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writes:Sorta to do with dating. I've been talking to this guy and things are looking up :) I've always told myself that I should go on the pill as another contraceptive (as well as using condoms). However, I don't really want my parent finding outI still stay at home as places to rent are pretty expensive.... And I know my mother will find out about it if I was to go on the pill..What do I do? I find this awkward to discuss with my parents... It's just who I am.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2016): "What do I do?"
Consider the alternative. Would you rather have your mother find out that you're pregnant with a child you can't afford?
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (17 October 2016):
You are wise to go on the pill and you are making the right decision. 2 forms of contraception is the safest way to protect yourself from unwanted pregnancy and STIs. Is there somewhere safe that you can keep the pills at home? A safe box, an unused suitcase with a padlock where only you keep the keys, inside a pair of shoes in the wardrobe etc? As you already know, a packet of pills is safer to hide than an unwanted pregnancy or embarrassing symptoms of a STI. The GP visit will be totally confidential, rest assured about that. I have been in your situation and once you find a place to hide the pills, you are sorted.
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reader, jls022 +, writes (17 October 2016):
I had to go on the pill at 17 due to heavy and painful periods so there are other reasons you can go on the pill. My sister used this to her advantage when she was 18 as she told my parents she was going on it for the same reason when it was really because she was going to begin a sexual relationship with her boyfriend. I'm sure my parents knew the real reason, but my family is the sort that everyone is quite happy accepting the 'official' explanation rather than facing an awkward conversation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2016): Get an implant, get the 3 monthly injecion or have a coil inserted. There are loads of options other than the pill to try that mean you need no tablets stored at home.Have a look on the NHS contraception page (just google it) and you can read up on them all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2016): It's worth pointing out that there are other forms of contraception not just the pill. I have an implant in my arm that lasts for 3 years.
All contraceptive services in the UK are free and confidential so your mum will only find out if you tell her.
Make an appointment with your GP and talk it through with them. It's always better to be safe rather than sorry.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 October 2016):
 There's actually nothing to " discuss " in lengthy details.
Even if your mother were against your having a sex life , for whatever reason, I doubt that she is still under the impression she can in practice prevent you from having one, considering that you are over 18. In fact, if any, she should be relieved that , if she has to deal with the unpleasant ( for her ) reality that her daughter is a sexually active adult, at least she won't have to deal with the much MORE unpleasant reality that her daughter is a young girl going through an unwanted and unplanned pregnancy !
If she asks questions, or make comments, - this can be awkward , I imagine , but trust me, you'd find it MUCH more awkward to tell her that you got yourself knocked up at 18-21 , with no way to support a child, and still living under your parents ' roof.
Anyway, if yoi don't want to tell her you are on the pill, I am curious to know how would she find out. Does she searches your handbags periodically ? Don't you have any drawer that you can lock ?...
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