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Archived questions from: October, 2016 (see latest in Sex category)

Sex: Help and advice

Husband took advantage of my drunken state

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2934 days ago

31 October 2016 (F) - I'm not really sure what to do. Two nights ago, my husband and I went to a party. I drank, he did not. I drank a little too much and was barely functioning. We came home and had sex. He went soft so I rolled over and passed out. Next thing I know, ...

I think he's selfish for taking viagra!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2946 days ago

31 October 2016 (F) - I just found out my husband has been taking Viagra. He's 63 I'm 57. What makes me upset is that he should have talked to me about it, and I have not wanted sex for years. Been together 32 years and we've been having sex twice a week for last few ...

High heels during sex...yay or nay?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2949 days ago

31 October 2016 (M) - This question is for you women out there. I really want to know if high heels are a sexual turn on for you girls or not? I love them and I want my wife to wear them every time during sex. But she doesn't!! It's the single most sexual turn on for me. ...

How do I become dominant for this guy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

29 October 2016 (M) - I am mid twenties and I have always shied away from topping due to problems with premature ejaculation. I have also never really felt truly comfortable with sex because I used to be very overweight and have never felt sexy. So mostly I bottom and ...

First time sex wasn't good for my g/f and I want to help next time be better

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

28 October 2016 (M) - My gf and I attempted sex for the first time… and it was a little rockier a process than we had initially anticipated! When i tried to go in, it wouldn’t go in past the tip. In addition my gf was not getting to feel it that much. I felt really ...

Does anyone know the signs of a porn addict?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

27 October 2016 (F) - Does anyone know the signs (no matter how subtle) of a porn addict as im trying to end a relationship as my mans totally given up having sex with me been saying he has no sex drive..the signs so far i have seen..a password has popped up on his ...

I put a profile on a website and my boyfriend wanted to meet! I'm devastated

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2953 days ago

27 October 2016 (M) - Hi, Really need some advice and help, feel as if my heart is being ripped to spreads. I'm a trucker and met a wonderful gay guy 'T' 6 months ago, his into fantasy and hi viz' etc, I wasn't but went with the flow, trying to please, and get ...

How do you get over someone who is sexually gratifying and stunning?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2950 days ago

27 October 2016 (F) - I was dating a guy but know now he's not right for me. I ended it with him. He's dating other women, not exclusive though. I liked him and he was the first guy I had sex multiple times with. However, I just know deep down he's not for me because ...

How should I deal with my wife's kinky up and down thoughts? ?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2946 days ago

26 October 2016 (M) - Hello everyone, Thanks for taking the time to read this and offer advice if able. My question is how do I deal with my wife's constant changing thoughts on sex and her naughty behavior. For some backstory, we're both mid 30's, been mar...

Should I hang in there in this relationship? Or just express my feelings and move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

25 October 2016 (F) - Sooooo it seems my estranged bf and I are done done. Short backstory, we've been friends for 10 years, we dated for 3 1/2 and last year I broke up with him. I was frustrated with our development, i didn't feel supported with help with bills and the ...

Boyfriend made hurtful comment about my weight, sex isn't good.How do I tell him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

25 October 2016 (F) - I need a bit of guidance. I want to start by saying I'm absolutely in love with my boyfriend of almost three years. He's also been my best friend long before we ever dated. It's like a fairytale right? Not exactly. Our sex life is horrible. It...

Boyfriend won't have sex with me but jacks off to porn

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

25 October 2016 (F) - Me and my boyfriend havent slept together for months due to his depression and no sex drive and its really starting to get me down as i know hes making time to masterbate to porn...we did try to have sex a few weeks ago but he didn't look happy to ...

I cant seem to make my partner understand that sex is good for me and I'm worried he's stressing out over it!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2953 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - So ill make this as quick as possible (sorry if it's a bit crude) I have a really good relationship with my partner of 8 years one thing when we have sex he finishes after about 3-5 minutes unless he's had a drink. For me it's not a problem there'...

What would be your summation of what makes a guy so sexy? Is that impossible to define? Or could you say it is just a feeling you get inside?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

23 October 2016 (M) - Is there such a thing as a guy who you've just met or seen, who doesn't look like some kind of a model, and who makes you feel, "This guy is SEX! (gaaah, droool)...? What would be your description of what makes him so sexy, or is it impossible to...

I was completely averse to sex in my previous relationship and though I'm better now, I still have negative feelings attached to it. Any words of advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2953 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - I was with my ex for 5.5 years roughly. About 3 years in, I lost my sex drive. It had a lot to do with being on the pill but we also started having problems which didn't help. For the last year of our relationship, I hated sex, truly hated it, ...

Why would a guy keep his GF around if he had lost all sexual desire for her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

22 October 2016 (F) - Can anyone especially men please give me some advice..I'll try+keep it brief... Basically would a man keep their girlfriend around in a serious relationship if they had lost all sexual attraction for their partner?... The reason why i ask is I'v...

Bad time, not interested or wasting my time

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

22 October 2016 (F) - Hi all need your urgent help and opinions. I April I a guy was introduced to me at my aunties birthday. he has worked with her in the past and was around my age. he seemed nice. I text him to say thank you for coming as is normal in my fami...

I'm uncertain about who to date and don't know if I should wait

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2953 days ago

22 October 2016 (F) - I went on a few dates with this guy back in August. Due to him working offshore and then medical reasons, we haven't been able to get another one. He's working right now and he tries to message me every day. I do like him but lately it's been hard ...

My girlfriend hooked up with my cousin years ago

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2958 days ago

21 October 2016 (M) - My girlfriend and I've been dating for a few months, I'm bothered that I have sex with the same girl my cousin had. I know everyone has a past but he's my family member, it's weird! She told me she had sex with him years ago in college. My cous...

Amazing connection vs. mind blowing sex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2958 days ago

21 October 2016 (M) - So, does one choose an amazing emotional connection with good sex and potential for a long term relationship? Or does one choose the best sex he's ever had in his entire life with no emotional connection? But absolutely mind blowing sex! I've foun...

My friend shares too much detail about her dates and sex life, then gets annoyed when I flirt with other girls in her presence. Why would she act this way?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2956 days ago

21 October 2016 (M) - A friend of mine, not the closest of my friends, but a friend nonetheless, is bothered when these girls I know flirt with me and when I flirt back. I don't do it in front of her or anything, and I don't go looking to do it either. This girl is c...

How do you turn foreplay into sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2959 days ago

21 October 2016 (F) - My bf and I are going to have sex and wanna make sure it goes smoothly .what all happens in foreplay? How long does it last how do you turn foreplay into sex??...

Why does my husband use a sex toy rather than be with me and then lie about having a toy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

21 October 2016 (F) - My husband has always claimed that he doesn't/can't masturbate because he knows it's his own hand. (No, I don't seriously believe this) A couple of years ago, I found a pocket pussy hidden in his sock drawer. I asked him about it and he said he ...

If I get back together with my ex, should I tell him about the people I have slept with while we were broken up?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2957 days ago

19 October 2016 (F) - Hi there! So I was in a 4 and a half year relationship with an amazing guy. We broke up due to living in different places, arguing when we saw each other, and as I was in my final year at University, had way too much going on for all the arguing....

We haven't been properly intimate in four months. What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2960 days ago

19 October 2016 (F) - Having a huge problem with my boyfriend of 2 years in that we havent been properly intimate for 4 months..It used to be a big part of our relationship and now its nothing and its left me feeling ugly and very insecure!his reasons for not been ...

How do I tell him that I'm a virgin?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2960 days ago

19 October 2016 (F) - How do I tell him I'm a virgin?... It sounds stupid but we have been talking for a while. And our conversations via texts get heated a lot and we "sext" pretty much. I don't recall him ever asking me about previous partners so I think he ...

Where to now? Is my married loved a narcissist? I feel I can no longer trust him

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2956 days ago

18 October 2016 (M) - I had a year long affair with a married man. I am his tennant in the house that he rents out. He left his wife just before Christmas and came to live with me and my kids in the house. During our affair we had a secret bank accounts, and phone nu...

She'd rather masturbate than have sex with me. Is there a way to resolve this problem?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2961 days ago

18 October 2016 (M) - A few months ago I bought house and decided to take the leap and move in with my girlfriend. Other than a few kinks things have been good but recently I've found out that she's been masterbsting on a regular basis instead of having sex with me....

My girlfriend says she's bored of sex and I'm fantasizing about other women. We're doomed, right?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2959 days ago

18 October 2016 (M) - Mf gf said she is bored of sex yet I am the only one trying to be kinky or sexy in bed. It's doing my head in. Maybe I should be honest with her and tell her Ive been fantasizing about other women because you arent doing anything anymore. I have ...

Afraid family will learn I'm on the pill

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2963 days ago

17 October 2016 (F) - Sorta to do with dating. I've been talking to this guy and things are looking up :) I've always told myself that I should go on the pill as another contraceptive (as well as using condoms). However, I don't really want my parent finding ou...

How long can a relationship survive without sex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2961 days ago

16 October 2016 (M) - My Fiance and I have ended up at each others throats recently and it's getting too much for us both. We're both in our Mid twenties, and have been together now for almost 6 years, but to simply put it, she no longer wants sex. She doesn't get arou...

How could he have issues with my weight and yet have such mind blowing sex with me?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

16 October 2016 (F) - I'm looking for some perspective on a recent situation I experienced that has left me a bit confused. I dated a guy for about 5-6 months. During the entire relationship, we got alone EXCEEDINGLY well. I have never dated anyone as attentive or ten...

Demands sex but computer gets first call

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2961 days ago

16 October 2016 (F) - Hello! My husband and I have been in a disagreement lately. he plays games on his computer all evening and then waits until after 10pm when I want to go to sleep to come to bed and ask for sex. I have told him multiple times that if he would come to ...

I'm bi-curious and want to experiment with my friend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2963 days ago

15 October 2016 (M) - straight, with some bi-curious. I want to experiment with my best friend, but I don't know how to approach it, like how he will handle it. I think he is curious as well, but I don't know. I don't want to ask him, and have him say no, but I want to ...

What do younger guys see in older women?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

15 October 2016 (F) - Older woman, younger man... I am in my mid 40s. I met this guy 3 years ago when i was travelling in South East Asia. We flirted during one tour, and ended up having sex in his hotel later that day. He was really sweet and caring in bed, and then was...

Is he living out a porn fantasy?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2963 days ago

15 October 2016 (F) - I'm recently divorced. My ex-husband was my first and only partner until now. Our sex life was always kind of vanilla to tell the truth and his sexual drive was never equal to mine. Anyway, I'm dating a younger man (he's 27). We just started having ...

I can't approach him andask if he wants me as bad as I want him...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2963 days ago

15 October 2016 (F) - Hi agony aunts. I feel like I'm getting mixed signals from this guy and i dont know what to think or do. I'll list the things he does just to make it clearer: -always really flirtatious, compliments me etc -genuinely laughs when we talk, like not o...

Am I wrong for feeling that I'm not getting enough sex? I am frequently jealous of people who have sex

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2966 days ago

13 October 2016 (F) - I lost my virginity at 22 and have been a late bloomer but enjoy sex a lot. I am very selective too. But I feel like I am not getting enough sex? I am picky and have had few relationships, just a few lovers but that fizzled out because we weren...

Why do older women like me so much?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2965 days ago

12 October 2016 (M) - It's flattering, I have no problem being with an older woman if I like her, but they are unavailable. A woman I've known for a few years now, Caucasian, 36 years old, and she has had the same boyfriend since before we even met. She's always bee...

27 and still looking for the guy who wont pressure me for sex!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2965 days ago

12 October 2016 (F) - Hi. I just ended a year long relationship with someone. One of the main issues was that we have different points of views on sex. He told me that it is very strange for someone my age (mid to late 20s) to be a virgin. I know that is true, but is it ...

Being strung by my best friend... who has a girlfriend

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2965 days ago

12 October 2016 (F) - Hello DearCupid :) I'm struggling with being strung by my best friend. He has a very attractive girlfriend. They have been together for almost 10 years now and I have always respected him for it. He was never an option for me until we screwe...

My girlfriend thinks we should find other people because I last way too long in bed and she takes a minute to orgasm and then gets bored

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2968 days ago

11 October 2016 (M) - My girlfriend says she thinks we should find other people because I last way too long in bed and she takes a minute to "O" and then gets bored and wants me to just get it over with. We do foreplay and I am trying to teach her how to satisfy my wi...

Is it wrong to use a prostitute to gain experience?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 2957 days ago

11 October 2016 (M) - I am a male virgin who has never kissed a girl or been on a date. I've made up my mind recently on how I will be losing my virginity. I am currently saving up money to visit one of the legal brothels in Nevada. I feel like at my age, being a kis...

I'm married no sex with wife but am meeting men behind her back

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2968 days ago

10 October 2016 (M) - I am a married man, 2 kids and have over the last year not had sex with my wife. Instead I have joined a dating agency, gay sex site really and had numerous encounters, which I have fully enjoyed, Truth be told I feel more comfortable with mal...

I love him but I hate him. Where do I go from here? Its officially over but I still have feelings

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2967 days ago

10 October 2016 (F) - I don't know where to start but Ive lost so much over the past year and the losses still keep coming. I'm 38, two sons (18 and 15) and divorced for a little over a year. My sons are great...my oldest is a freshman in college out of state and my ...

How can I save myself? This man is like a bad drug

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2969 days ago

10 October 2016 (F) - Hi All, I was with a man who thinks sex can be separated from love. After several months of dramas, i knew he's not someone i can have a future together with. He often messaged me after i left and i ignored him. One day he texted if i wouldn'...

I'm dating a girl but slept with another girl. Should I feel guilty?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2967 days ago

10 October 2016 (M) - I've recently been dating this girl and things have gone well we've gone out about four times and we kissed for the first time yesterday. After she went I was going on a night out with my friends and friends of theirs. long story short I slept wi...

How do you end a FWB relationship with someone that you don't want to hurt?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2970 days ago

9 October 2016 (F) - I need help telling my long friend with benefits that I don't want the benefits. Backstory, we've been friends for 10 years, we dated for 3, I broke up with them last year but we remained roommates and it transformed into FWB. I have had my bout...

I am sure my boyfriend is battling depression. How do I help someone that doesn't want to be helped?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2970 days ago

8 October 2016 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years now and have only recently come to the conclusion that there is a high possibility that he is dealing with depression. Since December 2015, I have noticed a serious decline in per...

Man tries to have sex with you very soon--was he never looking for a relationship in the first place?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2967 days ago

7 October 2016 (F) - I made a Tinder thinking I would find a serious relationship with a guy and had no idea that it was primarily for hook ups. I met a guy and we went on a few dates together. By the 2nd date, he was already trying to get me to come over his place to...