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writes:I just broke up with my ex bf a couple months ago because of a stupid argument. I wanted to talk things out a couple days later only to find out (from myspace) that he already got back with his ex-girlfriend 2 days after we broke up! We didnt talk for a month, but now we talk all the time. However, I am still very much in love with him and the hurt is still there. I try to move on, but every time I am close to starting a relationship with someone he gets really distant and quiet and tells me that he doesnt want to lose me. He also contiuiously tells me that he is still in love with me and how much he misses me, but he is still with his (what used to be ex)gf. I am so confused, I dont know what to do. I love him and I want to be with him, but I am tired of waiting around for him. He is my best friend, which makes this even worse. Im tired of feeling hurt and confused, but I dont want to lose my Best Friend. What should I do? Is it possible for our friendship to EVER get back to normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo, I currently decided that the only way I was going to get over him was to move on. I talked to him about it, and told him that I was still there for him even though he was with his ex, so he should still be there for me even if I choose to move on. We had a long talk, and are currently still good friends. I did move on, and im now dating a guy that I met at work. He is a really good guy, and im happy I decided to just let the past be the past, and move on with my life. =) Thanks for all your help!
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (31 July 2009):
 So stop waiting around for him. He has shown you exactly how he feels about you by running back to his ex-girlfriend and staying with her instead of working it out with you. All the sweet words mean nothing if he's not following it up with actions.
Don't let his jealously ruin your chances of moving on. When his words match his actions, you can be together. Until then, he is all talk and you should go out and date other people. He'll just have to deal with it. If he can't handle being your friend and not getting that ego boost of having you @ home pining for him, too bad for him.
Good luck.
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reader, hopkinstara411 +, writes (31 July 2009):
 honey i have been through this belive the ex has been around the whole time. A guy who really cares wont leave he would want to work things out. That says u cant trust him its not good to not have trust. Also myspace is the worst place in the world to be on it starts alot of crap between couples i say move on and let it be. U will eventually find an honest guy who cares about u.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): babe, the same happened to me and the key is to act like you've moved on. IT WORKS! you'll see how he comes back. Yes, the friendship will never be the same, but at least he'll understand he can't have both of you. Guys like it rough. Just don't argue with him, show him your happiness doesn't depend on him, you may be dying inside, stay madly in love with him, just DON'T SHOW IT TO HIM.
hope i helped
don't worry, be happy!
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reader, chibi vampire +, writes (31 July 2009):
 that's a big problem, things could never go back to normal unless ur feeling's go away, am sorry but u have to let him go. that way ur mind could be at peace, because if is not u will always get hurt and end up with the same thing over and over, and guess what either he stay with u or her is that simple. don't hurt urself cause he's being unfair to u.
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