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writes:This question is for you women out there. I really want to know if high heels are a sexual turn on for you girls or not? I love them and I want my wife to wear them every time during sex. But she doesn't!! It's the single most sexual turn on for me. I feel frustrated at times! Do you girls actually feel the need to wear sexy shoes during sex? Don't they make you wet? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (1 November 2016):
 Depends. For a bit of sexy visual fun every now and then, ok but not each and every time. That would drive me crazy. Crazy bad, not crazy good
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2016): I like dressing up in heels/stockings/undies but it is for my boyfriend not for me. Yeah it does make me feel sexy and confident , but after a while heels just get in the way. Especially if you catch the guy's nutsack on the end of the stiletto.....lol
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (1 November 2016):
 Why don't you put the high heels on and see how sexy you feel. If your wife doesn't want to wear high heels, then guess what, she doesn't want to wear high heels and you just have to suck it up.
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reader, jls022  +, writes (1 November 2016):
Nay, nay, nay! I mean I'd be willing to do it now and again for my partner if he asked but it wouldn't do anything for me and I certainly wouldn't be happy if he expected/needed it every time to enjoy sex. It's supposed to be HER you desire, not the heels!
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reader, mystiquek  +, writes (31 October 2016):
 I used to wear high heels every day, we're talking 5" or higher because I'm a little gal. They are meant to elong the leg and yes look sexy. What most men don't know is how much they HURT and can cause damage to the muscles in the leg, the toes, ect...I would wear them and as soon as I got to work and was at my desk, kick them off under my desk. If I had to stand for long periods of time, I couldn't wait till I could go sit down and take them off. The minute I got home, that was the first thing that was taken off.
To answer your question, no they certainly don't excite me and I would never consider wearing them in the bedroom because a man thought they were sexy. Try wearing a 5" pair of stilettos for 8 hours and then come home and someone wants you to keep wearing them....you wouldn't do it either.
Your wife doesn't want to wear them..so don't expect her to. It sounds like you have a shoe fetish..she doesn't. Think of something creative as one of the other aunts suggested maybe a role play to see if your wife will go along? I'd certainly go for a nice foot massage if I wore high heels..maybe she'd do it for something like that.
Men find high heels sexy...the majority of women find high heels painful.
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reader, N91 +, writes (31 October 2016):
 If she doesn't want to do it then respect your wife's wishes. Just because you're married to her doesn't mean she has to do everything you ask.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 October 2016):
 Nope, not wearing shoes for sex. They don't make me wet. Not interested. There was a time I wore CFM shoes all the time. But they came off in the bedroom.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 October 2016):
 Do you girls actually feel the need to wear sexy shoes during sex?
No. Sexy shoes or an "outfit" is for the "foreplay" or before... the "foreplay", it's NOT AT ALL practical during sex. (for the most part).
And here is the thing OP... YOUR wife doesn't WANT to wear them.
How would you feel if you wife got HUGELY turned on by YOU wearing a clown outfit? Would you wear it every time you had sexy-time? Probably not, so why do you presume that SHE should fulfill YOUR kink? If she isn't big on high heels any part of her life - why would you presume that she wants them on during sex?
My advice, if she doesn't LIKE to wear them during sex, but you find them VERY sexy... give her a massage that includes a foot massage where you PUT on the shoes for a little bit (to please YOUR kink) and then you take them OFF her feet before taking her to the bedroom or where ever the sex is going down.
OR even better OP... get a pair of high heels YOU can fit. See how impractical they are during sex. Maybe you NEED to try that perspective. My bet is you won't.....
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