crying and this was all i could think about. Its really getting me down cos when im not arguing with my boyfriend or upset for any other reason i am really happy and full of life its just whenever i get upset i cant stop thinking about it, its not just while i am upset after me and my boyfriend had sorted our argument and a few days later i still felt like this. I'm really close with my boyfriend and he knows all about my ex and how it gets me down, my best friend also knows about it all and i can talk to both of them easily so its not that i am bottleling it up. Please help me? x
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 July 2009):
 I think you need to try and find a rape hot line, website support group and maybe even get some counseling.
Even if he WAS your boyfriend it is still rape. Besides, having an abortion is a HUGE emotional event in any woman's life, you were only 15, so even if you don't think of it much it might still have had some rather traumatizing effects on you. You need to find someone who you can talk too and who can help you.
PS I'm glad you have friends you can talk to about all this, but in this case I would suggest you find someone "grown up" who can not only support you but can help you move past this and grow from it.
*hugs*
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): Report him. Don't be afraid--if he gave a crap about you and not controlling you, then he would not have raped you [use the right term, if he forced himself on you, its rape].
Stand up for yourself.
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